cowboyup
Well-known member
Bear with me on this one, it might be quite long - sorry in advance 
I received a text from that guy (the one who moved) the other day, going on and on about his ex gf and how when he moved he was a mess because of his 'fame' here and whenever he wanted a date, go see a movie, someone to hang out with, and all his other activities and hobbies, he could count on his friends but realized how they were kind of feeding his habits - similar to a drug addict thus moving and taking himself out of the 'situation' is like rehab to him. But then someone at work asked about his fire-spinning YouTube videos that brought up a lot of sad and unresolved feelings in him and how he just realized how good he had it but it was coming to a boiling point to where he was stalking his ex gf, trying to start fights, contemplating suicide, etc., etc.
Then he goes on to tell me, "hey, I'll be in town in a couple weeks because an ex gf is having major surgery and has nobody to take care of her afterwards so I volunteered to help her while she recovers"
These past days, we've been communicating via text and it's like he's sucking the life out of me, like some vampire or something. I feel exhausted afterwards-and it's just text messaging.
I've called him out on a few lies I've caught him in also. He tap dances around them and then says that I may have misunderstood him. One day he texted me asking what I was up to. I told him (like he doesn't know) watching the kids and one time his response was, "give them xanax" and the second response was (after I said something about the little one teething and crying) "put a pillow over her head, I hear that works"
He tells me all this stuff about how people at work are amazed at how 'take charge' he is and is getting work done where others in the past were slackers.
I don't know, it just goes on and on. I had my # changed because of this person, if you recall me talking about it in the past. He got the new #...not surprising seeing that he lives with a person who he met at DefCon and Hacker Meetups.
The reason I feel like crying is because I realized as he was texting, that I was sleeping with him the same time he claims he had a gf and was so deeply in love with her. WTH?? I had no idea of this.
Also, I find him now pointing out my 'weakness' - using SA as my 'excuse' for not having a bf or going out more often. And he throws out all this psychiatric advice because suddenly he's an expert in that field as well due to the fact that when he and his ex broke things off, it took such a toll on him that he had to seek professional help.
So he thinks he can spew it back in my face. Yes, I do have SA, no I do not go out much, but also a lot is by MY choice. Especially the situation I am in right now, I need to make changes, I know this...I don't need to hear it from him.
The 2 lies I found most disturbing were the ones that he told me he was narcoleptic and due to that did not get accepted in the Marines. Now, he tells me he can 'manage' his narcolepsy and that it is not in any medical records and just faked ADHD to get Adderall (when he was living here) and retracted his statement of not getting into the Marines, but now insists he did make it through basic training.
Well, anyhow, I just wanted to get this out there as it has been rattling in my head since he contacted me. I told my brother about him contacting me ... my brother is studying for Sargent test so he's preoccupied...(sigh)
And yes, I did ask the guy how he got the new number...he just turned it around and asked why I changed it. I told him "because of you"
He asked what he 'did wrong'....
it just went on and on, and it was all about him, how awesome he is at work, how other photographers were amazed at his ability to 'just jump the police lines' at some parade he photographed, how he is getting so much done at work and has to put up with the silly stupid people and he had to hire an assistant to deal with them...(insert big ETC here)
Thanks for listening - rather reading.
I feel so emotionally drained because of him -- and that is why I feel like crying! Maybe I am being silly - but have you ever encountered someone who just leaves you feeling so drained and exhausted after speaking with them, you are a mess?
..and so it goes..
I received a text from that guy (the one who moved) the other day, going on and on about his ex gf and how when he moved he was a mess because of his 'fame' here and whenever he wanted a date, go see a movie, someone to hang out with, and all his other activities and hobbies, he could count on his friends but realized how they were kind of feeding his habits - similar to a drug addict thus moving and taking himself out of the 'situation' is like rehab to him. But then someone at work asked about his fire-spinning YouTube videos that brought up a lot of sad and unresolved feelings in him and how he just realized how good he had it but it was coming to a boiling point to where he was stalking his ex gf, trying to start fights, contemplating suicide, etc., etc.
Then he goes on to tell me, "hey, I'll be in town in a couple weeks because an ex gf is having major surgery and has nobody to take care of her afterwards so I volunteered to help her while she recovers"
These past days, we've been communicating via text and it's like he's sucking the life out of me, like some vampire or something. I feel exhausted afterwards-and it's just text messaging.
I've called him out on a few lies I've caught him in also. He tap dances around them and then says that I may have misunderstood him. One day he texted me asking what I was up to. I told him (like he doesn't know) watching the kids and one time his response was, "give them xanax" and the second response was (after I said something about the little one teething and crying) "put a pillow over her head, I hear that works"
He tells me all this stuff about how people at work are amazed at how 'take charge' he is and is getting work done where others in the past were slackers.
I don't know, it just goes on and on. I had my # changed because of this person, if you recall me talking about it in the past. He got the new #...not surprising seeing that he lives with a person who he met at DefCon and Hacker Meetups.
The reason I feel like crying is because I realized as he was texting, that I was sleeping with him the same time he claims he had a gf and was so deeply in love with her. WTH?? I had no idea of this.
Also, I find him now pointing out my 'weakness' - using SA as my 'excuse' for not having a bf or going out more often. And he throws out all this psychiatric advice because suddenly he's an expert in that field as well due to the fact that when he and his ex broke things off, it took such a toll on him that he had to seek professional help.
So he thinks he can spew it back in my face. Yes, I do have SA, no I do not go out much, but also a lot is by MY choice. Especially the situation I am in right now, I need to make changes, I know this...I don't need to hear it from him.
The 2 lies I found most disturbing were the ones that he told me he was narcoleptic and due to that did not get accepted in the Marines. Now, he tells me he can 'manage' his narcolepsy and that it is not in any medical records and just faked ADHD to get Adderall (when he was living here) and retracted his statement of not getting into the Marines, but now insists he did make it through basic training.
Well, anyhow, I just wanted to get this out there as it has been rattling in my head since he contacted me. I told my brother about him contacting me ... my brother is studying for Sargent test so he's preoccupied...(sigh)
And yes, I did ask the guy how he got the new number...he just turned it around and asked why I changed it. I told him "because of you"
He asked what he 'did wrong'....
it just went on and on, and it was all about him, how awesome he is at work, how other photographers were amazed at his ability to 'just jump the police lines' at some parade he photographed, how he is getting so much done at work and has to put up with the silly stupid people and he had to hire an assistant to deal with them...(insert big ETC here)
Thanks for listening - rather reading.
I feel so emotionally drained because of him -- and that is why I feel like crying! Maybe I am being silly - but have you ever encountered someone who just leaves you feeling so drained and exhausted after speaking with them, you are a mess?
..and so it goes..
