worrywort
Well-known member
Anyone else have this problem?
I think the main problem I have with being assertive is because I feel guilty afterwards. I really don't like hurting peoples feelings and I really don't like to feel like a bad person. What if I get too assertive and cause a lot of tension and bother, and then it turns out I'm in the wrong? I'd feel like that would be such a blow to my identity. I'm a nice guy! I don't do stuff like that!....right?!
I don't like saying no to people or causing aggrovation, but sometimes I feel like the world is kicking me around too much.
What's the answer here? Should I care less about other people? Are there way's to be assertive without seeming like a jerk?
I think the main problem I have with being assertive is because I feel guilty afterwards. I really don't like hurting peoples feelings and I really don't like to feel like a bad person. What if I get too assertive and cause a lot of tension and bother, and then it turns out I'm in the wrong? I'd feel like that would be such a blow to my identity. I'm a nice guy! I don't do stuff like that!....right?!
I don't like saying no to people or causing aggrovation, but sometimes I feel like the world is kicking me around too much.
What's the answer here? Should I care less about other people? Are there way's to be assertive without seeming like a jerk?