being called ''a drama seeker''
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hmm, I think it can be related to 'artistic temperament'... (?)
or some people just 'have a temper'... and others may see it as 'drama queen'...?
I have a friend and she does have a big imagination, and it sometimes looks as if she's 'looking for trouble' or 'drama', because she so enjoys in it.. (it can be stressful for other people though..)
it's like when you look at her, it seems she can't 'settle down' and have a quiet life, she gets bored and 'here we go' 'some drama' again.. (I don't think she does it on purpose, at least most of the time, she's just different than many other people...) But it can be tiring for other people.. They just don't understand it.. so they may just call it 'drama' if they don't understand it..?
most people don't have the knowledge about psychological things and may react to things differently.. or stress about what they see as 'small stuff' less.. ('This shouldn't bother you' - sometimes this can be an excuse to be inconsiderate though too.. It's easier for them to say that 'you' should change and not be so sensitive to this, than to change their behavior.. if that makes sense?)
sometimes it's important that both find a way to deal with things so that neither gets overwhelmed, if possible..
maybe it has to do with neurological stuff or being 'HSP' (highly sensitive person) too...?
or some people just 'have a temper'... and others may see it as 'drama queen'...?
I have a friend and she does have a big imagination, and it sometimes looks as if she's 'looking for trouble' or 'drama', because she so enjoys in it.. (it can be stressful for other people though..)
it's like when you look at her, it seems she can't 'settle down' and have a quiet life, she gets bored and 'here we go' 'some drama' again.. (I don't think she does it on purpose, at least most of the time, she's just different than many other people...) But it can be tiring for other people.. They just don't understand it.. so they may just call it 'drama' if they don't understand it..?
most people don't have the knowledge about psychological things and may react to things differently.. or stress about what they see as 'small stuff' less.. ('This shouldn't bother you' - sometimes this can be an excuse to be inconsiderate though too.. It's easier for them to say that 'you' should change and not be so sensitive to this, than to change their behavior.. if that makes sense?)
sometimes it's important that both find a way to deal with things so that neither gets overwhelmed, if possible..
maybe it has to do with neurological stuff or being 'HSP' (highly sensitive person) too...?
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Falkor
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hi feathers, thanks for your reply. i do think HSP has a lot to doo with this,
someone just called me a drama seeker today , ''the other person'' didn't take me serious, i was anxious,sad, and that's just feeling misundastood.
I'm very HSP, so things get harder to me, and this may seem like drama..
But it's totally not, and when i'm happy i raduate calm , so
someone just called me a drama seeker today , ''the other person'' didn't take me serious, i was anxious,sad, and that's just feeling misundastood.
I'm very HSP, so things get harder to me, and this may seem like drama..
But it's totally not, and when i'm happy i raduate calm , so
bigcat1967
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The people that are seeking drama probably never got attention from their parents when they were growing up (I'm guessing here - not a fact, but it does make sense).
What do you guys think?
What do you guys think?
Falkor
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I'm sorry I didn't know the word in english, I guess it's defined as ''Drama Queen'' I'm not seeking drama to happen, I'm just panicing very fast, which make people fun of sometimes. >.<
Sinar_Matahari
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You've never struck me as an attention-seeker or drama queen. I could give you a list of people who are actual attention mongering, drama whores, but I don't think you're one of them. As far as I can tell, you have genuine issues. Not that the others don't have issues. Their issues are just different than yours.
Sinar_Matahari
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Yes, it makes sense for some people, but I don't think it applies to everyone who's parents didn't pay them much attention growing up.
