SierraSage
Active member
I don't know if this bothers anyone else, but nothing makes me want to get in my bed, turn off my phone, and never speak to anyone but my cat again like someone telling me to "get over" something or "move on."
I hate it because I am one of those people who will sit and listen to someone talk something out for years. Unless I think you are trying to insult me or mess with me somehow by bringing up a topic..it truly does not bother me to listen to you. I am not saying "years" to make a point here. I literally listened to my now former best friend talk about a guy she was having an affair with for about a year, and I listened to another friend confide in me about an abusive relationship for about the same amount of time.
Yet any time something is bothering me...even if it's only a few days after the incident...somebody will inevitably tell me to "move on" or "get over it."
I don't think it's fair that everyone else seems to be allowed to go on and on about something...but when I am upset over something...I'm just supposed to shrug it off as though it were nothing more serious than missing an episode of my favorite tv show or not being able to find anything good to read at the library today.
Anytime someone tells me that, I just want to never open up to anyone ever again...or listen to anyone.
I hate it because I am one of those people who will sit and listen to someone talk something out for years. Unless I think you are trying to insult me or mess with me somehow by bringing up a topic..it truly does not bother me to listen to you. I am not saying "years" to make a point here. I literally listened to my now former best friend talk about a guy she was having an affair with for about a year, and I listened to another friend confide in me about an abusive relationship for about the same amount of time.
Yet any time something is bothering me...even if it's only a few days after the incident...somebody will inevitably tell me to "move on" or "get over it."
I don't think it's fair that everyone else seems to be allowed to go on and on about something...but when I am upset over something...I'm just supposed to shrug it off as though it were nothing more serious than missing an episode of my favorite tv show or not being able to find anything good to read at the library today.
Anytime someone tells me that, I just want to never open up to anyone ever again...or listen to anyone.