people talking about you
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pandamonium77
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Yes, but it's gotten better. When ever i heard the little whispering conversations between two people, i would get so worried they were talking about me, even though i knew they weren't. I think it's just the secret vibe(?) that comes off of the "whispering tone" is what made me worry the most... if that makes sense :\
Morgan01
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yeah.. I always seem to think people have some alterior motive to everything if someone does something small I think about all the things they are probably thinking about and shit.. and yeah I tend to think people talk about me.. sometimes for good reason and sometimes for not so good reason.
it comes and goes
it comes and goes
getbornagain
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I've always had the paranoia about what people are saying/thinking about me when I'm not around/behind my back. It was worst as a teen before my OCD was ever-present. Now more than ever I am able to realize people don't talk about you about 95% of the time you think they are. You are not the center of the universe.
Hopefully you all can realize this too lol.
Hopefully you all can realize this too lol.
BlaiseBLATES
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Yeah, all I have to do is walk past someone giggling and it's like "Why are they talking about me?! Is there something THAT wrong with me?!"
It got to me real bad at the end of last year and I'd go out in a black hoodie and skinny's hoping no one would take too much notice...
It's gotten better now thought I guess.
It got to me real bad at the end of last year and I'd go out in a black hoodie and skinny's hoping no one would take too much notice...
It's gotten better now thought I guess.
Reiji Moritsugu
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I am just...how to say it, one of the most paranoid guys you´ll ever meet ._.
so yeah, I´ve always had those thoughts of people talking the worst possible
things about me. Since I have HUGE trust issues [who wouldn´t after years
of being used and thrown away by every single person who was thought to
be a friend, or at least nicer than others?] I am also always thinking that people
have ulterior motives for EVERYTHING, from the simplest to the complex actions...
whenever someone talks to me, and is somewhat nice, I always think stuff like
"Yeah right. You think I´m falling for your lies? I know you´re just being nice to
me because there´s something you want / someone is forcing you to do so /
or you just want to be considered polite."
The same goes for the question first asked in this thread: whenever I´m in a group and leave, the first thought that appears in my mind is something along the lines of:
"Great. I´m sure they´re a lot happier now that I´m gone, saying things like: thank god he went away, or I thought he was going to stay with us forever." I´ve tried to see things the way getbornagain said, but it becomes a bit hard when every time you´ve tried to see things differently and let go of paranoia, the result is being backstabbed yet again. Is there some sort of hope? who knows...I just know that I´ll always have options as long as I´m alive, so...
whatever.
so yeah, I´ve always had those thoughts of people talking the worst possible
things about me. Since I have HUGE trust issues [who wouldn´t after years
of being used and thrown away by every single person who was thought to
be a friend, or at least nicer than others?] I am also always thinking that people
have ulterior motives for EVERYTHING, from the simplest to the complex actions...
whenever someone talks to me, and is somewhat nice, I always think stuff like
"Yeah right. You think I´m falling for your lies? I know you´re just being nice to
me because there´s something you want / someone is forcing you to do so /
or you just want to be considered polite."
The same goes for the question first asked in this thread: whenever I´m in a group and leave, the first thought that appears in my mind is something along the lines of:
"Great. I´m sure they´re a lot happier now that I´m gone, saying things like: thank god he went away, or I thought he was going to stay with us forever." I´ve tried to see things the way getbornagain said, but it becomes a bit hard when every time you´ve tried to see things differently and let go of paranoia, the result is being backstabbed yet again. Is there some sort of hope? who knows...I just know that I´ll always have options as long as I´m alive, so...
whatever.
Danfalc
Banned
Yeah,when i was first coming off drugs a while back.My social anxiety sky rocketed.I was convinced people were talking about me and my anxiety and excesive worrying bordered on full scale paranoia.
