hidingfromtheworld
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Have nt had a date in 8 years..horrible.
Does anyone can't get a date?
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jco3
Active member
I'm really happy to know that their are people out there like me. I'm 19, and have always been super anxious around girls.
I remember noticing in 6th grade when the guys started sitting with the girls at lunch, and I just couldn't do it. I was literally scared out of my mind. Then one day a friend of mine invited me to sit at another table with girls! so I agreed. I was literally shaking and sweating the whole freaking time. But it actually wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I got over it after a while.
I'm 19 with a good personality, but I've always been so reluctant around girls - hence, never having a girlfriend. Hell, I've never even held a girls hand. It gets so damn hard sometimes. I fantasize about even the touch of a women. It's ridiculous.
I remember noticing in 6th grade when the guys started sitting with the girls at lunch, and I just couldn't do it. I was literally scared out of my mind. Then one day a friend of mine invited me to sit at another table with girls! so I agreed. I was literally shaking and sweating the whole freaking time. But it actually wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I got over it after a while.
I'm 19 with a good personality, but I've always been so reluctant around girls - hence, never having a girlfriend. Hell, I've never even held a girls hand. It gets so damn hard sometimes. I fantasize about even the touch of a women. It's ridiculous.
kittypants
Member
because im married, i have a permanent date. but if we hadn't met on the internet and talked for a year before we even met, i would still be living alone with 6 cats because i don't talk to people.
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i was single and celibate for 7 years before i met my husband. we've been married 12 years now. i really believe in taking a long time writing to get to know someone.
i totally don't know how to make a friend with other females, and that's something i wish i knew.
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i was single and celibate for 7 years before i met my husband. we've been married 12 years now. i really believe in taking a long time writing to get to know someone.
i totally don't know how to make a friend with other females, and that's something i wish i knew.
iamthenra
Well-known member
Are you serious? Isn't not having a date a requirement for SA? I've yet to have a date and I'm 22 and I highly doubt that will change. Even if a guy asked me out I'd freeze up and become a dejected robot.....
Oh ya, try being 41 like me.... Scared to death of women, and the more attractive they are, the more frightened I become. Mostly fear of saying something stupid, or not being able to talk at all... How pathetic am I? There isn't a word in the tongue of men to describe just how lonely and isolated I feel, and then trying to live with testosterone flowing through your veins isn't easy... Obsessing over females just makes it that much worse... Life isn't fair.:
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Aphrodyte
Member
Ehh, it seems like we're in the same boat here - both 19, both without girlfriends lol. Now I don't have SA or any other sort of social phobia, but I think that the problem is that people our age form intimate relationships through parties, social gatherings, etc, and if you're anything like me, then you don't participate in any of those.
But I've been reading some similar posts on here and I'm shocked to see that so many young people are already in despair about dating. They'll say something like, "oh, I'll never find the right person, I should just give up," and are only 16 or 17 years old! Gotta realize that most people in college and certainly below college aren't mature enough to actually hold a relationship. Give it time!
Honda
Well-known member
Well yeah but the general image and the silly standards we have in todays society is just obvious... but a mature person wont fall for this nonsense, just do what you please, be like an animal enjoy life and switch off the human side for a while, leave it for work and studies...
Walk
Well-known member
I have a phobia of dates. I think the only two ways to get over it are reading about attraction online (preferably for free) and most importantly, practicing it often. Yeah, the latter is damn difficult. I have been on two dates in life, I'm 24. None of them stellar... but I know I could do better.
very_shy
Well-known member
I am 26 and have also never been on a date.
I have been dreaming of it, but can't put anything in practice.
For most of my life I favoured the "the-love-will-come-by- itself, when you don't expect it" etc. Well, in 4 year I will be 30 already and it seems this idea is falling apart!
On the other side I think of a more active approach, but stop because of the thoughts:
- how can a stranger approach a girl
- if approaching, what to say-if you don't go to cinema, how would you dare invite her there
- what will I do with the girl, how will I spend time with her...
Recently I came across this site, maybe it's been posted here already, but anyway:
Inside The Mind Of Guys Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Women
PS. It didn't help me for now...
I have been dreaming of it, but can't put anything in practice.
For most of my life I favoured the "the-love-will-come-by- itself, when you don't expect it" etc. Well, in 4 year I will be 30 already and it seems this idea is falling apart!
On the other side I think of a more active approach, but stop because of the thoughts:
- how can a stranger approach a girl
- if approaching, what to say-if you don't go to cinema, how would you dare invite her there
- what will I do with the girl, how will I spend time with her...
Recently I came across this site, maybe it's been posted here already, but anyway:
Inside The Mind Of Guys Who Are Shy And Inexperienced With Women
PS. It didn't help me for now...