How Can Talkative Outgoing people have it?

Because whenever i'm spurred on and become energetic and start talking alot in conversation which is rare these days i feel relaxed and better about myself ...

so i don't understand how outgoing people can have SA ..because your hiding it by being involved so nobody really knows you have a problem ..its not obvious

if it was me i'd be proud that i could express myself out aloud ..

is it more the way you come across?

talkative outgoing people don't have it

How can they have it??

I personally can't speak....I mumble at best

so i don't understand how outgoing people can have SA ..because your hiding it by being involved so nobody really knows you have a problem ..its not obvious

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talkative outgoing people don't have it

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Yes, they can. I used to have the same opinion as you guys, until a few years ago. In 2005 i think it was, I dated this girl for around a year. On the outside she was literally the centre of attention she could be that likeable, talkative, and funny. But what lay underneath, and what she was like when she wasnt putting on a show in private, was a different story.

Remember that Agorophabia, and other phobias, do not affect everyone the same, and that different people can sometimes deal with it dramitcally different to what you do. She really taught me a thing or two as much as i dont like to admit it.

edited to add: And take me as well, for instance. I'v changed alot since i first got this condition going on 9-10 years ago now. These days you wouldnt know i had anything like this, people might just think that sometimes im abrupt or rude or hard to get along with. Give me something to sell, i can be super confident, pushy, a natural. Ask me to go to a bbq, i wont want to ill be *uckin scared of it. Figure that out. So we mustnt judge people you never know what is going on inside the bloke next to you.

I agree with Tommy. When i've been out with my friends a lot of them haven't known about my problems, social anxiety, GAD, Pannic attacks, depression, self harm etc. Because I can put on a pretty good front, I can act. Although I don't like to be the center of attention sometimes I can force myself to deal with it and other times I just can't go anyway. Like recently I haven't been able to go out to eat or drink with my friends and I feel pretty bad, even the thought of going to the store makes me feel bad.
People don't know the truth about me unless I let them know because i'm a pretty good actress, but what's going on in the inside is another matter... it's killing me.
Please don't be so judegemental.

That's odd... How can talkative and outgoing people have social anxiety?
If they do basically they wouldn't be talkative and outgoing... :\

17-1 said:

That's odd... How can talkative and outgoing people have social anxiety?
If they do basically they wouldn't be talkative and outgoing... :\

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Read what I said. There is no doubt I have social anxiety, I get the horrible nervous rash on my chest which I cover up with a hoodie or jacket until it goes. I blush easy but i'm learning to control it. I escape to the bathrooms a lot. Sometimes people can HIDE it.
Celebrities even have it.

I get occasions when i am hyperactive and talk and laugh quite a lot(with people i know quite well), but most of the time i am introverted. When i get these talkative outbursts i feel guilty because i know that i'm not really like that, this has led me to believe that i am bi-polar o'r something.

Meow the thing that bothers me is that people that i dont know, they try and make friends with me you know, being really nice to me, trying to talk, inviting me places, and the thing is, theres nothing wrong with alot of them, but because of what im like, they end up probably bieng offended and thinking i dont like them or that im unfriendly. Most of the time i do like them and do want to be friends but .. well you know how it is, they walk away wondering why i dont like them and i walk away wondering why the heck id rather stay home than make new friends and go out partying. Im the same with girls. How many times girls will try and and talk with me, make conversation, come sit at my table if im out somewere, even literally throw themselves at me in the street on a saturday night, and me, DER, what an idiot Lol. If i had an improved personality i would have the best life if only. I do manage to date the odd girl here and there god knows how.

The reason thier so confused is because i dont look like theres anything the matter with me, if anything i look like id be more confident than most people not less, so theres no chance they would guess the truth and take it all the wrong way.

dottie said:

talkative outgoing people don't have it.

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I completely diagree.

I can be the life of a party or social gathering if I wanted to without my social phobia getting in the way... but I need time to recoup afterwards, and I need time to be with myself. When i'm in this state, I can become extremely isolated and not talk to anyone for awhile.

For that reason, I consider myself an outgoing introvert.

I am one of those people that can put on a good front. I am okay with my really close friends and family...most of the time. I can socialize with them but then I also find I make up excuses and stay home when I can't seem to deal with going out with them, usually because the surroundings are with more people and that's way too much sometimes.

I am usually really talkative at work, well once I get used to them but then I go from times when I can have th coffee talk andthen times when coffee talk is way too much.

ahh tommy.. I'm the same way.. "Well you know how it is, they walk away wondering why i dont like them and i walk away wondering why the heck id rather stay home than make new friends and go out partying."

And Creznor. I am also like that. I can hang out with people and be good. but after a night of partying I need to be alone. I dont want to be with other people and I get really irritable when people cramp that recoupe space.

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When you have SA and are outgoing, it's usually a front.

I'm like this. Nobody ever believes that I have SA because they see me as being really outgoing, funny and happy, but it's all acting..

coriander1992 said:

When you have SA and are outgoing, it's usually a front.

I'm like this. Nobody ever believes that I have SA because they see me as being really outgoing, funny and happy, but it's all acting..

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Me too.

las said:

I am one of those people that can put on a good front. I am okay with my really close friends and family...most of the time. I can socialize with them but then I also find I make up excuses and stay home when I can't seem to deal with going out with them, usually because the surroundings are with more people and that's way too much sometimes.

I am usually really talkative at work, well once I get used to them but then I go from times when I can have th coffee talk andthen times when coffee talk is way too much.

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I'm the same, I'm fine with close friends and family - going out for pub lunch next week with close friends and I'm not too worried about it as it's a very quiet pub and it'll be daytime so no one will dress up or anything - but if ppl want me to go out at night or somewhere really crowded I'll find an excuse. It has a lot to do with I can't do hair or make up (and I'm not much good at clothes either) but it IS mostly to do with being with lots of people I won't know :roll: .

I'm usually always very talkative in work - but that's because I know people and the job and feel comfortable in the surroundings. So people just see me as someone friendly, smiley, happy, chatty - and nobody knows what goes on inside my head with all the anxiety!

Social phobia is tough to explain.

Im feeling you alter ego, big time !