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Whapz

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I'm considering transferring to a different university and I would love some input from everybody.

I go to university about 2 hours away from home and I absolutely hate it. During my senior year of high school I went through some pretty mentally traumatic events in addition to my parents getting divorced. I came here to get away from it all, but I feel like I need to be closer to my family. I also haven't really made any friends here. My roommate basically hates me, he's the most arrogant jerk I've ever met in my life. I do not enjoy being here at all. However, this school is one of the "better" schools for a computer science major.

I want to transfer to a university about 30 minutes away from home. I feel like I'd do better mentally and I feel like my family would do better with the divorce with me closer. Also, some of my best friends from elementary school all the way through high school go to that school. This school isn't a bad school for computer science majors, in fact I think it's a very good school, but its not the same as the school I'm at.

I'm not even 100% sure I want to be a computer science major, so my options are still open. I feel like transferring is the best choice for me; the only thing holding me back is my dad. He's not sure I'd be transferring for the right reasons. I think transferring for my own sanity is a great reason. What do you guys think?
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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I think that's a pretty good reason to transfer. I mean, if you don't feel comfortable in your environment, how are you going to do as well in your academics? If I were you, I'd still transfer, even if it did mean leaving a "better" school. The other school is still pretty good for computer science right (If that's what you're still going to take)? You'd be closer to home, and you have your best friends there to hang with as well. Even if you didn't continue with that major, do they have basic classes you could take until you found a major you're really interested in? If so, that's good too. Sorry for turning this response into a bit of a rambling. ::eek::
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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You know... out of all the people I went to college with, only 4 of them are actually doing what they studied to do and actually LIKE it.

It's important that you do something you're interested in and you enjoy, even a little bit. If you don't know what you like then you need to get out there and figure it out because college is alot of money-- and it's money you may be paying off for 10-15 years after the fact...

I think you should do what you think is right for your mental health, definitely. If your parent(s) think otherwise then you need to explain to them clearly how you are feeling-- and if they still don't get it, screw them!
It's your future.
 
superfluouslyme

superfluouslyme

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You should definitely do what you think is best for you. I got my Associate's in Art from a community college and got accepted to a good university to study art management. I was there for about 2 months and realized I hated it. I was embarrassed to leave, but it was best for me. I went to another community college and got another Associates in something I'm more interested in as a profession. I was going to get my Bachelors, but decided to work fulltime in a related job to see if this was really what I want to do.

I know of 3 people who are actually working jobs related to their degrees and only two enjoy it. Increasingly, a lot of people work jobs not related to their degrees. Just do what you feel is more comfortable for you. It's your life.
 
bsebring

bsebring

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That's partly the reason I transferred. It almost got to the point I was going to have a mental breakdown so I defiantly can relate to the stress of not being comfortable on a campus. I was doing really good at the local school until I had to commute to the main branch and it just wasn't working so I decided to change my major and transfer schools. I'm really happy I did it though. There's no reason you should be stuck somewhere you don't think you're going to strive/succeed. And from my understanding, the campus isn't a huge deal, it's the work you put into it that matters. So whatever your decision is, you need to do what's right for you. But IMO, what's the point of going to a nice school if you're unhappy doing so?
 
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Whapz

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Thank you so much everybody who has replied. I'm glad you all reinforced my thinking, I feel a lot better about the whole situation now. I talked to my dad and he revealed to me that he also struggles with social anxiety and so does my mother, and they both expressed that they understand how I feel and that they're going to support me no matter what I choose. I'm feeling so much better about all this.
 
Deus_Ex_Lemur

Deus_Ex_Lemur

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Whapz said:
Thank you so much everybody who has replied. I'm glad you all reinforced my thinking, I feel a lot better about the whole situation now. I talked to my dad and he revealed to me that he also struggles with social anxiety and so does my mother, and they both expressed that they understand how I feel and that they're going to support me no matter what I choose. I'm feeling so much better about all this.
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Dude, no more to be said. That is the best result of approaching family with this... wow. Doesn't always work that way aka my own experience, total opposite lol. Well, no, they tried to understand but eh.

Anyways that's great for you, and your family, you and your whole family can benefit. Awesome dude!
 
superfluouslyme

superfluouslyme

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Whapz said:
Thank you so much everybody who has replied. I'm glad you all reinforced my thinking, I feel a lot better about the whole situation now. I talked to my dad and he revealed to me that he also struggles with social anxiety and so does my mother, and they both expressed that they understand how I feel and that they're going to support me no matter what I choose. I'm feeling so much better about all this.
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I don't think anyone could have hoped for a better outcome. That's fantastic! :) I had a similar conversation with my parents and they both came clean about their own issues. We are both very lucky to have understanding families.
 
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