Sometimes id think people who were smiling at me were smirking at me...and this is just an example but i was in a doctors waiting room once and these two girls were sat across from me giggling like mad and looking at me,not really a rare thing for teenage girls to do :
: well the giggling anyway but i was coninced they were laughing at me.Or id done somthing stupid to make them laugh and i actualy had to leave the room b/c the feeling of being so self concious was too intense.It passed eventualy for me though i still get paranoid,though my doctor says its just my anxiety making me constantly question everything too much.But yeah i hope it passes for you aswell.
Perfidion
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Sometimes id think people who were smiling at me were smirking at me...and this is just an example but i was in a doctors waiting room once and these two girls were sat across from me giggling like mad and looking at me,not really a rare thing for teenage girls to do :
Once you realise that the average teenage girl has the brain of a semi-retarded goldfish, and they generally giggle stupidly at everything, it's a lot easier to acknowledge the fact that your own paranoia is just messing with you.
chickenmaryjane
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What! You must be retarded for making a comment like that.
Riptor
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It's the laughing for me, too. Random people I don't care about, but if I hear my co-workers laughing nearby or if I walk in the room and they're laughing and suddenly stop (probably because they think I'm a robot who can't process humor and may attack if I detect laughter) I get a horrible feeling that I'm the butt of some joke.
Agreed, I feel the same way. Maybe I'm being paranoid or what but I swear people are laughing at me. Bunch of girls I walked past laughed as soon as I walked past, then I confronted them on the defensive, asking "Is something funny?" . Turns out they were laughing at something on one of their phones. I felt a right tit lol.
Perfidion
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Note that I used the words "average" and "generally", so feel free to exclude yourself from my assessment.
JA2007
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.and this is just an example but i was in a doctors waiting room once and these two girls were sat across from me giggling like mad and looking at me,not really a rare thing for teenage girls to do :
They probably thought you were cute and were trying to get your attention. You are a good looking guy (so I have seen in your pics). Not sure, though, why younger girls use this tactic to get a guys' attention.
Danfalc
Banned
Yeah teenage girls have a habit of giggling full stop lol,whatever the reason back then i was just far too insecure and paranoid to be rational about it.Thanks for the compliment though!
Been there, done that. LOL they should be renamed from teenage girls to giggle machines! If they are with more than 1 mate at the time it's amplified lol.
gsmax5
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Yeah, that's exactly how I am.
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bluecloud
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i have always been realy worried about wut ppl say about me. in high school i was so paranoid that ppl were talking about me that i got ulcers. i couldnt stand it so i kept skipping school. so then i messed up my grades and then i lost all the friends i had or atleast i thought they were my friends but thats another story. it got so bad i started to do hardcore drugs. that helped but when i stoped i would still get those fellings and i tried to trust in ppl but it seems pointless when ppl are only in it for themselves. i couldnt drop the feelin that i was being used or i was being put down everytime someone was wispering to each other i would think it was about me. so i had to keep to myself just so i dont go insaine. i stayed away from ppl so much and so long that i went social and emotianly numb
i became socialy retarded b/c i had a diffrent way of thinking then everyone else.
it has gottin better now since i stoped carring about wut ppl think about me.
it helps to think u are amazing
if someone is wispering and u think its about u try and think its good things
if u think ppl are after u i say just let them try i got something for them
if its at school or in ur work place then confront them nicely
and last but not least ppl care about u as much as u care about them give or take
i just adoupted the method of not carring and now i cant care if i tryed
My mother told me not to care about wut ppl thought of me all that matterd was wut i thought about myself.
i became socialy retarded b/c i had a diffrent way of thinking then everyone else.
it has gottin better now since i stoped carring about wut ppl think about me.
it helps to think u are amazing
if someone is wispering and u think its about u try and think its good things
if u think ppl are after u i say just let them try i got something for them
if its at school or in ur work place then confront them nicely
and last but not least ppl care about u as much as u care about them give or take
i just adoupted the method of not carring and now i cant care if i tryed
My mother told me not to care about wut ppl thought of me all that matterd was wut i thought about myself.