Daydreaming-Is that how we cope?

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ImNotMyIllness

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Does anyone else use Daydreaming as a crutch to cope with SA and depression? I feel like I've daydreamed my life away! I'm always living in my head...living a life that I can't live in the real world.
I also have a lot of romantic fantasies. Sometimes I catch myself smiling and then I feel sad because none of it is real.
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vanillabear

vanillabear

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Yeah I do it a lot, I guess it's a defense mechanism. I'm trying not to do it as much now though.. it really makes going back to reality harder :sad:
 
Miloticat

Miloticat

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I feel the same way. Usually at night before falling asleep.
I've lived so many separate lives in my head that sometimes I wonder if I've missed out on my own.
Often a problem for me is that I daydream when anxious, usually this affects me during evaluations at school. I've failed many a test.. :/
 
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jaim38

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Definitely! Daydreaming has helped me through some of the toughest times of my life. Sometimes, real life hurts so much that I withdraw into my daydreams and then I feel better. I smile when I daydream about funny or happy scenarios.
 
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aNOTfox

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yeah day-dreaming is definitely my crutch, I can zone out for hours about my successful future which may or may not happen XD. I find writing your daydreams down makes it feel less of a waste of time.
 
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vj288

vj288

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I think so, it's escapism at it's best. Living out life in your head takes you out of the reality of the life you're living outside of it. It gives you something that it may be lacking, or distracts from what you have and don't want. I always know when things in my life are going well, sincerely, when my daydreaming slows down or stops all together.
 
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Nathália

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My imagination is what keeps me going and kicking my two feet off the ground. Then sometimes my imagination is what makes me hide from the world because of my "skewed" view. If you can make yourself smile, good for you, I think the imagination is what give a person no limits being stuck on a isolated floating rock flying across the universe and not just those who feel alone inside the world. I do it a lot, I've learned to accept them. I can't wait for the next day dream to come.
 
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ImNotMyIllness

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I love my imagination, I am very creative. It is one of my better qualities. But, it's one thing to have a great imagination and a fulfilling life and quite another to be imaginative and empty. I have a nothing to show for. :(
It's like in Junior High and HighSchool I was daydream about being well liked when in reality I avoided most of the other students. Now, I'm daydreaming about being successful with a wife etc but I have too much anxiety about trying to meet women.
I'm a hopeless romantic. If I don't try, I won't be rejected...........I know, I know, it's stupid!
 
LifeInternal88

LifeInternal88

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I think it can get you through depressions - so that's good !

But I also think excessive daydreaming is not good. You end up with nothing and a sense of wasted time/talent. I struggled with this for years. I'm only starting to get it right now.

Some people daydream in normal doses and that's okay, once I start, I don't stop. So I have given it up entirely :( I was a total addict.

The romantic daydreams are normal :)
 
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ImNotMyIllness

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@LifeInternal88. I just read your thread on Maladaptive Daydreaming. I'm not sure if I suffer from this in the clinical sense but I'm probably close if not suffering from it.
Hmmmmm...............
 
Niceguy23

Niceguy23

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I spend so much time alone that I am the same way. My imagination is what keeps me going. I daydream and I am a very imaginative person. Its great to see im not alone I actually feel better now seeing all these posts.
 
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Dreamscape

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Isolation is my source of daydreaming. I constantly feel abandoned and scared. so my brain tells me to daydream to get rid of bad thoughts. I can't stop it, it just gives me false hope i know that it will never happen. and sometimes it can be at higher lenghts that leads me frustration about reality. I'm too sensitive and emotional person, enough for leaving me a lonely life full of daydreaming.
 
drganon

drganon

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All I do is daydream. Its better than thinking about how crappy my actual reality/life is.
 
BlueDays

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vj288 said:
I think so, it's escapism at it's best. Living out life in your head takes you out of the reality of the life you're living outside of it. It gives you something that it may be lacking, or distracts from what you have and don't want. I always know when things in my life are going well, sincerely, when my daydreaming slows down or stops all together.
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^exactly:perfect:


J R Tolkien wrote his dreamworld down and had it published. He didn't do too badly in life.:)
 
hidwell

hidwell

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If I couldn't get outside of my head every once in a while, I would go stark raving bonkers. :bigsmile:
 
mikebird

mikebird

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Dreaming awake and aware, using my imagination

But also vivid dreams happen, while unconscious, of getting married to a particular star from apocalyptic survival movie 28 Days Later, who an American doctor
in a big park in my town or back to hometown, where friends arrive in trucks full of serious sound kit to join up the biggest festival rig I've ever seen,
giving a third finger to churches and formal ceremony and my wedding present is a Ducati motorbike flown into the field, where I make doughnuts with the rear wheel to blast mud into the faces and clothing. I say "you shouldn't have worn bridesmaids dresses or suits. Should have come in jeans"
After building an international IT empire which conquers Microsoft & Google and my wife organises huge healthcare services in warzones.
We eventually relocate to a massive circular castle in Italy and put shark tanks and swimming pools throughout the buildings, and plough the fields to grow vegetables, vineyards and animals to supply all the food to live on and I get a certification to fly a chinook to take all our friends to this place from over the world.
 
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SilentAndShy

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Without doubt I do, have done for as long as I can remember.

It started when I was really young and aspired to be a footballer (soccer player), and would play on my own in the garden reanacting moments and imagining it was me before sadly, I realised I was rubbish.

But yeah, I tend to daydream mostly when I'm listening to music and imagine I'm a sportsman, an actor, or this guy who is the opposite of me - well built, confident and has the women or women of my dreams.
 
coldhart

coldhart

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yeah a lot, my brain always think a lot of unreal stuffs .. i feel it is a way to cope with my anxiety.. i delved into a world of fantasy that temporarily satisfy my frustration in life.. a lot of numbers, equations and math stuffs sparks into my head..:bigsmile: sometimes i draw or paint to stop my head thinking about this crazy flying numbers :kickingmyself:
 
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