what is best jobs for someone have social phobia ?
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cosmosis
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I'm starting to worry that this is my problem and not just the bad economy- I have a master's degree, but nobody seems to want to hire me, and I'm currently working two jobs with no education or skills requirements. ::
It might be a bit of both. The economy does seems to be very harsh on graduates without work experience right now though. And accounting right? When I decided to work towards my accounting degree, I originally thought accountants were mostly nerdy socially goofy people and thus would be easier to get a job. Haha, surprisingly, what I found was that accountants tend to be quite social, driven and well connected. It's a hard bunch to compete against to get the job. But I do hope you find something soon.
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I am trying to get into accounting- and most of my classmates were just as you described. It does seem a little like it's more about who you know than what you know, and a lot of emphasis is put on "networking," although not really so much on exactly how to do it. I feel like I do okay in interviews, I can answer questions well enough and (I think) appear somewhat confident... but I think what could be hurting me as far as SA is my lack of having varied interests and experiences to set me apart and expand upon in the interview.
cosmosis
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I am trying to get into accounting- and most of my classmates were just as you described. It does seem a little like it's more about who you know than what you know, and a lot of emphasis is put on "networking," although not really so much on exactly how to do it. I feel like I do okay in interviews, I can answer questions well enough and (I think) appear somewhat confident... but I think what could be hurting me as far as SA is my lack of having varied interests and experiences to set me apart and expand upon in the interview.
Yeah, it always amazes me how many jobs are really determined by contacts or people you know inside of the company. I foolishly believed that all applicants were on equal footing and you would simply get the job if you were the most qualified. Sadly, it really does seem to come down to who you know. It's horrible for people with SA who hate making tons of friends and connections for the sole purose of successing in your career. Those type of connections feel so fake to me.
Lea
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I have applied for working as a guinea pig (drug tester) so many times. But was always dismissed because of my past surgery. There are stil hopes though.. Have to wait for the right type of study, for example when the drug is injected. I am normally not into taking medicines, but would be happy to do so for payment. There are people telling me it is stupid but they haven't been in my situation, and didn't experience my social difficulties, inability to find normal job, hopelesness and depression.
Mermaid~81
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I agree with some of the above posts about it not being good to want to have no contact with people.
I am the same, i have had jobs but find it hard to be around other people am always anxious, but you just have to think, in ten or twenty years do you want to be in the same place you are right now? Do you want to be still afraid and not living life fully? Even a job where you have to interact with a few people is good. Even though i know its really hard.
*Edited to say* I'm not talking for all mental health problems here and i'm not saying that if you mix with other people that one day you will wake up and be a ok.
But as with most things (in some - but not all circumstances) if you have fear and anxiety about them, then avoiding the situation only builds the fear and makes it have more power than it should.
I know its not easy for those like me - and i can only speak for myself as can anyone - no one walks in another's shoes.
Job's i've done are office work, Care work, shop work, cleaning, etc.
I am the same, i have had jobs but find it hard to be around other people am always anxious, but you just have to think, in ten or twenty years do you want to be in the same place you are right now? Do you want to be still afraid and not living life fully? Even a job where you have to interact with a few people is good. Even though i know its really hard.
*Edited to say* I'm not talking for all mental health problems here and i'm not saying that if you mix with other people that one day you will wake up and be a ok.
But as with most things (in some - but not all circumstances) if you have fear and anxiety about them, then avoiding the situation only builds the fear and makes it have more power than it should.
I know its not easy for those like me - and i can only speak for myself as can anyone - no one walks in another's shoes.
Job's i've done are office work, Care work, shop work, cleaning, etc.
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Lea
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I've had jobs where I had to communicate with people quite a lot and all the time, but it doesn't help an inch to change who I am and my difficulties don't go away. But everybody is different and has different difficulties. Obviously if you have aspergers, no amount of social interaction is going to cure it.
Richey
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At the moment i'm working as a dishwasher in a very busy restaurant on weekends and its absolutely horrible. the only reason im staying is because it pays and until i'm offered another job it'd be silly to leave. it totally magnifies any insecurities i have because its such a dirty job. i dont know why i keep settling for these sorts of labor intensive mediocre jobs, i think its because i take any offers that come my way and often the easiest to get are the ones that call up first. to give you more details. six waitresses are coming in and out all the time and they dump trays full of dishes so you pack them onto trays and slide them into the industrial dishwasher but you have to be so quick for the entire 7 hours. you then mop the floor and clean the benches. by the end of the shift you are so exhausted that you can barely feel your legs or arms. the social pressure is also high octaine because you're stuck in a tiny kitchen next to 8+ people. and after an hour i run out of things to say and i really dont want to be there so my attitude becomes passive agressive which in my eyes is a perfectly natural reaction to the job itself so i dont feel that bad being unenthusiastic at times in that environment. you also hear the wrath of the cooks and managers if they feel the pressure and really i dont give a shit i'm only there because it pays thats it. if i meet friends even better but so far everyone else there appears to be there for similar reasons, because its a job that pays. the pressure of the job makes having fun and talking difficult in itself.
tonight i'm going to come home and apply for as many jobs as possible that isnt dishwashing so i can escape this. i'd say the job is good for a socially anxious person because its exposure to people which helps because you arnt hiding but at the same time it can be tricky to open up around other people which means they dont get to know the real me because i'm immersed in the duties and wanting to get the !#*k out of there.
tonight i'm going to come home and apply for as many jobs as possible that isnt dishwashing so i can escape this. i'd say the job is good for a socially anxious person because its exposure to people which helps because you arnt hiding but at the same time it can be tricky to open up around other people which means they dont get to know the real me because i'm immersed in the duties and wanting to get the !#*k out of there.
