Well, we can choose to look at this constructively or we can choose to let it harden and mould us into the very thing we hate. There really is no middle ground. If you want to connect with people then you need to be relatable and empathetic. You can see the action and let yourself stew or you can choose to understand the underlying issues. They don't come from nowhere, afterall, that is exactly why we ourselves are here in the first place: being seen as awkward, aloof, unkind and even cold. If you wamt to find that level of understanding then you better be prepared to give it! Otherwise it's just a case of wanting to have fulfill your needs on your own terms and that just isn't going to work. Look, I understand it's hard, I know that there are people that are so vile you want to snap their necks, and i have been betrayed and attacked so often I sometimes feel it would have more productive to have been a hedgehog with inverted spines and save them the effort of having to plant a dagger. But you have to move on. I know my posts are not generally well received, but I think it best to at least try and offer something constructive you can take out of it all.