What do you think about love?

Today in lunch, a girl who liked me sat next to my table. I was reading a book, and I felt someone looking at me and I looked up and saw her looking at me, I looked away quickly because I was too shy lol. She said to her friend "he does that all the time". I felt like a loser after lunch, because I thought the same thing was going to happen again, I go on a date, then bam I get dumped the next week for being a boring bastard, I mean if people don't like me being me, then to hell with love, I have other things to do rather than trying to fake my personality.

I think love is too complicated; as in it is the most beautifull thing to people find true love, but to everybody else it just plaing sucks. love makes you dependent on the other person instead of yourself, which in that sense makes you weak, because your love and therefore your happiness depends on that one person, and that person will always dictate when you are happy and when you (eventually) will feel sad and depressed, especially when they leave you ( which in todays world,will probbly happen). It also sucks because it recquires you to make huge risks and sacrifices to get to it, and ussually they do all end up in vain. You can spend all the money on them in the world to keep eachother happy, but in the end it still depends on the other person, not you. Some people become so infatuated with the idea of love because they think they found it, even if it’s there first time ever having feelings like that. the feeling will drive them crazy and make them do real retarded things that they wouldn’t normally do in other situations. but in the end it will all fall apart, they will be left with that depressed feeling of lonelyness, and also not even worth all the work. True love used to exist, where you could meet someone and be with them for life, where it wasn’t such a risk to be in love. but in todays Godless, corrupt, and superficial world, where 50 % of marriages end in divorce, people cheat left and right, everygirl looks for the bad boy even tho they all end up hurting the girl in on way or another, and people look at love so superfically, love is very rare.



What do you think?

I think it's a piece of crap. It made me the happiest mother-fuker in the world. Then it tore me apart and I haven't felt the same ever since. I've been desensitized completely and it's hard to feel everyday emotions. I've become void of feeling anything that actually means anything. That doesn't even make sense. Point is, it leaves as empty as you'll ever feel once it's gone. It's hard to explain what it feels like. I thought it would last forever; but it didn't. I don't know if I'll ever feel it again. They say that it is better to have loved and lost than to never love at all, but I don't understand how that makes any sense if in the end you feel miserable and cold and numb. Hope that helps you. =)

lithium said:

I think it's a piece of crap. It made me the happiest mother-fuker in the world. Then it tore me apart and I haven't felt the same ever since. I've been desensitized completely and it's hard to feel everyday emotions. I've become void of feeling anything that actually means anything. That doesn't even make sense. Point is, it leaves as empty as you'll ever feel once it's gone. It's hard to explain what it feels like. I thought it would last forever; but it didn't. I don't know if I'll ever feel it again. They say that it is better to have loved and lost than to never love at all, but I don't understand how that makes any sense if in the end you feel miserable and cold and numb. Hope that helps you. =)

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I've been exactly where you are...sometimes I still feel that way. When she left me the pain was so bad, I didn't want to live anymore.

All I know is that you have to be open to love for it to happen again. It'll never happen if you don't let it.

It's worth the risk.

coyote said:

I've been exactly where you are...sometimes I still feel that way. When she left me the pain was so bad, I didn't want to live anymore.

All I know is that you have to be open to love for it to happen again. It'll never happen if you don't let it.

It's worth the risk.

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Yeah, it is. Except for the possibility of getting hurt again, but as they say "no pain, no gain."

I think there are 2 types of love.
First is that 'in love' feeling that then grows in to loving someone, well if your lucky.
The feeling of 'being in love' is how THEY make you feel, by being loving, thoughtful, caring or saying something that makes you feel loved, but that feeling comes and goes depending on how that person treats you.
Loving someone is how YOU feel about them, that's the feeling that always stays even if you are not in love with the person at that time.
People expect to feel that rush of 'being in love' all the time so when they don't feel it all the time they look for it elsewhere.
If a partner behaves like they did when they first met there partner IE being loving and thoughtful then the partner would still feel that 'in love' feeling the problem is people change after being with someone after a while, they stop being romantic, thoughtful and don't need to or want to spend as much time with there partner like they did when they first met so the other feels unloved, unwanted or taken for granted because to them the person who made them feel so loved and adored when they first met doesn't exist anymore or only on birthdays and anniversarys do they behave the same as they did when they first met.

