Hello, I'm Skylar! 15 w/ SA...

[Silenced]

Hello, I'm Skylar! I'm new here, well, sort of. :: I've been lurking this site for quite some time now (too lazy to sign up, LOL!) However, now I would like to join this lovely little community and share my experience with social anxiety. Forgive me, for this is a bit long. Also pardon any typos, for I am lying in bed and writing this on my ipad, and I tend to make too many typos on this thing to go back and correct them all. >.<

I am a fifteen year old female, and though I have not yet seen a doctor about my condition, I am already one hundred percent positive I have social anxiety disorder. I fit the bill perfectly. I shake, I blush, my heart races, I feel nausiated. It's absolutely awful. I have been extremely shy all my life, but it was not until this year, my freshman year of high school, that it really hit me that I had a problem. My shyness way exceeds that of your normal typical "shy girl." I have taken numerous online social anxiety tests, including the SPIN, and on all have ranked as "very severe" social anxiety.

I have zero friends at school. Though there are other "loners" like me at my high school, every one at least has one or two friends. I hardly have accquaintances. I'm practically a mute. I used to at least attempt to make friends, but this year I just gave up. Though I am ashamed to admit it, it is true that I have let my social anxiety get the best of me.

I have not yet discussed this with my parents. They are well aware that I am a "no-talker" at school, but have no idea of my severe social anxiety symptoms. I get really bad mouth tension, almost like my lips are zipped shut. It sometimes occurs in my neck too, to the point where I can scarcely turn my head. I tend to get really awful shaking spells, which I desperatley try to hide by crossing my arms, or resting my head in my hand at my desk. I have also gone through awful periods of blushing, and times where I have become so self-conscious that I am even concerned about my walk.

Oh, and the list goes on...

I would love to get treatment for my social anxiety so I can become a normal teenage girl, but I am too embarassed to tell my parents of these freakish symptoms. I know my mother is going to think I am crazy, and it pains me to think of their reactions to my shaking and mouth tension tales. I think I just need to give it some time and find the right moment.

Anyway, thats me! Thanks for reading my story, I am so glad to be here with all of you. I have been lurking this site for many months now, and am excited to now get to join in on the discussions.

 

[marielb]

wow sounds alot like me.you should speak to your mum and if you find it too embarissing just ask her to look it up on the internet, im sure she will understand and support you through it.i would try and get proffessional help as soon as possible before it gets so bad you cant even leave your house,like me-all the best.oh and welcome to the site,lol

 

[Silenced]

thank you for the advice, it's nice to meet you! and i never leave home on the weekends, it's a horrible world out there. :\

 

[takethislife]

Welcome!
I know how you feel. I have a similar story like yours - also realised I have SA in the beginning of high school, didn't talk to anyone and so on...
Please take my advice: DO something about it. Tell your parents or whoever for starters. Believe me you don't wanna go through this alone.
I never told anyone. Am a senior now, full of regrets. I regret everything i missed in high school. You don't want this happen to you.
Besides, (if you haven't noticed it yet) SA will also f**k with you school performance.
So please PLEASE tell somebody, get some help. Just do it! And when you do, let us know how it goes.
I wish you the best of luck!

 

[Dark_Angel]

Hello, I'm Skylar! I'm new here, well, sort of. :: I've been lurking this site for quite some time now (too lazy to sign up, LOL!)

Hi SkY-LaR ( sorry if i putted that line in ur name but i like the way it sounds i like so much the SkY ^^ ) i'm lazy too sometimes =P anyways i discovered my SA even if i didnt know that has that name in the school too and was not good , so i hope u can bit by bit get the strength to pass every obstruct and every difficult that SA put us , its not any easy but we are here for help u too so feel always free to talk or vent or anything we will be happy to be usefull and help =)

I used to at least attempt to make friends, but this year I just gave up. Though I am ashamed to admit it, it is true that I have let my social anxiety get the best of me.

Never give up SkY , sometimes seems that the whole word is against us and that no matter what we do but we never reach our aim , but its not really like that , dont let the SA win over u , maybe the SA won many battles vs u but not let the SA win the war =)

I have not yet discussed this with my parents. They are well aware that I am a "no-talker" at school, but have no idea of my severe social anxiety symptoms.