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light house keeper
that is my husband's dream job
so he doesn't have to deal with people
Edit: and he doesn't have SAD!
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sounds awesome.. only drawback would be dealing with people who've had too much to drink, other than that a terrific suggestion
BlueDays
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light house keeper
Now all of us SA sufferers are going to google where the nearest lighthouse is to where we live, and put our names down to work there next time the position becomes vacant!!
younglarry1977
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I secretly asked myself this same question and struggled to find my "place" in the work world. I knew I was a strong motivated guy but with panic attacks and just awful social phobias, i have somehow found a great career as a locksmith. Its just me and my van, self employed and the best part is i make unbelievable money! takes a few tools to get going and ya gotta learn a little but then you just learn as you go. Good luck, Its not easy for us in this world but at least were not alone here.
worrywort
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Yea I agree, I think it totally depends on the individual. I've done jobs too where I've been exposed to prolonged periods of social interaction, and personally I felt like the jobs were forcing me to become somebody I'm not. Maybe I'm wrong, everybody's different, but for me a job with too much social exposure is like taking a cat, throwing it in the water and expecting it to swim. I feel like my quiet temperament is part of who I am and nothing to be ashamed of. But then I guess it all depends on how much grief SA is causing in a persons life. I've always been pretty happy alone.
I also found that jobs that required large amounts of social interaction only served to highlight my weakness's more than my strengths, which didn't do much for my confidence, and there's a quote I've always loved which goes "Don't let what you can't do, get in the way of what you can". I love that! So personally, for me I think I've made my peace with my condition, and have decided to just focus on the things I can do and do them well.
Kat
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Maybe a massage therapist, I think it’s considered a good thing to keep quiet in that job. You may have do the general hello and such but generally. I think they keep quiet for the most part and have relaxing music play in the background, which would help you and the client.
LadyWench
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I've only ever had one job, and it was working in an office. I was a filing clerk at an ambulance company. There were only five of us (myself included) working there. Our office building was connected to the EMT's headquarters, but we rarely ever saw them. And when they did come into the office, they were usually very friendly. We weren't obligated to talk to them, though. We would hardly ever have any "customers" come in, because most of our people interaction for business was done over the phone. My position, however, didn't involve talking on the phone to patients. It was actually really nice. The office was quiet and peaceful and I was even allowed to read my books on the job because I'd have to sit there for probably a good hour to an hour and a half, waiting for my faxes to finish.
I was very lucky to land this job. Sadly, they ended up having a 40% decrease in their income and workload, and I was laid off. My therapist told me the other day that this other medical office (they aren't an ambulance company, but they sell medical supplies and have a lot of the same work that my old job does) has an opening right now and she wants me to apply for it. I don't have a car or really any reliable way into town, so not only would it be difficult for me to get down there to just get an application, but how the hell do I get to work every day? Eh..I'm just rambling. Sorry. I'm just debating on whether or not to apply, if I can.
Anyway, my point is that maybe a little desk/office job would be okay for someone with SA. Depending on the person, of course, and what their limits are.
I was very lucky to land this job. Sadly, they ended up having a 40% decrease in their income and workload, and I was laid off. My therapist told me the other day that this other medical office (they aren't an ambulance company, but they sell medical supplies and have a lot of the same work that my old job does) has an opening right now and she wants me to apply for it. I don't have a car or really any reliable way into town, so not only would it be difficult for me to get down there to just get an application, but how the hell do I get to work every day? Eh..I'm just rambling. Sorry. I'm just debating on whether or not to apply, if I can.
Anyway, my point is that maybe a little desk/office job would be okay for someone with SA. Depending on the person, of course, and what their limits are.
Nocer
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Now all of us SA sufferers are going to google where the nearest lighthouse is to where we live, and put our names down to work there next time the position becomes vacant!!
too be honest i would
but i do not not live anywhere near an ocean
Lorraine Manca
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forest ranger! the person that sits up in the tower and looks to see if anythings caught on fire. if all else fails im goin for that.
my stepdad knows about my personality, months ago i asked him what he'd do with his life if he were me. he said he'd either work at the morgue or put an add in the paper saying he was a young woman looking for a millionaire.
my stepdad knows about my personality, months ago i asked him what he'd do with his life if he were me. he said he'd either work at the morgue or put an add in the paper saying he was a young woman looking for a millionaire.