My Mother Talks Too Much

Bittersweet

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My mother has guests this week and if other people are around she talks non stop. I wake up in the morning to an endless stream of loud talking.

Luckily, the people are only here in the mornings. When family comes to visit, it goes on all day long. Mostly my mother talking loudly, interrupting and repeating the same stories over and over.

I am not yet able to work, so I have nowhere I can go at 7 am to escape the relentless, mindless, endless talking about insignificant things. I don't understand how someone can say so much, and yet say so little.

I enjoy a good conversation, but listening to my mother go on and on in a loud voice and hardly let others get a word in edgewise is driving me crazy.

They don't seem to mind, but then they don't live with her.

I will probably get scolded for criticizing my mother, but it's easy to judge if you don't live with it.
 
^ I know how you feel. I go to my grandmothers, and if they have a party it's her talking constantly, barely coming up for air.

If I think of something witty to say it'll seem like it's taken me hours to come up with, that's how long she talks for without break
 

MrJones

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Mine too. ..
Funny part: she often talks about how her mother talks too much :p
Worst part: even louder, irritating laugh
 

Bittersweet

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barely coming up for air.

That's exactly it!

As for the headphones suggestion, the house is small enough that she can be heard and her voice carries, so headphones don't really block it out.

Every now and then, in a store, she is able to speak in a barely audible voice, so I know that she is capable of it. But at home, she won't do that.

It's not only the level of sound, it's the uninterrupted break that is also frustrating. It's like Chinese water torture.

For example, now it's 9:40 am. I woke up before 8 am and the talking has been nonstop since then. It's 95% of my mother, when the others try to speak, she is still making noises and interrupting to make sure she gets her chance to comment.
 
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Feathers

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hmm, go for a walk then? Or to the library/cafe/somewhere else entirely?

First I wanted to ask if you have my Mother, but she sounds even 'worse' than mine, lol!
(She can be a good person but some behaviours can just kinda be 'incompatible'... if someone wishes for peace in the morning etc.)

Some people do 'think aloud' and it can be quite annoying, yeah... Maybe she needs more company? does she have any friends or relatives she could visit and talk to?
I found that many times people who are really lonely/alone a lot can talk a lot when someone is 'finally' present... Or you could steer conversation into waters more interesting for you at least?
 

Bittersweet

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I usually stay out of the house.

The problem is usually only when she has company. Right now she has guests and she serves them breakfast, so it's in the hours of morning before other places are open and everyone is still waking up.

As for topics, she has no interest in the topics I enjoy. Yes, incompatible is a good way to put it.

Today the guests are leaving, so it should go back to normal. I am merely venting my frustration. :)

Don't get me wrong, she's a good person, but a lifetime of her non stop talking and inability to do anything quietly is wearing me down.
 

Feathers

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haha yeah, I understand...

sometimes one just needs to vent... or find own company with more 'compatible' interests...

earmuffs or music can sometimes help too... (even though some things can still be heard, I find the music distracts me enough, often) It helps if I eat something too, being hungry my ears are more 'sensitive' somehow...

Hope things get better soon!!
 

Feathers

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hm tigerlilja, I do miss my Gran

she could tell stories of old times too, but they were mostly interesting - at least to me. I/we also encouraged her to write her memories down, for future generations... how they lived though WW II etc...
Maybe you can encourage your Gran to write things down too? Maybe then she won't feel such need to repeat them? Or you could record/write them down yourself?

If you don't know who the people are, ask her - maybe she has photos or can explain?
There are a lot of life lessons one can learn from the older generations, sometimes...

If your Gran has Alzheimer's or dementia though, that can be more difficult.. my other Grandpa sometimes said things that didn't have sense and weren't 'real' - kinda like 'imaginary fairytales', you know? Like it was sunny summer and he'd say it's snow/winter etc. But it was kinda interesting too, to try to figure out the way his mind worked...
There are books and websites on how to deal with Alzheimer's/dementia... and support forums for caregivers too...
 

Lambie

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I feel for you lol.. my grandmother is exactly the same.
She repeats the same story over and over to whoever comes to visit us, and her reaction is as if she's telling it for the first time, she's still hypo about whatever it is she's talking about. If someone tries to get whatever they want to say across she just butts in as if 'my stories more important than yours'.
 

Phoenixx

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Had to laugh at this post since I go through the exact same thing. My mother is a very outgoing and talkative person. Hell, I don't think I'm even related to her. :rolleyes: Yeah it gets on my nerves quite a bit. She loves people so much, she actually goes out of her way to befriend my friends. Not saying that's always a bad thing, to have a parent close to your friends. But it's just that once that happens, I feel out of place. My mother talks to some of my friends so much, I swear they know her better than they even know me. :p
 
For example, now it's 9:40 am. I woke up before 8 am and the talking has been nonstop since then. It's 95% of my mother, when the others try to speak, she is still making noises and interrupting to make sure she gets her chance to comment.

Haha, I get this totally. It's her monologue, and when someone else dares to speak, they cant say 5 words with her saying "yeah" "oh really?" "wow", "no, she never!". I know its common courtesy to do that occasionally, but really she takes the biscuit
 

Nanita

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Mothers can be extremely annoying. For me, the solution is distance and long periods of not seing her.
 

mmmm

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Do your moms do this:


Mine will talk on the phone non-stop for ages and when the other person finally gets her off the line, she will say to me "sorry I took so long, I couldn't get so-and-so to stop talking"

?
 

Phoenixx

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Do your moms do this:


Mine will talk on the phone non-stop for ages and when the other person finally gets her off the line, she will say to me "sorry I took so long, I couldn't get so-and-so to stop talking"

?
^ o_O Do you know my mother? I think you do.

My mother isn't totally like that though. Every once in a while she's that bad on the phone. She's talks more in person, for some reason.
 
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