What is biggest mistake in your life?

Well, what is biggest mistake in your life? If you could turn the time back, what you wouldn’t let happen again in your life at any cost?

My biggest mistake is that I couldn’t win the love of the girl of my dreams. This was a few years ago. She was very pretty and unlike most other girls she wasn’t indifferent to me. She was exactly my type and I am convinced that we could be happy together. But I was so uncertain, so hesitant, that I did almost nothing to impress her. My lack of confidence once again betrayed me. Tired of my hesitation I started to avoid her. Later our paths split and I haven’t seen her. Since then I even haven’t had a chance for a date. Even now, years later, I still regret for this opportunity. If I was a little more confident, a little more insistent … but I wasn’t.

So this is in short. I’m just curious what about other people.

I think my biggest mistake so far is not getting help. I keep chickening out.

My inability to make decisions.

restless said:

My biggest mistake is that I couldn’t win the love of the girl of my dreams. This was a few years ago. She was very pretty and unlike most other girls she wasn’t indifferent to me. She was exactly my type and I am convinced that we could be happy together. But I was so uncertain, so hesitant, that I did almost nothing to impress her. My lack of confidence once again betrayed me. Tired of my hesitation I started to avoid her. Later our paths split and I haven’t seen her. Since then I even haven’t had a chance for a date. Even now, years later, I still regret for this opportunity. If I was a little more confident, a little more insistent … but I wasn’t.

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I have pretty the same regret as what you described. I've done a few things in the past that were pretty bad and embarassing to me and my family, but when I look back at it I think everything actually worked out better in the long run.

Similar to you, I had a fairly brief relationship with a girl (it lasted 3 weeks). I felt very comfortable around her and it was like I didn't have any SA around her. Everything went great, but then she just decided to end it. But I don't think there's anything I could've done different in that situation.

So my biggest regret happened a couple months later. I met the girl of my dreams. The first day we hung out was on the 4th of July, we spend like 13 hours together. Everything was going great, I didn't feel nervous around her and there was a good chemistry between us. At the end of the night when I dropped her off we hugged, and then I kissed her, but she didn't pull away so I figured everything was good. So I asked her what if she wanted to hang out a couple days later, she said she did.

So a coule days later I called her and she never called back. Eventually she told me I was too reserved for a relationship to come out of it but we could still be friends.

So basically I regret that I kissed her and that I had called her again a couple days later. I think I came on as a little too desperate.

My biggest mistake is that I was born, although I think this is rather my parent´s mistake :/.

I drank to escape social anxiety and ended up kissin someone else and loosin my girlfriend. not great

mistakes

The biggest mistake I think I made is thinking and beliefing that there is such a thing as the biggest mistake.

I...We...We all worry to much about mistakes. I heard its cause by perfectionism. If you look at those people who are sucessful they dont seem to spend much time analizing mistakes like us. Thats just my little oponion.

Most of my biggest mistakes occured because of alcohol. Even though I have done alot of stupid things while intoxicated, I some how lucked out and didn't get into too much trouble. But the biggest thing (even bigger than almost dying of alcohol poisoning, etc.) was cheating on my boyfriend of 2 years. We were having some troubling times, but it was no excuse. I can't believe I was a cheater. I hate cheaters. It probably wouldn't occur if I hadn't been drinking and had low self-esteem, either. I regret it because he was my first real love and was accepting of who I am and he did alot for me. He gave me some life after not experiencing that in a long time. We even continued to go out on-off a couple years after that but I knew things were never the same.I lost himcompletely now - all because I am an awful, immoral person.

Another huge regret that I had occured in middle school. One of my neighborhood gf's dad died of cancer. She asked me shortly after if I wanted to come over her house. I told her that I had a big project due (and that was true) but I can't believe that I wasn't there for her. I really hate myself for this. Maybe I was scared and didn't know what to do or say to her at the time, but I feel like such a heartless person. This is one thing I truly wish I could go back and change.

And finally, I wish I had more confidence in HS. I still have bad self-esteem, but I have much more than I did then. I would have took pride in my self- in dress, posture, etc. I would have maybe tried to talk to this kid I had a big crush on for a couple of those years. I graduated 6 years ago, but I still think back at him.

My biggest mistake was ever wasting time going to high school.
If I could turn time back to when I was about 13, i would have dropped out and spent those 5-6 years studying/writing music for my future.
I'd have probably accomplished something major by now if i'd done that.

My biggest mistake was not finding help for depression sooner. I left it more or less till the end of high school, I've started Uni, it's been over half a year now and I'm still not fully recovered. It's been difficult to keep friends because four years of misery spent mostly indoors has left me unable to speak to people my own age. Worse, I've turned down opportunities that would have made me much happier due to anxiety.

My biggest mistake has been not being more talkative while growing up, especially in early high school, when I was 13-14.

I have also missed out on girlfriend opportunities over the years, starting when I was about 11.

But again, it had to do with not being just a little more chilled out and talkative. (I actually have dated a few girls recently, but those just weren't my type).

I also regret doing so poorly in high school. I think it could have been a pretty good experience (overall) if I had just been a little more talkative, more assertive, and such.

Not getting help, especially during my low point in depression, when I was about 16, is also something I wish I hadn't done. I'm 22 now, and I feel like most of my fears back then were completely blown out of proportion; I'm probably doing the same thing with my current fears, although they weren't as intense as they used to be.

Hmmm....I have a number of horrible things that could compete for worst mistake in my life. Moving back in with my parents in my mid-30's (hell on earth for two and a half brink of insanity years)? Not using a condom and hearing months later that I supposedly knocked up some chic I had slept with, but never had it confirmed (I've spent the last 19 years wondering if I'm a father)? Getting drunk with a man I didn't know and getting sexually assaulted against my will (extreme trauma that still haunts me 17 years later)?

Those are all some of my big ones, but I'd have to say the biggest mistake I ever made was not accepting myself for who I am. Most of my life, if not all, I have never known who I really am to begin with so it's been difficult. I've tried to copy people's gifts and talents that I don't have and it's been a disaster. I guess if I had the confidence I needed and was affirmed as a person, perhaps I wouldn't have felt the need to envy people and try and be someone I'm not. We all have gifts and talents and if we can just accept them and make the best of them, whatever they are, then we won't have to worry about what other people are doing and can make something out of our lives.

Getting born.

usually involved drugs and/or alcohol and sex .... ive learnt to disassociate the two and preserve my dignity ...

My biggest mistake was letting my shyness make me drop out of the 9th grade in highschool. To me that feels to be the root cause of my sa. Those are the most important years of socializing and developing a humor. I say it alot but im as fun as a wall. Another situation might be a few months ago. Like 10times my good friend would always invite me to hang with his friends. Now i dont talk to them anymore my anxiety made me boring and seem weird. That would have been my best chance at making new friends.

actually billy that made me laugh

Biggest mistake ever was not go on drugs (SSRIs) when I was back in high school. I went to the doctor because I had/have a problem with blushing and he said the drugs were okay but my dad didn't want me to be on them so I was sent to a psychologist instead when I realy needed medication. That was about 7 years ago, I'm 22 now and on medication but I can't help but things could have been much better being on drugs at that age, thinks could have turned out better eg more friends, better results at uni (college) a girlfriend etc.

It seems it put me back a few years, oh well shit happens!

My biggest mistake was becoming obsessed with where I look, and being paranoid about being looked at.

recluse said:

Getting born.

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Exactly how I am feelng at the moment!