To Marykate:
My conclusion is absolutely not from my own experience, I know I should not categorically rule something out because impossible in nothing, even whole brain transplant is possible in the future, however if we go in the wrong direction, is there any possibility that we can reach our target? When I fully recovered, I realized that all the western therapies have gone in the wrong direction, I will prove it by starting a new thread.
To Phoenix1:
Q:"But I'm curious as to how would you go about accepting something that other people dont
like?The need to be loved and accepted by others drives an incredible need to want to change who you in an effort to fit in better. "
A: Thank you for the good question, I would like to give you an answer based on my article:Yes,you are right, we need to be loved and welcomed by others. No one likes to seem stupid before other people, i am not an exception. do you remember the "excitement point" I have mentioned in my 1st thread, please review it carefully. Back in earlier times, we are as normal as any other, u know, almost every person in this world tends to feel nervous before opposite sex, before stranger, before authority or before a group of people when making public speech. When they, those normal people, felt nervous or tense, they neglected it, they didn't care about it, then did not make any efforts to repel it, get rid of it, they take the nervousness as a normal part of themselves. But we were so sensitive, we thought we must not behave like that, we took the situation more severe than the fact itself because of our sensitive and weak personality.We try to get rid of it, try to repel the once very mild nervousness because we didn't think it was a normal part of ourselves. by doing so, we supply nutrition, supply fuel to this nervousness, we ourselves make it become a very inveterate and powerful “excitement point",the more veterate and powerful this excitement point becomes, the more tense and nervous we will become, the more severe symptom (like facial twitch and heartbeat) we will show before other people, the more desired we want to get rid of or repel our nervousness, the more powerful and inveterate it will become. So you see, it is a vicious circle with no way out ahead. Who is the creator of this vicious circle, we ourselves. Where is the escape, turn back. What does "turn back" mean here, accept it. The oriental therapy such as buddism,morita therapy and Heixi Therapy just teaches us how to accept, how to turn back. Just like Buddhism has told us:"there is no destination in the ocean of tribulation unless you turn back." Let me put it another way to make it as simple as possible, there is a small fire, if we don't do anything to it, it will go out naturally, but we want to put it out as quickly as possible,so we pour gasoline onto it, and then it becomes more brighter, then we continue to pour gasoline onto it, at last, it becomes an uncontrollable fire, we ourselves are the creators of such severe fire.What is the solution now, stop pouring gasoline,since it is already uncontrollable, so evev if we stop pouring gasoline, it will still burn brightly for a long time, but it will sooner or later go out itself.
Q:"If you can have others laugh at you and not care, then yeah you have confidence and low anxiety. But how do you learn to not care when you are so sensitive and have been raised to believe that you have to be perfect in any situation? How do you accept and numb yourself to the point where you can override 15+ years of parenting that makes you think you have to be perfect or you are a complete failure in life?"
A:Actually it is impossible for me not to care about other ones' laughter at the very beginning of Heixi Therapy, namely at the very beginning of acceptance,just like what I have mentioned above in that figure of speech, the fire is very bright, even if i stop pouring gasoline onto it, it will burn for a long time. This is the shortcoming of all oriental therapies like Buddhism and Morita Therapy, it goes in the right direction, but the process is too long for the sufferer to persevere,the western therapy can remove the symptom temporarily in a short time, but since the direction of all the western therapies is wrong( i will prove this by starting a new thread soon),so it will never reach the target, the removed symptom will come back again in the future, A psychological major in this forum has told me that research shows that even those who have claimed they have fully recovered will fall back into the abyss of SP a few years later. However,Heixi Therapy is not a pure oriental therapy, if you read my replies carefully enough, it has included some useful parts or western therapy including CBT and Exposure Therapy to shorten the process quite a lot because the westen therapy is quite useful in quick symptom-removing, but the core of Heixi therapy is the essence of Buddhism thus with the combination of the merits of east and west, it can make you fully recover with a relatively short time. Therefore, I completely recovered after one and a half year after I start with Heixi Therapy, freed myself from the mental suffering. Because I suffered from multiple disorder such as SP, OCD and depression, so the time is relatively long. For those who suffer only from SP, I think half a year is enough. If you need to know more about this therapy and need some personal advice based on your own situation, please talk to me through MSN:
[email protected]
To littlemissmuffet:
Hi, miss, I have received you message stating that you have found Morita Therapy very useful, I am so encouraged and glad to hear that. Morita Therapy originates from oriental Buddhism and is the 2nd development stage of treatment of neurosis, it is also a main part of Heixi therapy,however heixi therapy goes further than Morita therapy in the understanding of the essence of Buddhism, let me put it another way, if you were in a swamp of SP, Heixi Therapy can completely pull you out of it while Morita can put almost your whole body out of the swamp with your lower legs still inside, I don't know if there is any Morita Therapist in your country, if you practise yourself, I don't know whether you will fully understand it because it is a sort of oriental wisdom. If you need some advice based on you personal situation, please add my MSN:
[email protected]
All in all, I don't know whether I can make myself fully understood through my replies, so more questions and criticisms are welcomed
