I used to hate it when I would sit and have a good conversation with someone and then they would turn around and say I never talk. I'd feel like what the heck, I just talked your ear off the other day? But like Maybeth, I have come to terms that I have more quiet than others out there and that it is okay. I am happy that shyness (which is different that being a quiet person) doesn't rule my life anymore thankfully. Before, when someone would judge me and say things like "why are you so quiet" or "how come you never talk?" I would feel bad about myself, like I was a freak and there was something wrong with me. But now, I feel like I am okay, and if they want to judge me, then oh well, its their own insecurity (and who are they to make me feel like I'm a freak or something is wrong with me, just because I am not as loud or talkative as they are). At first when someone would make a comment, I will get mad about it (which is better than self pity imo), and say something like 'because I am'... Then I dont have a whole lot to do with them (like for example co-workers), I wont hang out with them. People dont say it very much to me anymore, but if they do, maybe we need to say things back like "why are you so judgemental" or why do you talk so much. One thing I have learned is when a quiet person speaks up to defend themselves, people listen... for one they are in shock (because we never or hardly ever do it), and it is a self esteem booster! And, there are people out there who have accepted us as we are and we should concentrate on those relationships! I am thankful for those people who have come in and out of my life.