DespairSoul
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Yes i can also relate to this( I too don't search drama on purpose just happend to me often coz i'm HSP. I don't want to search drama i dislike it a lot if i do so and even not notice. I do only if i'm in pain but people react not good at. Because they don't whats going on, what's wrong and big deal about it what i resolution. I better let my mouth shut and don't react on nothing. This would be the best sometimes in my case. I'm impulsive and many times i express me wrong as i wanted but later is to late. I feel later guilty and sorrow about it. I have also hot temper as was Feathers writing and i can't control it. I don't have fun at if i act like "drama queen" hurts myself a lot and others if i act so! I really apologize if i anytime write some no sense because sometime my opinion can be quick and with out thinking If my mind is too stressed, depressed i many times regard what i said and wrote. I feel guilty all the time. I don't want offend no one
( I too don't search drama on purpose just happend to me often coz i'm HSP. I don't want to search drama i dislike it a lot if i do so and even not notice. I do only if i'm in pain but people react not good at. Because they don't whats going on, what's wrong and big deal about it what i resolution. I better let my mouth shut and don't react on nothing. This would be the best sometimes in my case. I'm impulsive and many times i express me wrong as i wanted but later is to late. I feel later guilty and sorrow about it. I have also hot temper as was Feathers writing and i can't control it. I don't have fun at if i act like "drama queen" hurts myself a lot and others if i act so! I really apologize if i anytime write some no sense because sometime my opinion can be quick and with out thinking If my mind is too stressed, depressed i many times regard what i said and wrote. I feel guilty all the time. I don't want offend no one
Falkor
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ahw despairsoul im sorry to hear u deal with this too
its very hard when people dont see what we ''feel'', they only see the ''act'' of panic, not the struggle of pain.
I'm glad they don't feel it, but I wish they could feel it only one second to know what it's like to be a Social phobic
or how it's like to have a panic attack or be so suspicious towards everyone's opinion and being HSP of reactions like this.
just to understand this pain, and not give reactions like this anymore, just give a helping hand, cuz they know how hard it can be like
It's all about being sensetive, insecure and afraid. It's even 1000 far more than this. But i'm glad there's SPW which make me feel less alone
its very hard when people dont see what we ''feel'', they only see the ''act'' of panic, not the struggle of pain.
I'm glad they don't feel it, but I wish they could feel it only one second to know what it's like to be a Social phobic
or how it's like to have a panic attack or be so suspicious towards everyone's opinion and being HSP of reactions like this.
just to understand this pain, and not give reactions like this anymore, just give a helping hand, cuz they know how hard it can be like
It's all about being sensetive, insecure and afraid. It's even 1000 far more than this. But i'm glad there's SPW which make me feel less alone
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DespairSoul
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@Saskia
No one can understand us who don't go trough the same struggles and face it all what we are dealing with. Or try at least understand. Is the most easy call someone "drama seeker" if u don't see in his soul if u don't feel what he/she is going trough. Juding someone is the easiest thing what people can do. Try understand and give helpful hand this is something what is helpful. Not regard and critic this make it all worse. Yes i'm glad that i met people which try to understand me or at least have patience read what i'm going trough. Thank u. U know who u are This all lost souls here make me feel i'm not alone and i can relate to someone who knows what is mean going trough all of it. It's mean a lot to me any kind word and cheer up.
No one can understand us who don't go trough the same struggles and face it all what we are dealing with. Or try at least understand. Is the most easy call someone "drama seeker" if u don't see in his soul if u don't feel what he/she is going trough. Juding someone is the easiest thing what people can do. Try understand and give helpful hand this is something what is helpful. Not regard and critic this make it all worse. Yes i'm glad that i met people which try to understand me or at least have patience read what i'm going trough. Thank u. U know who u are
This all lost souls here make me feel i'm not alone and i can relate to someone who knows what is mean going trough all of it. It's mean a lot to me any kind word and cheer up.
Section_31
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My wife too, has been called this by family members. People dont realize how hurtful their words can be to someone who is suffering anxiety. Ive seen firsthand, from an outsiders perspective, the hurt it causes. Ive always called people out on it for being @$$holes.
The thing is, alot of the people who say that kind of stuff, also claim they "understand" S/A. Then they do an about face and say somthing about her being a drama queen.
People who say that, dont understand, period. They dont understand the hurt it can cause, and they dont understand S/A
The thing is, alot of the people who say that kind of stuff, also claim they "understand" S/A. Then they do an about face and say somthing about her being a drama queen.
People who say that, dont understand, period. They dont understand the hurt it can cause, and they dont understand S/A