Bad day

[BrianAdamsID]

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[coyote]

...I don't know why it is that some people feel the need to tease you even after you show that you're uncomfortably with it...

because they're idiots

 

[Phoenixx]

Sorry to hear about your day, Brian. I know how you feel though. It's hard to endure the teasing. I pretty much do what you do, with the whole smile thing. And if I don't smile, I usually just ignore them. Like coyote said, some people can just be so stupid about the teasing. Just try not to let it get to you. I know that's WAY easier said than done though.

On a better note, the whole library science thing sounds cool. Besides the fact of having that horribly rude patron, it looks like you have a pretty nice job working at a library. I wouldn't mind working in one myself.

 

[Emma03]

People can be so inconsiderate regarding the feelings of others. It really amazes me sometimes.

I hate when the first word people use to describe me is quiet, like it's this horrible thing!! I don't tell people how loud and obnoxious they are! I really do not think being quiet is bad AT ALL and try not to let other people tell you it is. They are probably just insecure about themselves.

Hope tomorrow is better!

 

[kilojoule]

people are the devil

 

[deleted #89]

I had a similar situation last year and my reply to that person was:

- Yes im quiet.. does it bother you?

I remember that person folding up and not knowing what to do. See just like in your case the other person is equally uncomfortable and just by acknowledging your own behavior you cut down the anxiety by 80%. By doing this you confirm to others but most importantly to yourself that its OK the way you are no matter what. Next time that bozo comes after you let him know whats up if you have too or else he wont stop the behavior.

 

[deleted #89]

Thanks for the responses.

@ MR. Wonderful: I don't remember his exact words, but he did ask me why I was quiet, at some point in the conversation. I said that it's the way I am. I wouldn't want to be too aggressive, though. I don't want to "fight fire with fire."

I agree with you...the last thing you want to use is aggression. That said if his "behavior" continues that's when you have to let him know ( calm/assertive).

 

[Emma03]

I had a similar situation last year and my reply to that person was:

- Yes im quiet.. does it bother you?
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I am going to use this next time somebody makes a comment about me being quiet. Love it!

And being assertive definitely helps self-esteem.

 

[-lonestar-]

That's the phrase I hate the most "why are you so quiet?" to people they seem to assosiate quietness with a troubled mind, or a lack of personality.

Pay no mind to such fools, they are the same fools who get in trouble for talking too much, whats the gain in going up to a stranger and picking on their differences? none.

I totally feel the anger/dissapointment you feel in people when you encounter those types, in fact everybody here does. just remember most people are nuts lol.

To me them saying that is the same thing as me telling them to shut the F up, ya know what I mean. Live and let Live I say.

 

[Necrucifer]

It's ok what they dont know wont hurt them...we quiet folk are vicious when we snap

 

[Looking_in105]

See just like in your case the other person is equally uncomfortable and just by acknowledging your own behavior you cut down the anxiety by 80%.

This is so true.