Avoiding relatives
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BloodSugar
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We don't have many to avoid, but I do tend to dread them... I actually think my SA is worse around my family.
BloodSugar
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Those awkward uncertain greetings are the worst. 
Paahi
Well-known member
^This. I'm always avoiding them.
Lambie
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I feel awkward when I go to them, as if I don't belong there. I hardly talk to them unless they ask me a direct question, that's why I try and avoid gatherings at all costs, I just tell them I'm too busy (doing nothing) to go.
My bossy aunt knows that I'm a mute, so when she's about to leave she'll thank me for being so sociable lol..
My bossy aunt knows that I'm a mute, so when she's about to leave she'll thank me for being so sociable lol..
planemo
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Those awkward uncertain greetings are the worst.
The amount of sleep I've lost due to greeting family is just ridiculous. :
:Plus family are your biggest critics, and from my experience your biggest enemies.
(as it turns out i have family in your neck of the woods....) :
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Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Yeah, I feel like that as well around most of my relatives. I'm exactly the same, with regards to speak when spoken to. But I tend to be really anxious because I don't have a clue what to say. And most conversations with my relatives usually end rather abruptly, especially if it's someone I don't know that well. And it's made all the more uncomfortable with those tense silences inbetween questions. Even just saying "Hello" to them is incredibly awkward for me.
Literally 1/10 of the people in the small town I live in are related to me so it's hard to avoid them. I stopped attending family get togethers, which happen for every holiday and birthdays, like 4 times in a row and then started showing up to everyone again. Now some of the aunts and uncles are like oh it's so nice of you to come out or some variation of that phrase. I end up sitting saying nothing anyways and if there's a video game console I end up unconsciously gravitating towards that until I'm all alone playing games while everyone is socializing. Kind of funny considering I'm 20. lol
I prefer family gatherings to close family sometimes!! lol (At least they have to be polite when lots of people are around lol)
Yeah I can be a bit nervous before family gatherings, but it's also exciting cause one is gonna see the relatives we haven't seen for so long and you always find out something new and talk to interesting people... (and can do some eco networking or such too)
Yeah I can be a bit nervous before family gatherings, but it's also exciting cause one is gonna see the relatives we haven't seen for so long and you always find out something new and talk to interesting people... (and can do some eco networking or such too
)I avoid relatives. If i am at home and unfortunately some relatives turn up; i flee to our rubber plantation/estate, finding solace in the bosom of nature, watching birds/squirrels. But on some extreme occasions, i find myself in a situation that i cannot escape from, and its a torture for me.
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Beatrice
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Rubber plantation/estate????
Are you like, super-wealthy? Do you have slaves? lol
Umm, No, i do not own slaves!!
We do have people who work for us, and they do get the best wages as per the state labour laws.
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Beatrice
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Umm, No, i do not own slaves!!
We do have people who work for us, and they do get the best wages as per the state labour laws.
So you're super wealthy
You don't have to answer that, I'm just messing with you
mikebird
Banned
Life started that way. My brothers' families were always happier and better than me & parents... Who were my brothers' parents, of course, but there was a 30-year gap between us. I have been the runt of us... Useless failure. The sad & miserable of us.
We had a massive family beyond that too, so even more intriguing and scary... I attended all the weddings & funerals. It's all burned out now - the cohesion between us all. How do i make headyway with by expected family? Who wants to marry this failure of now invalid parents of age 86, one of which died 10 years ago..?
We had a massive family beyond that too, so even more intriguing and scary... I attended all the weddings & funerals. It's all burned out now - the cohesion between us all. How do i make headyway with by expected family? Who wants to marry this failure of now invalid parents of age 86, one of which died 10 years ago..?
MrTimid&Shy
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yes. I've never felt comfortable around my relatives since i was a child. my sa is worse when i am around them. i tend to avoid most family gatherings, except the ones i have no choice(which i hate)
EnigmatiConduit
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I don't have a big family, it's really only my parents, brother who i don't speak to and his family, and my aunty.. But gatherings with my boyfriends family i am extrememly nervous about weeks or months before it happens (such as christmas). One year i completely freaked out and I couldn't go. I hate big gatherings.. but i have always been that way even as a toddler, so i don't think it will be changing.
black soul
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Same here, I've always dreaded meeting relations/family friends and have used every excuse in the book to avoid weddings, funerals, get-togethers etc. As i get older it doesn't seen to be getting any better.::
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