Does anyone starve themselves due to SP?

mismeek

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Stock your room with healthy foods that dont need to be cooked, and go out and try saying just hello to your roomies everyonce in a while...if you start to acknowlege them or at least smile at them when you come out your room.. I PROMISE the crazy looks they give you will go away. You also have to work your way up to eating/cooking in the kitchen.. maybe you should try eating a carrot stick while walking down the hall to the kitchen ( i know it sounds weird, but you gotta take baby steps) or just cutting something simple like an apple in the kitchen.

If you need more advice i can help.. Im proud to say that ive beaten my fear or eating in public and now eat at resturants and at parties!! It takes a while.. BUT YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!! just remember dont ever back out of the situation..cause it makes it worse.. and take babysteps!!! Dont try to push yourself too far too fast!
 

mrb

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Stock your room with healthy foods that dont need to be cooked, and go out and try saying just hello to your roomies everyonce in a while...if you start to acknowlege them or at least smile at them when you come out your room.. I PROMISE the crazy looks they give you will go away. You also have to work your way up to eating/cooking in the kitchen.. maybe you should try eating a carrot stick while walking down the hall to the kitchen ( i know it sounds weird, but you gotta take baby steps) or just cutting something simple like an apple in the kitchen.

If you need more advice i can help.. Im proud to say that ive beaten my fear or eating in public and now eat at resturants and at parties!! It takes a while.. BUT YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!! just remember dont ever back out of the situation..cause it makes it worse.. and take babysteps!!! Dont try to push yourself too far too fast!

;) way to go mismeek
 

kittypants

Member
omg, this is exactly how i would feel and in your shoes. and what usually ends up happening is people think that i think im better than them. secretly i would be waiting them to fall asleep so i could eat...secretly they think i hate them....
knowing what i know now, i would just get food onto a plate and go eat it in front of my computer. thats what i do at work. people just think im nerdy. thats ok.
i always knew that i could never have roommates or be in the army or live communally. you're so brave for trying it! mrb is so right about baby steps too. you can come a far ways away from where you are now in little steps.
there is a lot of good ideas here about keeping yourself fed, too. keep yourself fed!
 

hippiechild

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Yes, I used to avoid eating in order to avoid coming into contact with people. I'd always wait until they were gone, maybe temporarily, then ransack the refrigerator. Keeping a bowl of basic fruits and vegetables kept me satiated during those hard times haha. However, I don't think that it was wise to reinforce the idea that I was incapable and weak, a refugee in my own house. Hiding away and nibbling on raw carrots essentially screamed "I have a serious problem, something is actually horribly wrong with me!"... basically making the social anxiety seem more real, more serious and more like an inevitable part of my character.

In other social anxiety related starvation- I used to deprive myself of food, not out of fear of being seen, but as retribution for my frequent failures. I figured that if I was such a mangy miscreant, the least I could do is reduce my impact on the world. This took the form of starvation, which accomplished two things: I ate less, therefor demanded less (not stealing the produce of other people's prosperity) and I also became less, reducing my presence, atrophying myself away, trying in vain to disappear from this world entirely (the ultimate way of reducing the effect of my existence... to not exist). So began the age of raw oatmeal, eggshells, water, and bottles of sweet, syrupy ipecac...
 
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lyricalliaisons

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The closest I came to that was when I was about 14. My mom was letting family members by marriage stay with us & I didn't want them in the house at all. Once, I locked them out of the house & wouldn't let them back in. After they finally got back in, I stayed in my room for two days until they left because I was avoiding them & I didn't eat anything until they left the house finally & I could go downstairs to the kitchen.
 

Love_Etc

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Ok, you have problems.
But now try to understand me - I am living with 5 other people in a flat. It's no problem for me to make a quick meal and it it cause they are not so often in the kitchen. But they are in some kind of organization and are having "parties" like 3 times a week in the kitchen. And between the kitchen and my room there is only one door. And there are not the kind of parties where they drink alcohol, they rather sit at the table and talk for hours in the evening.
And there I am sitting in front of PC surfin the internet.. I also have roommate which is coming in and out of room every 5-10 minutes from the kitchen..

On days like that I wouldn't even bother to go to bathroom or how do you say it where you bathe because I would fear how would it look if I just went past them saying only hi.

The fact that 3 people out of five are really good friends and also schoolmates just make it harder. And don't understand me wrong - they are nice people but just not my type..
 
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