23 yr old female - never been in a relationship

[weak]

i don't know, i seriously consider killing myself when i see a pretty girl

Serious?

My body tends to have a different reaction

 

[Remus]

My body tends to have a different reaction

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

 

[coriander1992]

All those saying things like: oh but all girls have to do is look good - That's utter tosh, you know. :wink:

The types of people who judge you solely on what you look like are not the types of people you want to be with anyways...

There are loads of stunning-looking girls I know who never get asked, even if they aren't particularly shy. Go figure.

 

[ventriloone]

"The types of people who judge you solely on what you look like are not the types of people you want to be with anyways..."

yea, everyone does to some extent, not necessarily "oh she's hot i want to date her" but yea everyone does to some extent.

But if you're a girl you should wear makeup, i mean you might feel fake but i feel fake doing a ton of things i do, it's just how it goes. If you want to get hit on right away wear too much makeup, girls love doing that.

Yea no guy (i mean this) goes to a club to meet a girl he wants to date. It's just a fact. They go there for one reason and that's ass. And they get it most of the time too.

 

[coriander1992]

"The types of people who judge you solely on what you look like are not the types of people you want to be with anyways..."

yea, everyone does to some extent, not necessarily "oh she's hot i want to date her" but yea everyone does to some extent.

Yes, you're right everybody does to some extent. I was referring to shallow people who judge people solely on what they look like.

But if you're a girl you should wear makeup

Oh we should, should we? See I thought that was a girl's own personal choice, but if you reckon I should then I ought to, ay!

Yea no guy (i mean this) goes to a club to meet a girl he wants to date. It's just a fact. They go there for one reason and that's ass. And they get it most of the time too.

Agreed. Not the best places to look for relationships imo.

 

[ventriloone]

no it's just a fact. Girls wear makeup, it's the norm. I mean if no girls wore makeup then sure you wouldn't but the fact is they do so you might as well. They do look prettier with a bit of makeup, that is the purpose. And you can even look skanky if you want.

 

[Chod77]

no it's just a fact. Girls wear makeup, it's the norm. I mean if no girls wore makeup then sure you wouldn't but the fact is they do so you might as well. They do look prettier with a bit of makeup, that is the purpose. And you can even look skanky if you want.

Oh well I don't wear make up ever so I guess that's just one more thing that makes me freak then . Right? I mean because it's so normal and all. Have you ever tried putting on make up? It's sucks. I hate and I'm not going to wear it.

 

[coriander1992]

no it's just a fact. Girls wear makeup, it's the norm. I mean if no girls wore makeup then sure you wouldn't but the fact is they do so you might as well. They do look prettier with a bit of makeup, that is the purpose. And you can even look skanky if you want.

lol I was just messing around, I know what you meant :wink:

 

[coriander1992]

no it's just a fact. Girls wear makeup, it's the norm. I mean if no girls wore makeup then sure you wouldn't but the fact is they do so you might as well. They do look prettier with a bit of makeup, that is the purpose. And you can even look skanky if you want.

Oh well I don't wear make up ever so I guess that's just one more thing that makes me freak then . Right? I mean because it's so normal and all. Have you ever tried putting on make up? It's sucks. I hate and I'm not going to wear it.

Hey if you have the confidence enough not to want to wear makeup, then go you!

Seriously, I *wish* I never started wearing it at all.

 

[Chod77]

no it's just a fact. Girls wear makeup, it's the norm. I mean if no girls wore makeup then sure you wouldn't but the fact is they do so you might as well. They do look prettier with a bit of makeup, that is the purpose. And you can even look skanky if you want.

Oh well I don't wear make up ever so I guess that's just one more thing that makes me freak then . Right? I mean because it's so normal and all. Have you ever tried putting on make up? It's sucks. I hate and I'm not going to wear it.

Hey if you have the confidence enough not to want to wear makeup, then go you!

Seriously, I *wish* I never started wearing it at all.

lol It's not that at all. I wish I had confidence! I just don't see the point in me trying to look good. It's pointless.

