crush on a girl with SAD

[miserylovescompany]

there is this one girl at school that i like who has social anxiety. i would go to the computer lab on inbetween 1st and 2nd period to maybe 3rd sometimes. i had noticed that before i started talking to her that i would always see her sneaking looks at me in the corner of my eye and would quickly look away when i would look up or she would look down. one day i decided to talk to her during lunch, im a bit shy myself so it was pretty hard. we have now been talking for a month or two almost every day at school. the first couple of times we talked she would almost never make eye contact but now she makes eye contact all the time. whenever im talking to her she pay attention as if im really interesting or something. also whenever i go up and talk to her it seems as if she gets in a really good mood. now during third period i notice her constantly starring at me and when i look up at her she would keep eye contact we would sort so smile at each other and look away. the last day of school before the break i asked her what her number was so maybe we could text over the break. i had even said to her "you look good today" as a complement. she gave me it but she said she doesn't like texting much. she responded once by saying "fine thanks" when i asked her how she was one day. but that was it for replies. a week after talking to her i had asked her if she wanted to go to the movies sometime but she said she was busy all week. i had then asked her if she likes me, she hesitated and said no but with a big grin on her face. what im wondering is that maybe i had asked her if she liked me a bit too early when meeting her. she didnt start doing all that eyecontact and stuff till after i asked her if she liked me. from what ive heard some shy people wont admit that they like someone unless they know that that person likes them back. she only has one other friend and me, her, and her friend all went to public school together. should i just become her friend or something for now so she will get to know me better and trust me? ive heard that she has some trust issues because of a few personal things that happened to her and her family. but she had given me her mobile number so is that a sign of trust or something? with all of these signs does that mean that she likes me?

 

[alejandro84]

there is this one girl at school that i like who has social anxiety. i would go to the computer lab on inbetween 1st and 2nd period to maybe 3rd sometimes. i had noticed that before i started talking to her that i would always see her sneaking looks at me in the corner of my eye and would quickly look away when i would look up or she would look down. one day i decided to talk to her during lunch, im a bit shy myself so it was pretty hard. we have now been talking for a month or two almost every day at school. the first couple of times we talked she would almost never make eye contact but now she makes eye contact all the time. whenever im talking to her she pay attention as if im really interesting or something. also whenever i go up and talk to her it seems as if she gets in a really good mood. now during third period i notice her constantly starring at me and when i look up at her she would keep eye contact we would sort so smile at each other and look away. the last day of school before the break i asked her what her number was so maybe we could text over the break. i had even said to her "you look good today" as a complement. she gave me it but she said she doesn't like texting much. she responded once by saying "fine thanks" when i asked her how she was one day. but that was it for replies. a week after talking to her i had asked her if she wanted to go to the movies sometime but she said she was busy all week. i had then asked her if she likes me, she hesitated and said no but with a big grin on her face. what im wondering is that maybe i had asked her if she liked me a bit too early when meeting her. she didnt start doing all that eyecontact and stuff till after i asked her if she liked me. from what ive heard some shy people wont admit that they like someone unless they know that that person likes them back. she only has one other friend and me, her, and her friend all went to public school together. should i just become her friend or something for now so she will get to know me better and trust me? ive heard that she has some trust issues because of a few personal things that happened to her and her family. but she had given me her mobile number so is that a sign of trust or something? with all of these signs does that mean that she likes me?

its one of a couple of things shes either too shy to admit that she likes you or shes messing you about so i would ignore her for a bit start focussing on other things, try not to worry about it.

 

[Phoenixx]

It kinda sounds like she's too shy to admit that she likes you. It reminds me of myself a couple years ago. I had a guy friend who was really nice and we were always together. He was an awesome friend and he started to develop a huge crush on me, just as I did with him. He would flirt with me quite a bit, but I always took it as a joke as I was too afraid to flirt back. He asked me out once and I said "No, I just want to be friends." As much as that hurt to say it, I just couldn't bring myself to be close to him. I was too afraid. We're not friends anymore now unfortunately. He now has an awesome girlfriend (I'm still happy for him and I do talk to his girlfriend sometimes. We get along quite well), but he has pretty much left me in the past. :/ Sometimes I wonder how different things would be if I did say yes, or whether they would just be the same as they are now.

Anyway, sorry about the rant. The point is, I think she does like you, she's just too afraid to express it. Try not to focus on it too much, just casually hang out with her and try not to ask questions too soon. Give her a chance to warm up and feel a bit more comfortable being around you.

 

[Luke1993]

Welcome to the forums sir! How did you start conversation with her out of interest? She gave you her number so I'm sure she trusts you. No way I can tell if she likes you in a relationship way. I'll say become her friend for now!

 

[miserylovescompany]

how do you become friends. how do you move on from talking a bit everyday to actually becoming friends? im not that experienced with making friends. maybe me, her and her friends could hang out next semester. but how do i become friends with them and let me hang out with them?

 

[3lefts]

First off, don't ignore her. Ignoring builds distance with shy people doesn't it.
The most important thing is building her confidence in feeling comfortable around you. I think she likes you, but anything can change the situation so keep everything at a good pace and try talking to her more often, maybe when she is with her friends to see how it feels. Don't push it, but don't ignore it. Be comfortable.

 

[joyce]

Two ways you can go take a risk and try to become her friend or play it safe and move on

 

[miserylovescompany]

she doesnt seem like the type of girl who would mess with me just for attention. she just has a hard time trusting people (her sister was raped). she is really shy with people and will barely look at them but seems pretty confident talking to me. i think im just going to take the risk and become her friend. it also gives us time to get to know each other better.