Are you picky?

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When it comes to choosing someone to date, are you picky at all? Are there certain criteria (physical and/or personality) that you find most of the sex you're attracted to lacking? If someone asks you out, do you end up turning them down because they are not your type?

I would say that, yes, I am picky when it comes to dating. I think being in a relationship has made me even more selective than I was before. I've noticed that I'm a bit more open in terms of who I would date than I was just a couple months after my last relationship ended, but I'm still very selective. Maybe it's because I now know what I prefer. I guess there are both advantages and disadvantages to only dating within my preferred "type."

It's just frustrating because what I prefer is hard to come by. This may sound superficial, but I don't like the thought of dating outside my type. I think it's just a waste of time. I see no point in leading some poor dude on when I'm not attracted to him either physically or personality-wise. I think I'd rather be a cat lady than be with some guy I'm only with because I can't find anyone else and I didn't want to be "mean" and turn him down when he asked me out.

Anyway, that's all I have to say. I don't know if anyone else here can relate, but I just kinda wanted to vent a bit.
 
jonas89

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I can relate, I'm an example of extreme pickiness when it come to dates, Idk why I do this, I have often meet people with a great personality and all but somehow I still manage to find something that I don't like,,, I hate it HATE IT more then anything in life sometimes lol

I'll die alone with 73 cats
 
THeCARS1979

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somewhat picky, I am attracted to faces and personalities first. breast size doesn't matter to me
 
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Fen

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So far nobody asked me out, so I wouldn't know what to do.
Of course personality is more important than physical
 
Psychedelicious

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Not at all, I probably don't have enough standards. Even still no one has ever asked me once, and I don't expect anyone to. I can't have high standards given that I am such a low one myself.
 
kilojoule

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um As I get older I realise that my type doesn't really come in one specific package.(haha and no that isn't because I've lowered my standards -actually the opposite) My type is a guy that makes me laugh who I care about who I can hang out with and feel comfortable around and somebody who likes who I am and doesn't make me feel bad about myself. Somebody down to earth who I can spend time with and not notice time go by and really just enjoy his company. I would be attracted to that guy. And yes looks do count but personality tips the scale and outweighs looks every time. When you really fall for somebody, they are the most attractive person to you and you'd pick them over a male model in a line up. You wouldn't even see the male model. And you would presume that everybody else found them as attractive as you do. It's one of nature's quirks. So I guess that if you only go out with people that look a certain way, you could be losing out and no matter if you found the one that looked like an exact replica of your type, he would never be as attractive to you as the other one who you didn't go out with who was actually a lot more compatible.
 
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Why is it, seemingly always, "a guy that makes me laugh".

That's not just me that notices that, right? ::p:

Is notices a word? Google gave me noticed.
 
ScaredToBreathe

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i never thought i was very picky until my best friend told me "your standards are too high... that guy who wants to date you isnt too bad." well all my friends just go with whoever comes there way but i suppose a guy who isnt that good but isnt "too bad" either is the best someone can get in this society.
anyways i guess i am picky. my ideal boy is older than me, hygenic, a virgin, not obsessed about having teen sex, fairly attractive and healthy, someone who's willing to make commitment, no anger problems, responsible, faithful, honest, and caring. i dont care if he has SA or not as long as he accepts me for who i am.

well seeing as i've never found a single guy that meets the above criteria, i guess im destined to be...FOREVER ALONE. ::(:
 
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ScaredToBreathe said:
my ideal boy is older than me, hygenic, a virgin, not obsessed about having teen sex, fairly attractive and healthy, someone who's willing to make commitment, no anger problems, responsible, faithful, honest, and caring. i dont care if he has SA or not as long as he accepts me for who i am.
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Did you forget one? Unrealistic. :D
 
ScaredToBreathe

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to·ma·to said:
Why is it, seemingly always, "a guy that makes me laugh".

That's not just me that notices that, right? ::p:

Is notices a word? Google gave me noticed.
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cuz girls love guys with a sense of humor it makes them like the guy even more since it's a quality that really stands out. i like guys who make me laugh but it's not an absolutely necessary quality in a guy for me, as long as he doesn't make me cry ::p:

and yes, notices is a word and you used it in the correct context
 
Aletheia

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I'm extremely picky, but I wouldn't say I have a type. There are a wide assortment of factors that can add up to a 'yes'.

I may not know what I want but I know it when I see it.
 
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Eh, for me, I need both looks and personality. I've come across quite a few guys who had good personalities, but I would never date them, because I'm not physically attracted to them at all. I can be friends, but I can't imagine being physically affectionate with them. That's just how I am. I'm well aware that everyone gets old, but from what I've noticed, my preference for certain physical characteristics changes a bit the older I get. I'm sure that when I'm 50, my preferences will mold to fit my age range (unless I find my soulmate by then).
 
Aletheia

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I'm sure that when I'm 50, my preferences will mold to fit my age range.
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Looks are still important to me, but the looks I look for have changed as I've aged.

I can appreciate the beauty of boys half my age, but it's an aesthetic appreciation; I sure don't want to take my clothes off for them.

Conversely, I'm starting to see the appeal of silver foxes, men who can tell me the tales behind their weathered faces. Grey hair is so... poignant.
 
KiaKaha

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Picky? mmm... if by picky you mean someone who is compatible with me then yes. There are some people I am never going to be able to identify with so right away they wouldnt be my type. I like people who tend to think the same way as me and are easy to get along with. Friendly, idealistic and non superficial always wins with me. I do have to be physically attracted to them too, but my potential doesnt have to look like a super model either. Cute without knowing they are cute is a major turn on.
 
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Aletheia said:
Looks are still important to me, but the looks I look for have changed as I've aged.

I can appreciate the beauty of boys half my age, but it's an aesthetic appreciation; I sure don't want to take my clothes off for them.

Conversely, I'm starting to see the appeal of silver foxes, men who can tell me the tales behind their weathered faces. Grey hair is so... poignant.
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Exactly.

My preferences are completely different now than they were when I was still a teen. There was a point where I only preferred guys with long, STRAIGHT hair (no wavy or curly or anything). Since there weren't many guys around with hair like that, yeah, I was SOL, lol. I also hated any kind of facial hair.
 
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