Leaving an impression

What is it about some people that leaves an impression on others? Is it what they do or what they say? Or is it something less defined like "vibes" they give off or a feeling they create in others? Is leaving an impression a talent that can be learned or are you stuck with what you have?

I find that I don't seem to leave any impression of people. I can talk to them but once the conversation is over it's almost as if I'm forgotten. There doesn't seem to be any continuity. It feels as though every time I talk to someone I am talking to them for the first time.

Of course it could all be in my head, but no one initiates anything with me. I'm the one that always has to start a conversation. I would think if I left any type of impression some people would start something with me, considering I'd be on their mind to some degree.

yeah i think i know what your saying i get that too. i guess its becuzz other people be themselves so that leaves an impression you know what kind of person they are. but if you dont be yourself then that doesent leave any type of impression...

Good topic.
I always try my best to present myself as à Nice person.
And I try to give a good impression.
But i remember times that it really went bad and i was really awkward and just quiet.
Or times that everything depended on me and THE other person just dont gave à damn about me.
So many people, you like them or you dont.
But remember one good thing..
Sometimes people judge too fast or don't think twice
Every human has a imperfection and that could be the reason of not giving a good impression
But when I think of that I think why do people do that
Every human deserves love and friendship..
So first impression doesn't say everything
And some people don't know how to present to be fun
I'm one of them. Suck at it.
But humour works

I think a vibe is given off, you just sorta get an impression sub-consciously almost. I'm very intuitive minded though, so I think it depends on the person. If there is nothing memorable/unique/noticeable about the exchange, I don't think an impression will be left. Memorable could be a trait they like though, like kind, funny, smart, reserved, ect.., and somewhat like them or complements them well.

I have found that a lot of people are "put off" or made weary about someone if they appear to be visibly nervous.
Do you think that people may not initiate a conversation with you because they remember you as being a nervous person?
I have found that to be the case in many situations myself.

BlueDays said:

I have found that a lot of people are "put off" or made weary about someone if they appear to be visibly nervous.

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Agreed 100% And that makes me so mad too.

jneal25 said:

Agreed 100% And that makes me so mad too.

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Yeah, it used to make me mad too, but now I find it just frustrating.
I can kind of understand why it would make people think twice about approaching or starting a conversation with a visibly nervous person. Especially if they are socially competent themselves, as some of those types of people have a really hard time understanding nervous people.
Most people are weary of things they don't understand .

nice, considerate (in most cases), gentle, etc. does not leave memorable impressions

philly2bits said:

What is it about some people that leaves an impression on others? Is it what they do or what they say? Or is it something less defined like "vibes" they give off or a feeling they create in others? Is leaving an impression a talent that can be learned or are you stuck with what you have?

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Being 'charismatic'? Charming? Lovely to talk to...? Making people feel good about themselves and you?

Yup, it can be learnt. Lots of books on good communication and even some stuff on developing charisma etc.
When you live the life you want and are energetic and interesting, you can develop your unique kind of charisma..

I find that I don't seem to leave any impression of people. I can talk to them but once the conversation is over it's almost as if I'm forgotten. There doesn't seem to be any continuity. It feels as though every time I talk to someone I am talking to them for the first time.

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It depends what you talk to them about.. And how..
Are you adding something to the conversation? Telling any exciting or interesting new things? etc.

Of course it could all be in my head, but no one initiates anything with me. I'm the one that always has to start a conversation. I would think if I left any type of impression some people would start something with me, considering I'd be on their mind to some degree.

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Well, it could be you have a strong dominant personality too.. Maybe they are not so dominant or even more shy and just waiting for you to start talking?

Mokkat said:

nice, considerate (in most cases), gentle, etc. does not leave memorable impressions

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Well, it depends.. This is what I love most about my grandma and it's DEFINITELY memorable!!

I can relate to this one a bit. First impressions are VERY important in my opinion. Its the one thing that can make or break a potential friendship. I think creating positive feelings when someone sees you plays a lot in getting along with others (something I cant do very well..it is usually the other way with me)

I also find, like you that I am ALWAYS the one that makes initial contact. I try to be warm and friendly but I am so anxious that I cant pull it off very well and end up making other people feel uncomfortable instead. I think people judge others far too quickly, and make up their mind about how other people are without even REALIZING that they are either being biased or are basing their feelings about you on preconceived ideas they have about you.

People are incredibly confusing....and they can be really nasty. Whenever I am around them I feel unhappy because I know how they feel about me. When I am not around them I long for them because I get lonely and yearn for acceptance and friendship just like anyone else.

Howdy,

Yeah, leaving the first impression is very very important, typically in my position it is, since I'm a member of Management for my store. You need that knack of being in control, sympathy, and all of that good stuff. Sometime, it doesn't happen the way you want too, but if you still tried your best, you know that you did your best. But it can put people off too, it's a skill, really. Just have to learn how to "Feel" and read "Verbal Clues."

Granted, I admit, I'm still socially awkward, and don't like people, but I have to do what I have to do bring in the bacon. =)