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Old 12-08-2009
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O K, playing devil's advocate... Do you think that internet/texting contribute to the S A problem. I mean having an alternative to face to face social interaction. Like taking the path of least resistance...
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Old 12-08-2009
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O K, playing devil's advocate... Do you think that internet/texting contribute to the SA problem. I mean having an alternative to face to face social interaction. Like taking the path of least resistance...
I've thought about that. I don't think it contributes to the problem so much as it gets in the way of "real" social interaction. I don't feel as though I am worse off because of the internet. Without it I would probably just watch more TV or read. I would just trade one "escape" for another.
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Old 12-08-2009
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I would just trade one "escape" for another.
Point taken. I can think of quite few escapes more harmful than internet interaction.
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Old 12-09-2009

I am the same way,not many friends,I dress the same way you see me in my avatar,the only place I am different is at work,where I have to put on a mask if I want to get along with people.
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Old 12-09-2009

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I was thinking the same thing!
At least i'd try to say hi
I think it would be good for us. I'd love to see how things played out.
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Old 12-09-2009
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same ole outgoin' online and a shyzie in life, somehow i manage
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Old 12-09-2009
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irl, i tend to sugarcoat things, and i have a hard time ever admiting there's a problem or im irritated- i tend to just say everything's fine.

i can't talk about my anxiety or my self-esteem or fears in real life.... online i know that there's a lot of people going through the same thing, so it's easier to talk about. and i don't have to get that pity look or have people blame themselves for my problems.

im more uncomfortable talking to people one on one online.... smiling and nodding don't really keep a conversation going when typing, and with im especially, the speed of the convo tends to be a lot faster than in real life. and its hard for me to know what to say because like someone said earlier, it's hard to judge emotion sometimes from text. and i don't want to take what i said in the wrong way... and having a written record of my awkwardness is hard for me to look at sometimes :/
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Old 12-21-2009
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In real life I feel like - an awkward weirdo.

On the internet I feel like - an awkward and uninteresting weirdo.
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Old 12-22-2009
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I'm more serious in real life, but I always try to be nice to people whether it's on the internet or in person.
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Old 12-23-2009
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There's no real life me as of yet. I have and had always been only words on paper, pixels on a screen, 0's and 1's

The real life me is not the real me at all, in fact he's not me at all. I'm only myself when I'm alone, and I direly hope for it to change some time soon.
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Old 12-23-2009
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real life is hard and uneasy to me, exist in internet is make me more comfortable and looks easy to express my self..
and it's nice if can meet and gathering people that have same problem with me , because in real life I feel I'm alone and no one really understand about my problem even the closest person with me like my family....
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Old 12-23-2009
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when I was younger, the other kids told me once I was way cooler and funnier online :s
I still often have the feeling that if I could write/ type conversations all the time instead of speaking directly, my social life would be so much easier...
come to think of it...I even kinda lost someone I truly loved because of this...
There was this girl with who I had the best, longest, deepest conversations over the internet/text messages... but when I saw her @ school, all I could say was 'Hi' and 'how was your math test'....:
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Old 12-23-2009
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Originally Posted by lyricalliaisons View Post
Internet me is basically the me I would be in real life, if I weren't so scared all the time. I'm much more "real" online than off. I can actually be me on here.
I couldn't have said it better. same here.
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Old 12-23-2009
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I know for a fact that I say WAY too much on here. Things that I normally wouldn't say in real life, only because I would be way too embarrassed to admit things like being a 41 year old guy who has no experience with a female... (for instance) I would be allot more reserved in real life, due to the SA and all... That and you do have to be more PC in real life, because even mentioning that you are a hunter and like guns and stuff.. People freak out, they immediately think oh he is some kind of murderer or killer of innocent lives or whatnot... Too many judgmental people in real life. So being reserved is the order of the day for me, at least in real life verses the internet and this forum.... IMHO
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Old 12-23-2009
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I'm way cooler in person
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Old 12-23-2009

I'm a lot more open online. Other than that I'm still my same weird self.
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Old 12-24-2009
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internet,or letters are better.
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Old 12-27-2009
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Yeah, in some ways I feel I can express my-self better in real life but it’s only with the people I am comfortable with and I am only comfortable with my fiancé. Someone on a forum I use to go to said I seem like I am an up-beat person.

I wouldn’t say I seem like a depressed person in real life but I do struggle with those thoughts and feelings. I think my anxiety is fairly obvious at times because you can hear it in my voice and I break out into a rash.
The internet hides some things about me somewhat but in terms of expressing myself I still have probably just as many insecurities with doing it online as I do in real life.

It is hard to say how different my real self is vs my internet self. I guess you would have to get it from a perspective of someone that knows you both ways and I am sure what you read in text can seem way different when you meet them in person there’s an essence that lacks.
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Old 12-27-2009
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I'm just as shy and friendless online as offline. The sense of anonymity means I'm more open, but I'm not any more confident.

Actually I find people who are really confident online yet shy offline rather difficult to talk to. I never know who the 'real' them is. Having said that, if you can be confident in at least one place, that's better for you than being unconfident in both.
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Old 12-27-2009

I think I am the same, I am just always me.
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