Appearing mysterious/enigmatic

stardog

stardog

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Does a part of you like seeming mysterious to people?

I've always thought with people generally, but more w/girls I have more chance of being liked if I just don't say much. Mainly because I've been asked out a few times in my life and it was from being quiet, not revealing much about myself. So I fear when I open my mouth it's obvious what a social retard I am, people will see my unattractive, social ineptness and realise what a boring life I have.

Obviously though if you don't eventually open up and be personal, you can't form relationships with people. I think putting on this 'mysterious face' might be just a form of avoidance. I think It's my main problem atm...I appear overly formal all the time, can't let anyone in. Like, at work initially people liked me, but after 3 months of this 'blankness' most don't bother talking to me now. But there's a girl I like there, and I don't want her to know about my sh*tty life...which is dumb cause I know there's probably no chance anyways. :/
 
Ubersonic

Ubersonic

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Being mysterious is my way of life, it's my main method of avoidance. I don't think people will accept me for who I am, so I don't open up. I do open up to people that are like me, though there are VERY few, and they are never girls. :(
 
elisegrey

elisegrey

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Oh, god, I think I might know what you mean. Until quite recently, I took some comfort from the fact that even though I was socially inept and scared out of my wits of others most of the time, the worst comes to the worst then I'd probably look a little mysterious and distant, and a little, I don't know, above?

Maintaining it, one loses one's appeal when people don't see any progression; but then, as you say, how do you open up to people and get to know them? Bloody impossible when you feel like whatever happens they're bound to be disappointed you're fairly uncomplicated - or, if complicated, not in a cool way - underneath it all. Curse of my bloody life; I'm only now figuring out how to switch that oooooh, mysterious and aloof bit off, fingers crossed. It does nothing but harm in the ultimate end.
 
pinkputter

pinkputter

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Ubersonic said:
Being mysterious is my way of life, it's my main method of avoidance. I don't think people will accept me for who I am, so I don't open up. I do open up to people that are like me, though there are VERY few, and they are never girls. :(
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there are tons of myesterious girls out there. guys and girls are both mysterious.
 
lyricalliaisons

lyricalliaisons

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People view me as being mysterious, but they also view me as being aloof, distant, odd, etc. I do sort-of like being viewed as "mysterious," but not distant or aloof. Odd is okay, because it's the truth. It's just the negative things that get to me.
 
Psychedelicious

Psychedelicious

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Someone once told me that I was mysterious. They said they probably wouldn't approach me because they would really have no idea what I was thinking. You know, there's those people and you can kind of get an idea of how they are, or what they're thinking by how they look or whatever, but I guess I'm just not like that. I can understand what they mean though.

I'm not sure if that's good or bad. I don't want people to know me or anything about me, so it's all a secret. I've had lots of people tell my I'm interesting, for I have no idea what reason, when these people don't even know me. I kind of like being mysterious, but I feel like it would be more interesting if I knew how to put it on correctly. I also feel like if anyone ever found out about who I was, they would see what a boring life I lead.
 
ZiggyCosmicJive

ZiggyCosmicJive

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pinkputter said:
Ubersonic said:
Being mysterious is my way of life, it's my main method of avoidance. I don't think people will accept me for who I am, so I don't open up. I do open up to people that are like me, though there are VERY few, and they are never girls. :(
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there are tons of myesterious girls out there. guys and girls are both mysterious.
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I think he means he opens up to people that are like him the way he is on the inside.
 
Kamen

Kamen

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I am such a person but I also think some people like it. I personally like it, maybe because it makes me feel safe.
 
no1

no1

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more like.. self centered maybe. I dont know.. if I am to talk in class in college.. I do seem kind of like I get dramatic or I start to seem pitiful... i dunno, my body language shows the kind of person I am, naturally isolated, and lonesoe, sad, etc. I can't help it sometimes. I dont know how to act normal.....
 
Havocan

Havocan

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Most who don't know me see me as mysterious. In a more negative way, some sort of a stranger who doesn't belong on this planet. When someone makes a joke and expects me to respond on it somehow I just freak out and keep my mouth shut, that's why I end up seeming mysterious and without any humour, probably very off-putting in other words.

Girls mostly seem to like males who make them laugh and all that ^^.
 
no1

no1

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Havocan said:
Most who don't know me see me as mysterious. In a more negative way, some sort of a stranger who doesn't belong on this planet. When someone makes a joke and expects me to respond on it somehow I just freak out and keep my mouth shut, that's why I end up seeming mysterious and without any humour, probably very off-putting in other words.

Girls mostly seem to like males who make them laugh and all that ^^.
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yeah, like a stranger, or from another planet. a weirdo, whatever. different. I may come off that way as well...
 
Zarrix

Zarrix

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Mysterious/Enigmatic is the way I want to be, but I don't come across as that either unfortuantely.
 
dan_e

dan_e

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Being mysterious is kind of cool, BUT I think after a while people start to misread me. What was unintentionally mysterious and avoidant starts to be seen as someone who doesn't want to be bothered with others. From their point of view maybe it seems like I don't even like them. :?
 
Walk

Walk

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dan_e said:
Being mysterious is kind of cool, BUT I think after a while people start to misread me. What was unintentionally mysterious and avoidant starts to be seen as someone who doesn't want to be bothered with others. From their point of view maybe it seems like I don't even like them. :?
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I think this is true 90% of the time.

In high school, people at first talked to me but then stopped, even though I actually wanted them to talk to me (I couldn't get myself to initiate conversation at that time). So yeah, being quiet might be cute for 2 seconds, but after a while, it just caused me to get nothing done, socially speaking.
 
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