O K sorry I put that part in about him not believing in anxiety. that was insensitive of me I see now.
I just wanted to know if people have problems being intimate with their own partners.
In defence of my husband. I have not spoken to him about my anxieties. Therefore he has not been unsupportive of me. He is somewhat not very understanding about untangible complaints that he cannot see. most people are. I did not get much sympathy for being tired while I was pregnant,either, until I was visibly large and uncomfortable. Even though the first 3 months when you do not look pregnant is the worst part for a lot of people.
My husband worked 14 hour days a 12 years old at very hard jobs. He was lucky to eat. He nearly was killed on the job twice (fall from a 3rd story window cleaning, poisoned by pesticieds in a tobacco field), and had malaria at 13 yet was not able to go to a doctor. How do I complain to him about not being albe to mingle? How do I try to tell him that I want to see a doctor when we can hardly pay our bills!? We have very real and tangible problems. Rant over, sorry.
The intimicy problems are mine. He has been trying hard lateley and I know we need to do these things, and it makes us better and more civil when we do. I just can't help but panic and turn out the lights when he pulls in the driveway:
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