How to deal with a bad breakup?

So Me and my now ex boyfriend haven't talked for 3 days straight. He just completely stopped answering my texts, and calls randomly. No explanation or reason. I tried texting and calling and he wasn't answering so I finally went to his house last night and confronted him. Surprisingly he answered the door and I asked if we could talk and he said he was busy and didn't wanna talk about it and slammed the door in my face. All I wanted was closure and for him to say he didn't wanna be with me. I then came home and looked at my snapchat stories and a girl I'm friends with had a snapchat story with him in it. I'm really frustrated with everything.
I'm the kind of person who likes things to end on a good note. I don't understand what I did or what's even happening. It's killing me. All I wanted was at least 5 mins of mature talking and idk what to do. Plz give advice. Thanks

Pretend he never existed and never talk to him again. Move on. Some people are not worth keeping around.

You should be granted closure at least. I guess all you can do is send him a polite brief text/email type asking for reasons if that's what you need to move on.

But ideally you won't have any contact with him at all. Absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder. Whether he chooses to respond or not, you should wipe him from your life as much as possible, remove any reminders of him from your day to day life.

Until then you have to just try and do everything people advise you to do (focus on yourself, spend time with others, make a change with a new hair do or fitness and the like), though if you're still despairing you won't absorb any of that yet.

Just remember to let yourself feel your pain, don't try and suppress it. Feeling it is the only way to move on and learn from it. By avoiding it you're just delaying the process. You're obviously on this site for a reason, now that you're single you can give self-improvement/acceptance your all, no more distractions.

Cut all ties you have to him. Take your time and "mourn" the relationship and how it ended. Make peace with it and move on, knowing that you're much better off single than in a relationship with him and constantly anxious, worried or paranoid. Embrace the freedom that comes from it, and go on with your life.

I know that this might sound a bit corny but trust me, he's not worth it and you're way better off without him. A guy that doesn't even have the courage to break up with his girlfriend is quite pathetic. You can do so much better

Move on find someone who wont slam the door in your face, dont worry this too shall pass

Hellhound said:

Pretend he never existed and never talk to him again. Move on. Some people are not worth keeping around.

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I agree with this. He doesn't want to talk so forget about him now. Move on to better pastures.

Hellhound said:

Pretend he never existed and never talk to him again. Move on. Some people are not worth keeping around.

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This isn't going to help because he did exist. That's like ignoring that you're ill hoping it will go away. He existed, the relationship existed, and she should take her time to process the fact that it ended, so she can move on.

Thanks everyone for the advice and thoughts. It really helped me a lot of what to do in my future relationships. I have no regrets of how I reacted in this situation. I deserve a reason and explanation of why he did what he did. Unfortunately I will never know but I'm just glad it happened now and not later in our relationship.

Sacrament said:

This isn't going to help because he did exist. That's like ignoring that you're ill hoping it will go away. He existed, the relationship existed, and she should take her time to process the fact that it ended, so she can move on.

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Exactly. But messaging the guy is pointless. Once it ended, it's time to leave the person behind. Staying around will be uselessly painful for her and a waste of time.

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