JamesSmith
Well-known member
Finally, someone says it. I've been complaining about this topic on these same forums for the past couple of years.
"You gotta have more confidence."<----Ugh, the ultimate shaming tactic. It always works for the person who says it too. It's such a broad statement. People have told me this before, something like "You have to be confident to get what you want," or "girls like confidence."
I mean, if someone is going to tell me this, I wish they would be more specific about what they are saying. The writer of the article did an excellent job of bringing up points such as 'people can't be confident in all parts of life.' And it's so true. You know, I think it takes a real confident person, a person who is confident in themselves, to admit that they don't know. As the writer of the article said, that is honest, as opposed acting like you know what to do when you really don't know what to do is lying in a sense.
I've had some moments in my life where people have told to me to say something, when I had nothing to say. I think this is the biggest problem, at least for shy people like me. You know, we don't have to say something all the time. It's okay to not know what to say. This is a problem with society in general: So much of society believes that you always need to have something to say.
What's funny is these same people who think people should always have something to say, talk too much, and they wind up saying insulting and rude things when they should have just kept their trap shut (some of these people are really bad, and often say rude and obnoxious things, I'm sure you've met them).
I think much of society doesn't understand the value of honesty, kindness and humbleness anymore. It seems the person who speaks the loudest and most often is often the person who is the most popular person....whether what they say is rude, kind, honest, lies or of any value at all.
"You gotta have more confidence."<----Ugh, the ultimate shaming tactic. It always works for the person who says it too. It's such a broad statement. People have told me this before, something like "You have to be confident to get what you want," or "girls like confidence."
I mean, if someone is going to tell me this, I wish they would be more specific about what they are saying. The writer of the article did an excellent job of bringing up points such as 'people can't be confident in all parts of life.' And it's so true. You know, I think it takes a real confident person, a person who is confident in themselves, to admit that they don't know. As the writer of the article said, that is honest, as opposed acting like you know what to do when you really don't know what to do is lying in a sense.
I've had some moments in my life where people have told to me to say something, when I had nothing to say. I think this is the biggest problem, at least for shy people like me. You know, we don't have to say something all the time. It's okay to not know what to say. This is a problem with society in general: So much of society believes that you always need to have something to say.
What's funny is these same people who think people should always have something to say, talk too much, and they wind up saying insulting and rude things when they should have just kept their trap shut (some of these people are really bad, and often say rude and obnoxious things, I'm sure you've met them).
I think much of society doesn't understand the value of honesty, kindness and humbleness anymore. It seems the person who speaks the loudest and most often is often the person who is the most popular person....whether what they say is rude, kind, honest, lies or of any value at all.
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