What event(s) gets you the most anxious?

Zarrix

Well-known member
There are a few situations

1.Sitting in the middle of a Shopping centre. I try to do it, but I always have to get up after 3 minutes, I cannot stand it.

2.If someone who I want to impress is staring at me, watching me do my job at work. I always look like a moron when they do that, especially if this one girl is staring at me. I have never let anyone there know how I feel about this though.

3. Walking past groups of people around about my age, outgoing types.. These people seem the most hostile to me, the people most likely to judge me as "nerdy', 'moronic' etc. I think it is because these people have given me loads of shit in the past.

4.Doing group work and having a high expectation on me. To say something, to provide something, etc. I always worry it will be wrong.
 

recluse

Well-known member
Anything which involves being with people and having to interact socially. I have no problem going shopping on my own, o'r travelling on my own.
 

sidney

Well-known member
sitting in circles, i just hate them!! passing big food court places even when im not the one sitting & eatting im still feel anxious cus its one of the things i find hardest to do >.<
 

Broken_Memory

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Meeting new people that I know I'll have to spend time with for time to come. I can never allow myself to just.. exist. My mind will race with what NOT to say, to the point where I don't know what to say at all.
 

Caseums21

Well-known member
It doesn't bother me when I'm with a group of people unless I'm eating.

I don't mind shopping by myself but with a friend, I freak out because I like to get in and get out.

I usually get most anxious when I'm at a one on one meeting or with someone of the opposite sex (just the two of us).
 

silentbutdeadly

Well-known member
1. Eating in restaurants in a group of 3 or more. And I always end up thinking that the waitress/waiter thinks I'm a total weirdo.

Or eating at a table with other people...anywhere. I guess I can't stand the fact that you're automatically expected to make conversation in this kind of setting. Oh, and wedding receptions! I hate wedding receptions!!!:evil: I always end up sitting with a whole bunch of people I don't know, and I can't bring up the courage to talk to anyone not sitting right next to me, because I'd have to raise my voice a little (since you're always at a big circular table with like 10 people) and deal with the possibility of everyone staring at me as I speak.

2. Interviews of any kind. This includes phone interviews...and even doctor's appointments.

3. Walking into class. (side note: does anyone else have an irrational fear of turning around in class if there are people sitting behind you? i can never turn around, and then I stand out since I'm the only one who doesn't turn around when someone in the back asks a question or something...grrrrrrr :evil:)
I also can't eat in the cafeteria at school because I'm afraid I'll stand out as someone who eats alone. So I'll get drive-thru food or bring something from home and eat in my car. I'm so paranoid that someone will notice that I'm always (hiding) in my car at the same time on school days...I always try to park in a different spot every time 8) :lol: I don't think I've ever told anyone about this...oh well, I guess if anyone's gonna understand, it's you guys on this site.

Well, I probably have a hell of a lot more situations to add, but that was probably more info than anyone ever wanted to hear...so I'll stop now, bye.
 

tool1919

Well-known member
Yeh, i hear you silentbutdeadly.

If i'm at a restaurant with a group of people i'm not totally comfortable with that's really bad. Especially if you are sitting facing someone you don't know or get along with very well. It's like when you're not eating (ie waiting for food/after you've eaten) you have to talk to the person opposite cos there's nothing else to do or nowhere to look. But what if you don't have anything to say. I hate talking just for the sake of it. Also hate it when i don't have my personal space so if you're all sitting close it's bad. I try to get an end seat or something so your not looking directly at anyone and no one is directly looking at you.

Normal conversations when the person is standing too close to me, feel smothered by it.

Many social gathering in general where you're just 'expected' to socialise. I hate it when it's forced.

Also, one of the worst is bumping into someone unexpectedly, depending on who it is, how long its been since you last saw them, and what terms you your on with them. For example, i was with a friend and bumped into my ex-girlfriend from years ago (before i had this problem) and she was with her new boyfriend and we all just stood there and it was like me and her were meant to talk while my mate and her boyfriend just stood there and looked at us. Real awkward and started blushing and sweating and although they didn't say it they all would've known. Spose a lot of people may do the same in that horrible situation though.

Ohhh, i'm rambling....sorry.
 

miss_amy

Well-known member
Walking past people in the street especially if I know them. Ok in crowds where no one speaks. Its when theres a possible speaking situation or that they will look at me in a judging way. Crowded places blend in=no problem.

Vistors at home..especially ones that stay over or have meals. Pressure is immense. Try telling mother in law she can't come! It has to be done. Hate people in my space.

