SierraSage
Active member
Does anyone else feel like friends and relatives just behave as though they don't deserve the same experiences as everyone else?
Just for one example: On social networking sites, several women I know post glamour and beach/sunbathing shots of themselves. They get absolutely flooded with compliments over it.
I'm not comfortable enough with my appearance to even wear a swimsuit and go to the beach or sunbathe...but I was thinking of posting a nice new professional headshot or two. But when I told some friends...all two of the ones I had...that I was saving up to get them...instead of telling me how fun that would be, how pretty I would look, etc...like everybody else gets...the way people acted..you would have thought I was going to do something X rated and shameful to all who knew me!
Now I don't expect to be innundated with compliments. I just wanted a nice current photo or two and thought it might make me feel like "one of the girls" if only online. But they didn't need to carry on as though I and I alone shouldn't have a good picture up! Geez!
That particular situation is a moot point now. One friend is gone for good..one probably is though Im not sure at this point...and I took my page down..because...I need a social networking page like a fish needs a bicycle. My friends list consisted of my two friends (until they each blocked me on separate occasions)...and a bunch of old school classmates and work contacts and distant relatives.
But just the general attitude upset me...getting the message that anything lighthearted and fun is for everybody else but me.
And just as a side note: Their fears were not justified. I'm one of those people who is overly cautious and reserved with things like that. I dress modestly, and was planning to wear an outfit I would wear to work in the photos.
Just for one example: On social networking sites, several women I know post glamour and beach/sunbathing shots of themselves. They get absolutely flooded with compliments over it.
I'm not comfortable enough with my appearance to even wear a swimsuit and go to the beach or sunbathe...but I was thinking of posting a nice new professional headshot or two. But when I told some friends...all two of the ones I had...that I was saving up to get them...instead of telling me how fun that would be, how pretty I would look, etc...like everybody else gets...the way people acted..you would have thought I was going to do something X rated and shameful to all who knew me!
Now I don't expect to be innundated with compliments. I just wanted a nice current photo or two and thought it might make me feel like "one of the girls" if only online. But they didn't need to carry on as though I and I alone shouldn't have a good picture up! Geez!
That particular situation is a moot point now. One friend is gone for good..one probably is though Im not sure at this point...and I took my page down..because...I need a social networking page like a fish needs a bicycle. My friends list consisted of my two friends (until they each blocked me on separate occasions)...and a bunch of old school classmates and work contacts and distant relatives.
But just the general attitude upset me...getting the message that anything lighthearted and fun is for everybody else but me.
And just as a side note: Their fears were not justified. I'm one of those people who is overly cautious and reserved with things like that. I dress modestly, and was planning to wear an outfit I would wear to work in the photos.