Anyone freek out when coworkers invite you for a social event

[sevenroses]

Anyone freek out when coworkers invite you for social event outside of work? A couple of coworkers sometimes invite managers, other employees for a bbq or to a pub. I mean I already see them almost on a daily basis. It sucks when your asked on the spot and feel obligated to go and you just wanna do you own thing.

 

[BlackPuma]

Oh a thousand times yes! :3

This would be one of the main reasons why I don't want to work with people. I can suck up and do the work, just do what I'm obligated to do in exchange for money. But at the end of the day I have to be able to let go, and not be reminded of it. And I most definitely don't want to hang out in those awkward situations longer then I have to.

 

[jamez]

Why not make friends with the people you work with? You already spend a lot of time with them so it makes sense to get to know them better. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and do things that would be best for you in the long run.

 

[recluse]

In my last job where i'd been for 8 years i used to dread Christmas time because the guys would invite me to go drinking. I would make excuses but more often than not i'd just not turn up.

 

[Polly_Princess]

The moment I hear the words "We're having drinks tonight, Polly. Are you coming?" excuses immediately pour out of my mouth before I even have time to think about it. It's habit.

 

[dottie]

yes!! it's like being asked to work overtime without pay and being obligated to waste your money. haha i'm such an optimist!

i would go to save face but that is how i would feel about it. unless, of course, a real friendship did strike up. that would be awesome.

 

[ripewithdecay]

Yeah the moment anyone invites me out it's like this huge wave of anxiety comes over me and already im in defense mode coming up with an excuse, which is then followed by relief if they let it go at that. But then later on will be the dreaded guilt, and that's probably the worst part of it.

 

[agoraphobickatie]

i don't have a job at the moment, 'cause i'm too anxious to have one... but i am a bit of a flirt, and i'll talk to guys or text and stuff and then they'll ask to hang out and i'm just like "eeeek!" lol.. it makes me really nervous to think about going on a date.. just because i'm agoraphobic and i have anxiety in public, especially with someone new... sooo yeah, i still haven't really handled that problem, and i got a lot of great guys wanting to take me out! =/ lol