LonelyWoods
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I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend... I feel sad sometimes :-(
Any guy in the 30s, still looking for the first girlfriend?
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Dead_on_Arrival
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Hey there, welcome to SPW.
Like ^ says, there is always hope. It's not like your 80 and single. Statisticaly people in there 30's and 40's are more likely to find that special someone than someone younger anyway...
Like ^ says, there is always hope. It's not like your 80 and single. Statisticaly people in there 30's and 40's are more likely to find that special someone than someone younger anyway...
Tiercel
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I'm also 31 and have never had a girlfriend. And yes, I feel sad sometimes, too.
But occasionally I realize that most women aren't interested in a sad and lonely guy, so I see what I can do to make myself more appealing. Then I try to follow through, and actually improve myself somehow. So the next time I'm interested in one I psyche myself up by thinking of my recent accomplishments, screw up my courage, and actually approach her. When she inevitably rejects me, I wonder why I even bother. And usually end up back at my first two sentences....
I know that it's demoralizing as hell when you've only known rejection (or worse, never taken the chance!), but letting yourself feel down about it doesn't help you out at all. And women do pick up on it. So try not to blame yourself too much, try to enjoy the little things in life, and think instead that you haven't yet found a woman worthy of being your first girlfriend. Maybe it's not because you're hideously repulsive, but that you've yet to find someone who can handle just how awesome you truly are.
And yes, I still have hope. Despite losing my hair, hanging on to some extra weight, and still sharing a bedroom with my brother in my parents' house. I also have no car, no cell phone, and no job. Am I a fool for still believing that some day some woman will be glad to call me hers? Perhaps. But just let me have my fantasy for a few more hours at least....
And I apologize in advance if any of this seems a bit short or harsh. I've been up for 23 hours, and I'm a bit tired and cranky. Feel free to tell the ladies, though, if you think it might improve your chances.
But occasionally I realize that most women aren't interested in a sad and lonely guy, so I see what I can do to make myself more appealing. Then I try to follow through, and actually improve myself somehow. So the next time I'm interested in one I psyche myself up by thinking of my recent accomplishments, screw up my courage, and actually approach her. When she inevitably rejects me, I wonder why I even bother. And usually end up back at my first two sentences....
I know that it's demoralizing as hell when you've only known rejection (or worse, never taken the chance!), but letting yourself feel down about it doesn't help you out at all. And women do pick up on it. So try not to blame yourself too much, try to enjoy the little things in life, and think instead that you haven't yet found a woman worthy of being your first girlfriend. Maybe it's not because you're hideously repulsive, but that you've yet to find someone who can handle just how awesome you truly are.
And yes, I still have hope. Despite losing my hair, hanging on to some extra weight, and still sharing a bedroom with my brother in my parents' house. I also have no car, no cell phone, and no job. Am I a fool for still believing that some day some woman will be glad to call me hers? Perhaps. But just let me have my fantasy for a few more hours at least....
And I apologize in advance if any of this seems a bit short or harsh. I've been up for 23 hours, and I'm a bit tired and cranky. Feel free to tell the ladies, though, if you think it might improve your chances.
Rembrandt Broam
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And yes, I still have hope. Despite losing my hair, hanging on to some extra weight, and still sharing a bedroom with my brother in my parents' house. I also have no car, no cell phone, and no job. Am I a fool for still believing that some day some woman will be glad to call me hers? Perhaps. But just let me have my fantasy for a few more hours at least....
Not foolish at all. Anyone who is interested in what you have rather than what you are isn't someone you'd want to call yours in the first place.
Ms Cloud
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Not even if she's sad and lonely herself? That makes no sense.
leave_me_alone
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Nah, they are waiting for their knight on the white horse.
BlueDays
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Hello LonleyWoods Welcome to the site.
You are still relatively young. Yes being single is very hard to deal with sometimes (i Know) but concentrating on some kind of interest or hobby can help get you through the lonely days. Do you have a hobby/interest you can delve your mind into when the loneliness gets hard to bare?
Welcome to the site.You are still relatively young. Yes being single is very hard to deal with sometimes (i Know) but concentrating on some kind of interest or hobby can help get you through the lonely days. Do you have a hobby/interest you can delve your mind into when the loneliness gets hard to bare?
