Hi
Please help diagnose me. I am 30y old male. My symptoms (plusses show the severity from 1-3):
1. Unable to have intimate relations with my wife who I love. +++ Was not a problem first months. Physical part is 100% ok.
2. Uncomfortable for me to receive hugs/kisses. Not able to give any +++
3. I am unable to show affection. Unable to express the words "I love you" to my wife. I cannot explain the reason if asked. +++
4. I avoid every discussion with my wife that is personal or related to the above. I just want to switch the topic and escape. ++
5. Self-imposed social isolation - Eg. I will go and wait alone elsewhere than make
new acquaintances at a social event. +
6. Socializing usually feels like acting, me trying to play a charismatic person, but that is not me. +
7. I am mirroring the people I am communicating with. I adapt my words/topics/mannerisms to the people at hand. Eg. trying to blend in extremely well, I even don't know my own communication style. ++++
8. I am not able to blend in into new group (work/school) regardless of pt7. It takes years to feel comfortable in new social group. I eat lunches alone and generally don't talk when not asked. +++
9. From my earliest childhood, I have preferred to spend time alone - taking long walks to nowhere just thinking/fantasizing. Or sitting at my desk occupied with a topic/hobby I am currently extremely interested in, very focused. I lose that intereset as quickly as it came +
10. I don't have close relations with my parents and family, I just dodged every personal question. Even "how are you doing?" is that personal +++
11. Hypersensitivity to criticism, what others think of me. +
Here are some sides of my personality that somewhat contradict the above:
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12. I am very emphatic/dramatic. I am easily in tears if I see someone suffer, or see some emotional scene. I try to hide it though and I may appear cold.
13. I do have interest in others and feel the need for friends. It takes usually many years for a relation from knowing someone to being a friend.
14. I can tolerate stressful social (but distant) interactions (eg. job interviews) quite easily. Personal 1on1 discussions with friends/family are still hard.
What is the diagnosis and prognosis?
Points 1-3 affect me mostly for obvious reasons, everything else is bearable. I do realize I am still having it easier than many of the other posters here, I wish you the best.
I didn't have luck finding anything that matches me 100% in the disorder pages..
many thanks,
Josh
Please help diagnose me. I am 30y old male. My symptoms (plusses show the severity from 1-3):
1. Unable to have intimate relations with my wife who I love. +++ Was not a problem first months. Physical part is 100% ok.
2. Uncomfortable for me to receive hugs/kisses. Not able to give any +++
3. I am unable to show affection. Unable to express the words "I love you" to my wife. I cannot explain the reason if asked. +++
4. I avoid every discussion with my wife that is personal or related to the above. I just want to switch the topic and escape. ++
5. Self-imposed social isolation - Eg. I will go and wait alone elsewhere than make
new acquaintances at a social event. +6. Socializing usually feels like acting, me trying to play a charismatic person, but that is not me. +
7. I am mirroring the people I am communicating with. I adapt my words/topics/mannerisms to the people at hand. Eg. trying to blend in extremely well, I even don't know my own communication style. ++++
8. I am not able to blend in into new group (work/school) regardless of pt7. It takes years to feel comfortable in new social group. I eat lunches alone and generally don't talk when not asked. +++
9. From my earliest childhood, I have preferred to spend time alone - taking long walks to nowhere just thinking/fantasizing. Or sitting at my desk occupied with a topic/hobby I am currently extremely interested in, very focused. I lose that intereset as quickly as it came +
10. I don't have close relations with my parents and family, I just dodged every personal question. Even "how are you doing?" is that personal +++
11. Hypersensitivity to criticism, what others think of me. +
Here are some sides of my personality that somewhat contradict the above:
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12. I am very emphatic/dramatic. I am easily in tears if I see someone suffer, or see some emotional scene. I try to hide it though and I may appear cold.
13. I do have interest in others and feel the need for friends. It takes usually many years for a relation from knowing someone to being a friend.
14. I can tolerate stressful social (but distant) interactions (eg. job interviews) quite easily. Personal 1on1 discussions with friends/family are still hard.
What is the diagnosis and prognosis?
Points 1-3 affect me mostly for obvious reasons, everything else is bearable. I do realize I am still having it easier than many of the other posters here, I wish you the best.
I didn't have luck finding anything that matches me 100% in the disorder pages..
many thanks,
Josh
