Falkor
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Hi,
My parents literally don't want me to grow up. I feel unhappy about it.
I told my parents that I wanted to move out a few weeks ago, my mom said directly:
''No, you can't stand on your own feet yet'' Now they have this idea of building a gardening home, so I can live in the garden.
The conclusion is, I don't have to pay the rent, so I can save money.
Yea that is a very nice point, but I don't want to live here, all my life.
My parents are very concerned, mostly because of my social anxiety.
I stayed at home for 3 years, and yup.. I was a very dependent person who was calling them if I was having a panic attack and I was very unstable when it comes to emotions, but that was a hard time. I mean, I got bullied, have been through trauma, and everything. What to expect?
I needed to heal my pain, and it also caused my severe social anxiety.
I love my parents don't get me wrong, we have a lot of amazing quality times and I know they have been supporting me for such a long time and they helped me a lot, but this is really getting a problem.
It really hurts when people tell me ''You can't do this yet''
Mostly it's linked to my Social anxiety and Borderline.
I never asked for this.
My dad thinks i'm not financially independent, he pays all my student bills and he orders everything when it comes to paying things online.
I said to him many times ''I can pay the bills myself, I like being an adult now''
He said, you're not an adult yet, It will be fine. (when he does it)
I just have very high emotions
Not every borderliner is a crazy outgiving money freak, I am carefully with money.
Also, my girlfriend and I want to be going on holiday to Canada.
Last summer I told my parents, they said 'Noway you're going there'
I got really sad. I really don't want them to decide my life anymore.
I go to group therapy each week and CBT individually.
This is a great help.
I know I'm still an emotional person, but I have to become an independent person.It will be the hardest task, but that's what I want to be going for now. I love my parents, but I know this is standing in the way,
I really need your advice...
My parents literally don't want me to grow up. I feel unhappy about it.
I told my parents that I wanted to move out a few weeks ago, my mom said directly:
''No, you can't stand on your own feet yet'' Now they have this idea of building a gardening home, so I can live in the garden.
The conclusion is, I don't have to pay the rent, so I can save money.
Yea that is a very nice point, but I don't want to live here, all my life.
My parents are very concerned, mostly because of my social anxiety.
I stayed at home for 3 years, and yup.. I was a very dependent person who was calling them if I was having a panic attack and I was very unstable when it comes to emotions, but that was a hard time. I mean, I got bullied, have been through trauma, and everything. What to expect?
I needed to heal my pain, and it also caused my severe social anxiety.
I love my parents don't get me wrong, we have a lot of amazing quality times and I know they have been supporting me for such a long time and they helped me a lot, but this is really getting a problem.
It really hurts when people tell me ''You can't do this yet''
Mostly it's linked to my Social anxiety and Borderline.
I never asked for this.
My dad thinks i'm not financially independent, he pays all my student bills and he orders everything when it comes to paying things online.
I said to him many times ''I can pay the bills myself, I like being an adult now''
He said, you're not an adult yet, It will be fine. (when he does it)
I just have very high emotions
Not every borderliner is a crazy outgiving money freak, I am carefully with money.
Also, my girlfriend and I want to be going on holiday to Canada.
Last summer I told my parents, they said 'Noway you're going there'
I got really sad. I really don't want them to decide my life anymore.
I go to group therapy each week and CBT individually.
This is a great help.
I know I'm still an emotional person, but I have to become an independent person.It will be the hardest task, but that's what I want to be going for now. I love my parents, but I know this is standing in the way,
I really need your advice...
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