I find that I often "adapt" my personality to certain people. It's like with each individual (co-workers, friends, family) I develop a certain image or personality that "fits" with that person. I wouldn't behave a certain way or talk a certain way to one person as I do with another. Sometimes even accent.
For example, at work there's a few guys I'm kind of a loudmouth with, and make jokes with. Then there's a few girls, who I behave "sweet" around. I usually feel a bit awkward when groups of people whom I've all adapted to come together, and I don't know how to behave. It's like I'm so used to putting up different fronts, that I'm kind of losing touch with my "self". I feel kind of ashamed of being that loudmouth in front of those girls, so I refrain.
I feel like most people do this to some degree, being diplomatic and self-concious of image, but I feel maybe I am doing this to an unhealthy level. I feel a lot of other people are more secure just being themselves than me and don't try to desperately please everyone. I guess it's good I can blend in with a lot of different people, but I also shouldn't lose touch with who I really am. I also feel like I don't really have a fully formed personality, atleast not one that I'm comfortable with so that may be why I'm "acting" a lot. It takes up a lot of energy, because i keep thinking things through. Anyone else who can relate to this?
For example, at work there's a few guys I'm kind of a loudmouth with, and make jokes with. Then there's a few girls, who I behave "sweet" around. I usually feel a bit awkward when groups of people whom I've all adapted to come together, and I don't know how to behave. It's like I'm so used to putting up different fronts, that I'm kind of losing touch with my "self". I feel kind of ashamed of being that loudmouth in front of those girls, so I refrain.
I feel like most people do this to some degree, being diplomatic and self-concious of image, but I feel maybe I am doing this to an unhealthy level. I feel a lot of other people are more secure just being themselves than me and don't try to desperately please everyone. I guess it's good I can blend in with a lot of different people, but I also shouldn't lose touch with who I really am. I also feel like I don't really have a fully formed personality, atleast not one that I'm comfortable with so that may be why I'm "acting" a lot. It takes up a lot of energy, because i keep thinking things through. Anyone else who can relate to this?
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