 

[ventriloone]

It's far from pointless. Looks matter, anyone in the world knows that. I know it's sad, bleak, shallow, but it's true. I don't claim to be a good looking person but i do claim to know the importance of it. The fact is looks aren't as arbitrary as you might convince yourself, there's good evolutionary purposes behind why we like what we do. You might as well just go along with it. And if you claim that you don't care about looks i don't believe you to be honest, but i am a guy and maybe some girls actually don't care at all. I can tell you every guy on the face of the planet does though, sorry. I know it feels weird doing something you're not used to. But I don't think people will notice as much as you think. And to be honest if you're afraid you're not doing it right you can look up videos and i see a ton of girls who don't do it well.

 

[bitingthepea]

I can tell you how to solve this but it's up to you if you'll follow it..

Here it goes:

1. Go to a stylist and get yourself trendy clothes
2. Get sexy haircut and makeup whatever
3. Go out to a club with your girlfriends
4. Go on dancefloor and dance with your girlfriends
5. Do this a few times and when a guy approaches you
6. Dance with him
7. Tell him to sit with you
8. Talk with him
9. He'll take your number and call you and things will progress all by themselves

So, will YOU start making your life the way you want it to be or will you let it develop in it's own direction?

First of all what is a sexy haircut? I don't wear makeup because I feel fake when I do. I don't have "girlfriends" I have one friend and she is a year younger than me so we couldn't go to the club together if we wanted to. Going to a night club would just be a horrible experience. I've seen pictures of my peers on MySpace at the club and it is just full of jackasses and sluts. I would definitely not fit in there. I don't dance. That would send my anxiety through the roof. Soooo it's not as simple as "Follow these 9 steps and it'll happen."

yeah i agree totally id love to be able to do that but havent got the confidence, and even if i did get glammed up id feel paranoid that i looked like atart or something
but i can see where your coming from, probably done in small steps like i dno.... starting to wear mascara or heels.. 1 thing ata time

=]

 

[Riiya]

[Monthly post deletion.]

 

[coriander1992]

I think most relationship-themed threads in this forum tend to end badly. It's tradition.

 

[blackhole]

haha what happend to my thread?

i think i suffer from BDD too so i have ultra low self esteem when it comes to my looks.

i suffer from SA but still go pubs/clubs every so often, so if a guy could have made his move he would have by now

saying that maybe im just picky, ive been asked out a couple of times, and rejected them because they seemed like losers

is it wrong for someone who has SA to not want a loser BF - ie like me! maybe thats a bit judgemental

time is ticking for me and 23 is old.

 

[Ubersonic]

haha what happend to my thread?
saying that maybe im just picky, ive been asked out a couple of times, and rejected them because they seemed like losers

So what exactly makes these guys seem like "losers"?

 

[Liz17]

Im 23 also, it does seem old, but we arent that old really theres plenty of time! xxx

 

[hartbrokenvirgo]

I was unaware that girls had to do anything other than look nice to get a bf.

there are lots of nice looking girls on this site that have never had a boyfriend so apparently they do have to do more than just look nice

If that aint the truth....Not saying im good lookin or nothing

 

[hartbrokenvirgo]

It's so hard being chatty to a guy when all you're thinking is, i bet i look a right state! why is he looking at me like that and how the hell can i get out of here quickly!

You are very beautiful and cute! Let's marry and have 5 kids together Ahaha, lol... Being beautiful or handsome doesn't change anything for us though, how sad. I'm not particularly ugly either. It's a brain thing.... :twisted:

That really made me laugh

See my first thoughts though when i read that was, awww he's just being nice, i honestly can never understand why anyone would be interested in me!

omg gosh why? your so pretty :wink: you have nice hair too lol.but i inderstand what you mean, ppl say im very pretty but i just dont see it, i think all the years of being the picked on girl in school has ruined my view of myself

 

[Argamemnon]

See my first thoughts though when i read that was, awww he's just being nice, i honestly can never understand why anyone would be interested in me!

I was being serious; you look like a kind person, and you're also beautiful in my opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I don't know what other people think, but you look very beautiful to me.