it seems to me that most of what people say to each other is meant to avoid silence. this just seems wrong to me. i think most of my social anxiety comes from the obligation to speak, or for that matter, others peoples fear of silence.
I don't mind silences and i don't find them awkward either, i have a few friends and even at work I can be talking to someone and there are lots of pauses and silences which i think is normal and it feels more natural, i actually find people who feel the need to fill in every gap with banter to be more awkward because often they are obviously trying to fill in the silences in a needy way.
so no i don't think silences are awkward at all. i think it's naive to think this.
I was sitting in a cafe the other day and this girl was talking non-stop, clearly to be heard and it was mostly annoying chit-chat and i could tell it was making the people around her uncomfortable.
I really like it when people can be quiet and to talk when it feels right and natural, so a bit of both is nice.
I can't remember who told me this, but the other person is expected to make conversation just as much as you are so you shouldn't feel any pressure or blame yourself for lags in your convo. It's still a little uncomfortable but you have to remember the other person probably feels this way too.
I don't mind silences and i don't find them awkward either, i have a few friends and even at work I can be talking to someone and there are lots of pauses and silences which i think is normal and it feels more natural, i actually find people who feel the need to fill in every gap with banter to be more awkward because often they are obviously trying to fill in the silences in a needy way.
so no i don't think silences are awkward at all. i think it's naive to think this.
I was sitting in a cafe the other day and this girl was talking non-stop, clearly to be heard and it was mostly annoying chit-chat and i could tell it was making the people around her uncomfortable.
I really like it when people can be quiet and to talk when it feels right and natural, so a bit of both is nice.
The other day in a class at school, a used-to-be-good-friend and I were watching a movie. It was only us. So. Freakin'. Awkward. Bleh, I just wanted to relax, but I couldn't. It was bad.
Most of these silences happen when I try to speak to someone, so I tend to avoid speaking to anyone.
silence is golden, duct tape is silver.
exactly - it's like a game of badminton
all you have to do is get the birdie over the net
then it's up to them to get it back to you
the silences are just the intervals between serves
it's ok if you flail around, swinging your racquet awkwardly
no one takes badminton seriously anyway
it's more challenging when you wear galoshes
have fun with it
i feel your pain, but at least theres always lotioning right.