eso
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I have some issue with talking to women and people in general that's getting me and I'm still not sure what's up. Mostly with strangers but even in a group of friends I hesitate automatically.
The other day I was trying to be proactive as I usual and I saw some girls walking by with Gryffindor scarves on. Seeing as how I had a Hufflepuff hat on, I looked over to them and said "I like your scarves." The girl closest to me glanced over and said nothing like she was scared and walked away faster. I was nervous before saying it, and really nervous during, and I had this overwhelming shaking inside me afterwards.
This I don't understand. I don't take this personally. I knew what happened was I wasn't really putting a more friendly voice/face forward. I was nervous but of course these days I introduce myself to people a lot. So walking away from that experience I realized maybe I should have been more energetic, because the way I did it was pretty low and creepy. But I mess up sometimes, that's to be expected. Fine, next time I'll try being less creepy and more fun.
Either she was really shy, or she freaked out that some stranger spoke to her, or she misheard me, or my favorite because it happens to me all the time - I know someone's talking to me and I didn't hear it and I am to afraid to say anything so I walk away. It was any number of reasons. At the moment and time, I thought these very things. I didn't for one moment take it personally. These things happen, there are misunderstandings. I smiled it off knowing this to be the truth.
So why on earth was I SO messed up and anxious inside my chest for a good 3-5 minutes afterwards?
I dunno, maybe embarrassment? I was in a crowded area is what really bothered me. I think what maybe really got me was that what I did was akin to trying to "pick someone up" even though I only really wanted to talk to them because they were wearing Gryffindor scarves and I was so curious. So, to the crowd around me, in my perception it looked like I was trying to pick some girls up but it went sour immediately, and now I was walking along looking like a fool, like people were laughing at me. Maybe. I just had to write this out and I am maybe coming to the reasons why. But how do you get rid of feelings like that?
The other day I was trying to be proactive as I usual and I saw some girls walking by with Gryffindor scarves on. Seeing as how I had a Hufflepuff hat on, I looked over to them and said "I like your scarves." The girl closest to me glanced over and said nothing like she was scared and walked away faster. I was nervous before saying it, and really nervous during, and I had this overwhelming shaking inside me afterwards.
This I don't understand. I don't take this personally. I knew what happened was I wasn't really putting a more friendly voice/face forward. I was nervous but of course these days I introduce myself to people a lot. So walking away from that experience I realized maybe I should have been more energetic, because the way I did it was pretty low and creepy. But I mess up sometimes, that's to be expected. Fine, next time I'll try being less creepy and more fun.
Either she was really shy, or she freaked out that some stranger spoke to her, or she misheard me, or my favorite because it happens to me all the time - I know someone's talking to me and I didn't hear it and I am to afraid to say anything so I walk away. It was any number of reasons. At the moment and time, I thought these very things. I didn't for one moment take it personally. These things happen, there are misunderstandings. I smiled it off knowing this to be the truth.
So why on earth was I SO messed up and anxious inside my chest for a good 3-5 minutes afterwards?
I dunno, maybe embarrassment? I was in a crowded area is what really bothered me. I think what maybe really got me was that what I did was akin to trying to "pick someone up" even though I only really wanted to talk to them because they were wearing Gryffindor scarves and I was so curious. So, to the crowd around me, in my perception it looked like I was trying to pick some girls up but it went sour immediately, and now I was walking along looking like a fool, like people were laughing at me. Maybe. I just had to write this out and I am maybe coming to the reasons why. But how do you get rid of feelings like that?