I understand that u didnt talk to ur parents of that , i neither did it , but even if i never did i'm the first that advice u to do it , if u feel and when u will feel to do it , i know all the difficulties embarassments, bad toughts of them about u ecc... there could be but i dont wanna obbligate u to do it , if u will ever feel then do it , but dont have this scary because everyone has problems and with the support of family is easier to handle. but if u dont feel then its ok the same u can make it by ur self too , day by day try to fix a lil lil aim and to reach it and u will see soon that u got many improvements and anyways we are here if u need =)

I think I just need to give it some time and find the right moment.

that's the way , never lose the hope and the strenght to fight , there is always a light out of the tunnel and u have to reach it =) if the tunnel is the SA and the light is the win over the SA we could be roadsignals that can support to reach the light out the tunnel =) well sorry for my long reply, its that i just got my self reflected sometime ago and that i found ur style to tell the things similar to mine and i smiled for the way u wrote something =) and u have the whole life in front of u, as ur same and as a song said "i believe u can fly (in the SkY , that was my added =P)" ^^ so never give up im sure u can make it =)

 

[Phoenixx]

Welcome!

 

[Duraldo]

Don't talk to your parents about SA. Mine didn't understand/care, my dad to this day tells me it's all in my head (no duh), and my mom tells me i need to grow up already and stop acting this way.

Friends are overratted, making "friends" is easy, just be nice in any way and they will befriend you and attempt to walk all over you. Keeping friends is another story.

Oh and if HS is getting the best of you, and the people right now piss you off....remember this...after High School....none of that crap matters, you'll never speak to your friends again. They will go on with their lives, and any attempt you have to talk to old HS friends will appear clingly/desperate. That's at least my experience. Well good luck! Welcome

 

[coyote]

Hi, and welcome to the forum.

 

[DespairSoul]

Hello,

Nice u join to us welcome by the forum.

I'm sorry to hear that all how u feel and what u are going trough is hell i know. Listen is good idea to tell your parents maybe they alone can't help much but if they love u and care for u they will. To who else to say as your parents. As someone told here also i agree they may not understand and tell u "oh this will pass" or "ah u are just shy girl" for example. SO if this happened and they will react the way like is nothing much going on tell them truth that is the serious issue which u want solve and u need help. And if they care for u they will try help u the best as they can! Please don't hide your feelings coz later u will regret all why u didn't seek for help as i do now and regret all that i don't get treated sooner for it. Try slowly explain to parents how u feel. Try seek for help there is a hope and go for it!

 

[dean01]

hi skylar, welcoime to spw

 

[megalon]

Oh and if HS is getting the best of you, and the people right now piss you off....remember this...after High School....none of that crap matters, you'll never speak to your friends again. They will go on with their lives, and any attempt you have to talk to old HS friends will appear clingly/desperate. That's at least my experience. Well good luck! Welcome

I disagree. I know people talk about how it doesn't matter who your friends were or how popular you were in school. I think It does matter, at least to people like us. You may never see or hear from your school friends again, but those friends will leave you with more confidence and life experience. I wouldn't know from experience though, just an educated guess.

 

[takethislife]

I disagree. I know people talk about how it doesn't matter who your friends were or how popular you were in school. I think It does matter, at least to people like us. You may never see or hear from your school friends again, but those friends will leave you with more confidence and life experience. I wouldn't know from experience though, just an educated guess.

Yes, I agree with this. Your, so to speak, social status you've achieved in HS doesn't go away. You don't just become a different person.

 

[missjesss]

Now is the best time to seek help for your condition!

don't wait until it's to late and you end up working in a job with little contact with people, it becomes a very restricted life

HYPNOTHERAPY works wonders,
CBT therapy
and most importantly TELL YOUR PARENTS AND A COUNSELOR

 

[hoddesdon]

Hi and welcome . You are the only person I have said "hi" to like this on this forum.

 

[Jessica7]

Skylar... What a pretty name!