sahxox
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I cannot consistently perform in social situations; it takes so sooo much effort. I'm left with this feeling of apathy - it won't leave. It's like everybody hates me and is always out to get me, so I disengage. I'm working on it at the moment by smiling and trying to live in the moment, not in my head. But it takes a lot of strength to do so.
One place that's always by default been somewhere I don't have to fight to be myself is with my family. But they are seriously dysfunctional. My Mother is a cold woman, extremely authoritarian. So bad I don't speak with her, and her entire family moved out one by one. I live with my Dad, but he has serious anger issues. There is no way for me to communicate an alternative opinion to his constant stream of insults and belittling of us. Eg the other day, he was bagging out my sister for being unstable, and I decided to stop agreeing like every other sheep for once and mentioned as directly as possible it is due to him constantly yelling at her over the most miniscule mistakes. He lost it, and as I've learnt by routine, his anger trumps any form of reason. So I instead sat there sarcastically agreeing with him as I was labelled the worst things you can call a female. Consequently, I am ostracised and my sister is the first to jump on the bandwagon! But I did not do it for her; I did it for me, I am sick of suppression. I am mocked and openly baited and criticised, by everybody. It hurts so much. How can I muster any strength to challenge my anxieties/apathy at work when the real me is smothered where it's supposed to thrive? The real me has been buried under everyone else's thoughts. How can I know who I am when the one place I'm meant to recharge is actually the one killing me?
As if social phobia isn't difficult enough on it's own.
I need to be myself, but these negativity is what I'm fed all the time. There's just so much pain.
I will be moving out soon to start a life by myself. That presents challenges socially and whether I can do it... I get depressed very easily if I fail, for weeks or months on end. Then again staying where I am won't help out my state of apathy. It feels like a catch-22 sometimes and perhaps it bloody well is.
Sorry if this is too personal, I just needed to get it off my chest.
One place that's always by default been somewhere I don't have to fight to be myself is with my family. But they are seriously dysfunctional. My Mother is a cold woman, extremely authoritarian. So bad I don't speak with her, and her entire family moved out one by one. I live with my Dad, but he has serious anger issues. There is no way for me to communicate an alternative opinion to his constant stream of insults and belittling of us. Eg the other day, he was bagging out my sister for being unstable, and I decided to stop agreeing like every other sheep for once and mentioned as directly as possible it is due to him constantly yelling at her over the most miniscule mistakes. He lost it, and as I've learnt by routine, his anger trumps any form of reason. So I instead sat there sarcastically agreeing with him as I was labelled the worst things you can call a female. Consequently, I am ostracised and my sister is the first to jump on the bandwagon! But I did not do it for her; I did it for me, I am sick of suppression. I am mocked and openly baited and criticised, by everybody. It hurts so much. How can I muster any strength to challenge my anxieties/apathy at work when the real me is smothered where it's supposed to thrive? The real me has been buried under everyone else's thoughts. How can I know who I am when the one place I'm meant to recharge is actually the one killing me?
As if social phobia isn't difficult enough on it's own.
I need to be myself, but these negativity is what I'm fed all the time. There's just so much pain.
I will be moving out soon to start a life by myself. That presents challenges socially and whether I can do it... I get depressed very easily if I fail, for weeks or months on end. Then again staying where I am won't help out my state of apathy. It feels like a catch-22 sometimes and perhaps it bloody well is.
Sorry if this is too personal, I just needed to get it off my chest.