Forget barking up the wrong tree. I've always seemed to just bark at the tree and ignored who or what could possibly be up it. So now I tend to frequent salt marshes and meadows more than forests.
As I've become more isolated over the years I find that I tend to latch on to any women I come in contact with. At least emotionally. I'm amused by that, too, since I haven't barked up the right tree once in all my years of barking.
The end result? I long for female companionship more than almost anything else, but I've convinced myself that I shouldn't bark at all, lest I chase off any passersby. I've been telling myself that I'm completely undesirable for so long that even if a woman was interested in me (even just as a friend) I wouldn't notice even if she wrote me and explicitly told me so.
Why I do it is hard to explain. When I was young I went for pretty girls that I had absolutely nothing in common with, so I ended up dejected and alone. I've been trying to debark myself the past few years, though, so I haven't really pursued anyone at all. That whole low self esteem, afraid of not being good enough, and fear of more rejection thing again.
How to stop doing it? I've decided to let the women come out of the trees and approach me if they're interested. I always say things like, "And yes ladies, I'm still available," usually tied in with some self deprecating joke. In a way it's like telling them I'm interested, but afraid of making things uncomfortable and getting rejected again. And warning them not to expect too much from me up front.
And as of right now, I
am still single.... Ladies?