Are you "beyond repair" with people?

[theslowesthand]

I'm quite sure that i'm f'd concering people. For a start i seem to have a need to "punish" myself by often having ZERO human contact for days on end. The possible reason for this is so that i build up a "good amount of pain", so that i can then "have sth decent to work with" with when i get on the grog (ie it gives me a good amount of "passion"). But if this is not the primary reason for my almost complete social isolation, then i dont really know what is. Maybe i just like punishing myself for its own sake??.
Whatever the case, i'm fairly sure (about 90% sure) that i'll never have a "normal relationship" with people in general.
How about you??

 

[Gaucho]

hey,

for me the last 2-3 years i have avoided as much social interaction as possible, but 2 years ago i still had to go to school, what had me exposed to daily social interaction, and i wasn't isolated. at home i somehow was way too much time in front of the computer, but i still was in a football club and had 1 good friend and a few people who i came along with. i luckily never got bullied in school, but still felt as an outsider the last years.

but after school, there was nothing to do, i didn't work,didn't study... so i was complete isolated for like 1 and 1/2 years. i was very depressed at the time(well I'm still).
but now i joined university in a new country, and i isolate myself, because i lost my capacity to talk to other people, and if you ad that with SA, Avoidance tendency disorder and depression, its easy: goodnight. So far i isolate myself basically. I think the only way is therapy, or finding a person who can make me believe again.
i know how you feel, but i can't give you any advice because i have similar problems, but i wish you the best.

 

[Boby]

If you go to battle thinking that defeat is almost certain than you will surely lose.
Try to be more optimistic,I have a hard time figuring out how am I going to solve my problems to but I'm not going to give up.

 

[Thelema]

I kind of do the same thing...when I feel like I've failed at something I feel like there needs to be some corresponding physical pain somehow. I never actually hurt myself, but I feel it

 

[mindflux]

I`m not beyond repair I guess. I could interact more but I just don`t want to put in all that effort. I`m fine having little social life. Normal people are usually boring.

 

[mikebird]

I had this feeling a few weeks ago. There were tears. I don't like weekends, and now stuck in a three-day bank holiday, but this was relieved extraordinarily by an offer from a soulmate from BSc days, to visit yesterday, a long way from home to visit his parents, and come to see me during that. We had an off-road bike ride - kid stuff. I feel on top of things. I rarely contact anyone, because I think it'd be detrimental to them. People I could contact are far between. I can't be sure if I do this whether it would be +ve or -ve for either of us. More effort from me might be better...

I think of: enough to eat? at a low confidence level.

Not good to drone on, with a well-known topic. ::

Thx for your post

 

[sara226]

I'm quite sure that i'm f'd concering people. For a start i seem to have a need to "punish" myself by often having ZERO human contact for days on end. The possible reason for this is so that i build up a "good amount of pain", so that i can then "have sth decent to work with" with when i get on the grog (ie it gives me a good amount of "passion"). But if this is not the primary reason for my almost complete social isolation, then i dont really know what is. Maybe i just like punishing myself for its own sake??.
Whatever the case, i'm fairly sure (about 90% sure) that i'll never have a "normal relationship" with people in general.
How about you??

I dont think I'll ever be completely normal around people either. But at least I won't be a boring person.

I'm quite isolated at the moment apart from meeting up with my family which is the best part of my week. My sister is adorable and so nice.

 

[How_slow_the_Wind]

I think most people are "damaged goods". Everyone, regardless of status, has their own insecurities, neuroses and things that they don't want to share or admit to anyone. There are things we all our afraid about ourselves. Sometimes, it seems the well adjusted are just better actors, and the "losers" aren't really that different, they just can't perform the necessary social cues to blend in.

I think the thing that annoys me the most about modern society is how a person's worth is hardly determined by their content of what they communicate. It's more about how they appear(appearing "fun" or "carefree), or in regards to how many friends they have.

 

[Opaline]

I think most people are "damaged goods". Everyone, regardless of status, has their own insecurities, neuroses and things that they don't want to share or admit to anyone. There are things we all our afraid about ourselves. Sometimes, it seems the well adjusted are just better actors, and the "losers" aren't really that different, they just can't perform the necessary social cues to blend in.

I think the thing that annoys me the most about modern society is how a person's worth is hardly determined by their content of what they communicate. It's more about how they appear(appearing "fun" or "carefree), or in regards to how many friends they have.

I agree with all of this.

 

[Tulicks]

I would think that I'm beyond repair because I'm too quiet around people. The reason why I'm so quiet is because I can't Connect with people. I don't know why I can't, everything just seems fake to me, like everyone is roleplaying a personality. I still get together with a couple of friends but I feel no connection with them emotionally. I basically feel like I'm brain dead, it's a horrible place to be!

 

[Graeme1988]

I would think that I'm beyond repair because I'm too quiet around people. The reason why I'm so quiet is because I can't Connect with people. I don't know why I can't, everything just seems fake to me, like everyone is roleplaying a personality. I still get together with a couple of friends but I feel no connection with them emotionally. I basically feel like I'm brain dead, it's a horrible place to be!

Yeah, that's how I feel too. ::

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I'm not quite sure I understand...
My situation is that I've lost faith and trust in people in general.
I don't trust anyone- I believe that people just want to hurt me; physically mostly.
This is because of my history of human interaction from the time I started being around anyone who was not my parents- I was sexually, verbally, mentally, physically abused; by both strangers, kids I went to school with, family members, figures of authority, etc.

I don't bother being around people because I feel I 'know' that they are only out to hurt me. Only out for themselves.
People are greedy.
Not everyone is a bad person; I know there are good ones out there- I'm sure of it.
I just don't take my chances.
I give and never expect anything back because that's how people work.
I'll be stepped on until the end of time because I'm a nice person and that's okay.
Just means I'll limit my interactions to a pace that I can handle without dying.

 

[MrJones]

I don't think anyone is beyong repair. Things can change, always. Maybe not in the "ideal" way we want them to, but they can change for good. A positive attitude always helps, believe it or not.

 

[AGR]

I'm not quite sure I understand...
My situation is that I've lost faith and trust in people in general.
I don't trust anyone- I believe that people just want to hurt me; physically mostly.
This is because of my history of human interaction from the time I started being around anyone who was not my parents- I was sexually, verbally, mentally, physically abused; by both strangers, kids I went to school with, family members, figures of authority, etc.

I don't bother being around people because I feel I 'know' that they are only out to hurt me. Only out for themselves.
People are greedy.
Not everyone is a bad person; I know there are good ones out there- I'm sure of it.
I just don't take my chances.
I give and never expect anything back because that's how people work.
I'll be stepped on until the end of time because I'm a nice person and that's okay.
Just means I'll limit my interactions to a pace that I can handle without dying.

I think its amazing someone going through what you went,I mean from just reading your posts until now,and is still as kind as you are.

 

[Kiwong]

I'm teetering on a knife edge. In some ways the damage is done, my anxiety is with me always. I fear the days ahead, should I crash lower than before.