The problem with me is that my daily life is very simple and nothing new ever really happens unless I only talk about sports. I rarely go out with friends and have a small circle consisting of 2 and possibly 3 depending if this guy I call will want to hang out with me sometime, even though lately I've tried to give an effort more to do so. Well you may ask how does not having details about my day to day life hurt me with woman? Well I feel I simply will never be able to converse with a girl in the long run, because after I may know someone for a while there is nothing to share about what's going on in my life. That's an issue I face as an introvert. I mean I guess I could try to join meetup groups of certain specific things I'm interested in, but the problem is that it's not always practical whether it be the often availability of certain groups targeting my interest or where they are located. I mean let me ask people here, can anyone relate to the fact that they don't have anything new to share about their day to day life with someone and because of it you go blank and it hurts your relationship with women? Because for me at least, even though I will converse well on the first date or 2, after that will become a challenge, because literally there isn't anything really much to share about my day to day life. I mean I have a substitute job, but I generally work only 2 days a week and sometimes 3. But other than that I have nothing else really to share with someone.
Am I royally screwed as far as ever having a relationship with a girl?
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Yep. What Hellhound said. Libraries, online, quiet places.
And I'd say, yes, take up attending a meetup group. I do. This friday is a celebration for the April birthdays. I am attending my meetup group. My group does all sorts of things in the city. If I don't participate I wait until one peaks my interest and go. But don't go with intent on hooking up.
And I'd say, yes, take up attending a meetup group. I do. This friday is a celebration for the April birthdays. I am attending my meetup group. My group does all sorts of things in the city. If I don't participate I wait until one peaks my interest and go. But don't go with intent on hooking up.
rosewood
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i have that problem... i make a joke out of it. i say to the person asking, Oh, Do you want to know what happened today which could possibly kill you from boredom or would you like me to make up something exciting, bizarre, and maybe shocking? then i have to make something up....lol
or you could try a little more normal approach and just look up recent news, sports, and entertainment items and bring those up for conversation. or just turn the question back around and say, oh you dont want to hear about me, lets talk about you! redirect, rediect, redirect.
or you could try a little more normal approach and just look up recent news, sports, and entertainment items and bring those up for conversation. or just turn the question back around and say, oh you dont want to hear about me, lets talk about you! redirect, rediect, redirect.
gummybear22
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you could talk about stuff you think about, opinions, beliefs, etc.
i have that problem... i make a joke out of it. i say to the person asking, Oh, Do you want to know what happened today which could possibly kill you from boredom or would you like me to make up something exciting, bizarre, and maybe shocking? then i have to make something up....lol
or you could try a little more normal approach and just look up recent news, sports, and entertainment items and bring those up for conversation. or just turn the question back around and say, oh you dont want to hear about me, lets talk about you! redirect, rediect, redirect.
LOL this is good advice. I actually made a joke with someone the other day. Someone asked me why I was quiet, I told them I'm not my vocal chords are resting. LOL.
Me too. When I first met my friend, we had so much to tell each other. But after a couple of weeks, we ran out of things to say. So my friend would invite me to social events such as a performance so that we could both sit there and watch without saying anything. After the performance is over, we would talk about it. Going to the movies or theme parks is also a good option - not much talking involved.
rosewood
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that's a good one, LOL :bigsmile:
pavnaxtion
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You just linked together a lot of different thoughts and ideas. I don't think conversation is really based on good topics so much as the delivery, the communicating as a leisurely activity with someone you actually like.