Section_31
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So, crappy situation.
My dad calls me monday night, and my grandmother, who lives 7 hours away from here, isnt doing so well. Shes 96, has bad dementia, and isnt expected to have much time left. Now, honestly, her and me havnt been close ever. I dont hate her at all or anything, we just never had much contact, so really, while im sad that someone is dying, im kind of just meh about the whole thing, it sucks but it is what it is.
So, my dad calls, and pulls the old "it would REALLY mean alot if you could try and make it out". Now, really, what am i supposed to say to that?. I told him this was blackmail for making me feel guilty about it, and he said that was too loose a term, that he preferred extortion, LOL. So anyways, I tell my wife about it, and bless her heart, even though the thought of seeing my family scares the hell out of her, shes going with me.
Now, im nervous enough about seeing my grandmother who probably wont know who I am, let alone seeing all 27 members of my family in that town. My wife and me will be staying with my cousin and his wife, who we are really close with, and honestly i would really like to avoid seeing everyone else, because were driving out there one day, doing our business, and coming back the next, staying for one night. Everybodys going to want a piece of us because nobody has seen us since the wedding, and i can just feel the pressure, or percieved pressure, bearing on us both on top of what were going out there to do.
We havnt told anyone else in the family that were coming, and my cousin and his family are keeping quiet about it because they understand our reasons. But in a town that small im sure word is gonna get out.
Jeez, just thinking about it is getting me sweaty and nervous....any advice on how to be politely unavailable?. I know, this is compounding the problem....if i have an encounter ill try to get through it.
Also, i have to be honest, im scared of seeing a dying person, but i also dont think anyone deserves to die alone, even if they cant remember who I am. Im feeling pretty anxious over this as well.
My dad calls me monday night, and my grandmother, who lives 7 hours away from here, isnt doing so well. Shes 96, has bad dementia, and isnt expected to have much time left. Now, honestly, her and me havnt been close ever. I dont hate her at all or anything, we just never had much contact, so really, while im sad that someone is dying, im kind of just meh about the whole thing, it sucks but it is what it is.
So, my dad calls, and pulls the old "it would REALLY mean alot if you could try and make it out". Now, really, what am i supposed to say to that?. I told him this was blackmail for making me feel guilty about it, and he said that was too loose a term, that he preferred extortion, LOL. So anyways, I tell my wife about it, and bless her heart, even though the thought of seeing my family scares the hell out of her, shes going with me.
Now, im nervous enough about seeing my grandmother who probably wont know who I am, let alone seeing all 27 members of my family in that town. My wife and me will be staying with my cousin and his wife, who we are really close with, and honestly i would really like to avoid seeing everyone else, because were driving out there one day, doing our business, and coming back the next, staying for one night. Everybodys going to want a piece of us because nobody has seen us since the wedding, and i can just feel the pressure, or percieved pressure, bearing on us both on top of what were going out there to do.
We havnt told anyone else in the family that were coming, and my cousin and his family are keeping quiet about it because they understand our reasons. But in a town that small im sure word is gonna get out.
Jeez, just thinking about it is getting me sweaty and nervous....any advice on how to be politely unavailable?. I know, this is compounding the problem....if i have an encounter ill try to get through it.
Also, i have to be honest, im scared of seeing a dying person, but i also dont think anyone deserves to die alone, even if they cant remember who I am. Im feeling pretty anxious over this as well.
Just because your that awsome, and i cant hope to achieve the same level of awsomesauce!
