avoid avoid avoid.. :S

[Skatergirl]

ok.. this holiday my parents asked me:
would u like to go to the party ?? , i said no.
would u like to go to the restaurant with us? no..
would u like to go to a theme park? no.
would u like to go to the mall , no??
I canceled all the things i could have done..
i spent so many hours alone at home
i really want to NOT avoid the next things!!
does someone has some tips?? ::

 

[Ashiene]

if you find that you are alone in real life you can come to this forum we are a big happy family here, you won't feel alone, i hope.

but yeah, i know what you're saying. my parents wanted to take me out to the restaurant, even wanted to take me on vacation to japan last month but i refused. once-in-a-lifetime opportunities go flying away like that, and i know that i can never get them back.

maybe you can ask your parents to take you to the restaurant/mall/theme park when there are lesser people, like later in the night or earlier in the morning, since crowds can be very frightening

 

[mylifephails]

skategirl.. trust me ur not alone.. im missing on alot of stuff i wanna do soooo bad... but i cant.... i kinda gave up on life.. i just hope ill go to heaven.. i dont wanna go to hell.... not after i tasted this living hell.......

 

[Violaine]

Try to say yes to maybe every two activities they ask you to attend. I know my family cares about me and want to do things with me so I try not to shut them out so much. Since they are the only people I can count on. Since I don't have any close friends I went on vacation with my little sister and her best friend. My sister is 11 years younger than me. Of course I felt kind of lonely because I would have had more fun with one of my peers but I also didn't want to miss the experience.

 

[Reiji Moritsugu]

At least people want to go out and do things with you.

It could be worse, like nobody giving a damn about you even in those times when you want to do something, because you chose to have a bit of hope,even if only for a moment. Only to have others show you that whether you are there or not, things won´t change even a little bit. At least not for them.

Life´s quite the irony, isn´t it?

Anyways, the advice Violaine just gave you is a really good one. If two activities is two much, you can always lower to just one. Try to remember that if they ask you such questions, it is because they actually want to do things and spend time with you. By the way, not being asked by anyone to do anything, or being turned down the few times you do manage to gather enough courage, is far worse.

So you could even consider yourself lucky, at least from my point of view. See you around

 

[Lea]

Haha I wish I had parents who would ask me this. Can´t even imagine.

 

[recluse]

I sometimes wish my parents were outgoing people, my parents have never been into having parties and inviting people around, perhaps if i would have been exposed to this kind of stuff i would have turned out different?

 

[freestylemonster]

my only advice is to just say yes instead of no one time and see where that takes you!

Crappy advice I know, but it'll work! Trust me!

 

[Walk]

I sometimes wish my parents were outgoing people, my parents have never been into having parties and inviting people around, perhaps if i would have been exposed to this kind of stuff i would have turned out different?

Amen to that.

It also sucks to have parents who might be outgoing but embarrass the shit out of you, though. In that case, I'll pass.

 

[206Raider]

yeah I do all the same stuff and I would come here more when I'm by alone on the internet but nobody talks on a social anxiety forum haha

 

[recluse]

Amen to that.

It also sucks to have parents who might be outgoing but embarrass the shit out of you, though. In that case, I'll pass.

Yes but do you think that if we would have been exposed to an outgoing lifestyle from birth we would not get embarassed because that would be normal?

 

[lurknomore]

Yes but do you think that if we would have been exposed to an outgoing lifestyle from birth we would not get embarassed because that would be normal?

My mom is super outgoing- and it was super embarrassing when I was growing up, it did not seem "normal" to me. My dad was more reserved, and probably social phobic, so I guess I took more after him. I wasn't around him as much as I was around my mom growing up though, since he worked a lot and my mom didn't work outside our home until I was a teenager. So perhaps genetics plays a stronger role than environment- at least it seems to have in my case.