Staying at their house is unbearable too, their house is so small and theres nowhere to escape to. Have to keep the act up so long because they don't know and I don't want them to know. Sitting so close to people on limited seating, can't eat right, can't relax, get belly ache coz can't use toilet properly coz of anxiety.

Phone...can't answer phone at all or make calls unless its my mum or sis or husband. Phone ringing at home or work makes me feel bad. Its embarrassing that I have to avoid the phone. If theres no one available to answer at work I look stupid because I don't pick up. get away with it because I'm the boss. Same is customer comes, I cannot deal with them which is embarrassing if everyone else is busy and I'm stood there like an idiot.

Any situation with potential conflict makes me panic.
 

Generical

Well-known member
I'm not too bad at speaking to people anymore. It's more stuff that i've never done that i'll avoid and put off to another day. It's just going and being in a unfamiliar place or event that i don't want to be in, which is messing me up right now. It's often a tiny little detail that im not sure about will make me avoid something, obsess over it to the point of backing out.
 

Moonie

Well-known member
The two biggest things that get me are talking on the telephone and public speaking.

Not so much with people I will never talk to again or know personally on the phone, but with potential dates and friends.

And public speaking scares the crap out of me. I am okay with presentations for classes where it's not a big part of the grade. But, public speaking (the class) was terrible. Most of the grades were all presentations and I got Cs and Ds and a 0 for missing a big presentation.
 

Luna

Member
OMG...everyone seems to fear the same situations I do. And I thought I was the only one.

I hate seeing someone I know at a grocery store/in public. I'll beeline out of their way in order to avoid running into them (even if I like them).

I dread crossing an intersection at a traffic light or walking down a sidewalk where there are cars. (especially if I'm by myself, which is most often). I'm worried someone I know will see me and laugh at me.

Talking on the phone. I never call people (even my friends). My typical cell phone minutes in a month barely reaches 100! I also love to screen phone calls because I don't feel "prepared" to talk to them. Responding to emails is also difficult.
 

colphy

New member
Going to the mall. Especially hate the food court.

Meeting new people (especially opposite sex). My throat gets all dry and I have trouble keeping my voice level.

I hate seeing someone I know at a grocery store/in public. I'll beeline out of their way in order to avoid running into them (even if I like them).

lol I know exactly what you mean. Once a friend's girlfriend said that she saw me at a gas station and I was staring straight forward and looked pissed. I tried to say that I was probably just in my phased out mode. She thought that was weird. It's what I call it when I have to go someplace I hate so I just try to shut out everyone. I think I referred to it as "armor for my soul"... she didn't get it.
 

hulkamaniak

Active member
Hmm generally the same as everyone else at the moment, and like most i dont mind walking in shopping centres since generally you dont have to speak to anyone, ofcoarse i hate seeing someone i know.

The thing i hate most is when at a party (my friend always trys to pull me along) when everyone is speaking at the table, i get anxious knowing everyone is noticing im not speaking and dont know were to look.
 

Zarrix

Well-known member
I hate seeing people I know at a random time, even If I only know them a little bit. If they are a customer at work, I go and hide away, If I meet them at a shopping centre, I usually face down and say nothing, unless they say something first.
 

Luna

Member
colphy said:
Going to the mall. Especially hate the food court.

Meeting new people (especially opposite sex). My throat gets all dry and I have trouble keeping my voice level.

I hate seeing someone I know at a grocery store/in public. I'll beeline out of their way in order to avoid running into them (even if I like them).

lol I know exactly what you mean. Once a friend's girlfriend said that she saw me at a gas station and I was staring straight forward and looked pissed. I tried to say that I was probably just in my phased out mode. She thought that was weird. It's what I call it when I have to go someplace I hate so I just try to shut out everyone. I think I referred to it as "armor for my soul"... she didn't get it.


I know all about the "you looked pissed when I saw you." People always seem to spot me somewhere (and either I noticed them or not). Why do people expect you to smile 24/7? I even had someone say they saw me driving in my car and that "I looked mad" How is one supposed to look when standing in line or driving? :lol:
 

bluenow

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Driving a car, talking to more than one person, walking past a group of people, confrontation, keeping eye contact while talking is almost impossible. :oops:
 

NothingElseMatters

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I get anxious when driving in the city with someone in the car with me.When i am driving alone i don't find it so stresfull maybe because if i get lost i won't have anyone thinking that i am useless.I also hate going to small shops with one or two people who work there and once you enter you get all the attention.I don't get anxious going to a mall though
 
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