Any one want to talk? I need help with carrying a conversation.

[RaphialLee]

I all way had problems carrying a conversation. people tend to ignore me and talk to some one else. I also need help when people come up and just talk to me. i never look in there eyes because i always get nervous. i need to learn how to talk to people.

one on one talk would help

 

[missjesss]

Best tips I can give you is too look at them directly and forget about urself and what you are thinking you need to focus on what's being said and remember it's ok to stuff up and joke around that's wat ppl love the most is humour and imperfections. If u start to feel the anxiety just bear it and rememember that they can't see ur anxiety and it's just a feeling also don't focus on ppl around u just focus on the person and wats being said. And remember if u r self concious and feel like they are Better then you u will never beat the feeling bcoz that's the whole problem u must believe u r equal then everything will happen naturally

 

[Snowdrop]

Oh my god. Story of my life.

Yup, happens to me all the time too -_-

 

[Untamed88]

Oh my god. Story of my life.

Mine too.

I get so frustrated on this website. Talking about my SA makes me realise how retarded I am with it. I must be more boring than watching paint dry with the personality I let people see.

 

[JosephG]

feeling this.
Conversation is my flaw. One day I will learn how to connect with someone!
It is just that I can't connect is what hinders me. It's horrible.

 

[Sial Axetder]

Keep in mind not all conversations a long. They can be short. They can be long. Felt nothing more is to be said that could be it. There is nothing left to be said.

Looking, eye contact. Don't worry about it too much. Work on it. I can successfully keep eye contact for about 10 - 15 sec. It is brutally difficult for me. Still.

 

[Feathers]

There are lots of books and articles that can help... Taking theatre/drama workshops can help a lot too!! Or if you have a talkative friend/roommate, you can learn a lot from them!! You can observe posture, tone of voice, etc.

It depends what kind of people you are with too, maybe they are not interested in the same things as you are? Or maybe the situations are too different? (For some people, it may not be easy to talk about 'deep' things at a party with loud music etc.)

It's good to hang out with people who have at least some of the same interests as you do.. So you can talk about things that are interesting to both of you..

 

[Kiwong]

I even have trouble talking to the lady on the automnatic checkout at the supermarket.

"Please place the item in the bagging area."

"Take your items"

She gets so terse with me, and I can tell she finds me boring.

No to be honest, I've been talking well to a few human beings lately. It's practice, the more people you speak to, the more relaxed you get.

 

[RaphialLee]

Yup, happens to me all the time too -_-

what what what what

 

[Feathers]

I even have trouble talking to the lady on the automnatic checkout at the supermarket.

"Please place the item in the bagging area."

"Take your items"

She gets so terse with me, and I can tell she finds me boring.

No to be honest, I've been talking well to a few human beings lately. It's practice, the more people you speak to, the more relaxed you get.

lol I think ladies in the checkout find most people boring - no, it's their job that they probably find boring!! Nobody's fault, sitting there just can't be that fascinating!!

I totally agree, talking to interesting people who are interested in some of the same things that you are is best!!
It's not just 'conversation' - usually it's a conversation ABOUT something!!

Raphial, maybe you can write some of your interests in your profile, this will make it easier to find someone to talk to and practise?