I would say most woman cheat because someone comes along who pays her attention and makes her feel special just like her partner use to.
And most Men cheat because there partner doesn't want to sleep with him as much as she did when they first met so he feels pushed away and rejected.

Love can be great as i have found true love with my husband but even though saying that we have had are ups and down along the way.
Love can and does hurt but it is worth it IF its with the right person.

Aru_Sarutobi said:

love makes you dependent on the other person instead of yourself, which in that sense makes you weak, because your love and therefore your happiness depends on that one person, and that person will always dictate when you are happy and when you (eventually) will feel sad and depressed, especially when they leave you ( which in todays world,will probbly happen).

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I think what you're describing here is an unhealthy type of love. Being dependent on the other person for your happiness or letting them dictate your moods is not what real love should be about- although I'm sure a majority of relationships end up like this. It's not very encouraging.

I want love but I'm also scared of it. I don't know if I can trust a person that completely and I feel it may be selfish on some level.

lurknomore said:

I think what you're describing here is an unhealthy type of love. Being dependent on the other person for your happiness or letting them dictate your moods is not what real love should be about- although I'm sure a majority of relationships end up like this. It's not very encouraging.

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lurk is soooo right! way too many people end up making their relationships like this.. i feel bad because many do think that this is what love is, when it's really not =/ i don't even know if i've ever truly been in honest and deep love, but i do know that to truly love and be loved, you MUST love yourself first. it's so cliche, but so true. you can't give someone else all the love you have unless you are 100% with yourself, you can't be completely happy, strong and mature in a realtionship until you know and love your true self.

how many times did i just say 'love' in one paragraph!? geeze!

agoraphobickatie said:

lurk is soooo right! way too many people end up making their relationships like this.. i feel bad because many do think that this is what love is, when it's really not =/ i don't even know if i've ever truly been in honest and deep love, but i do know that to truly love and be loved, you MUST love yourself first. it's so cliche, but so true. you can't give someone else all the love you have unless you are 100% with yourself, you can't be completely happy, strong and mature in a realtionship until you know and love your true self.

how many times did i just say 'love' in one paragraph!? geeze!

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that might be an unhealthy way to love, but to some people that's what true love is and the fact that they are devastated when the other person leave them show that they were truly in love.

As far as i goes: i always end up liking girls that are my opposite, girls that have zero interest in me, those who think i'm some kind of rebel or bad boy or those who already are in a relationship. It's also hard to like someone you have zero interest in

agoraphobickatie said:

lurk is soooo right! way too many people end up making their relationships like this.. i feel bad because many do think that this is what love is, when it's really not =/ i don't even know if i've ever truly been in honest and deep love, but i do know that to truly love and be loved, you MUST love yourself first. it's so cliche, but so true. you can't give someone else all the love you have unless you are 100% with yourself, you can't be completely happy, strong and mature in a realtionship until you know and love your true self.

how many times did i just say 'love' in one paragraph!? geeze!

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Yep that is true, if you don't think your worth much you will put up with stuff you shouldn't just because you think you cant get better.
No one should ever be someones world because if you lose them there world is gone and if the other person is the only thing you have in the world what can you put in to the relationship.
Now how many worlds did i manage to get in to that? lol

I think love HURTS like a mother-fucher. It always ends, and when it ends it kills. Better not to have feelings at all.

spendogz said:

I think love HURTS like a mother-fucher. It always ends, and when it ends it kills. Better not to have feelings at all.

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Just because it ends is that any reason not to be open to it? You shouldn't pass up a good thing just because it may be gone in the future. You're going to miss out on a lot if you do that. In my opinion love, as well as a lot of other things, is more about the journey then the destination.

Love is absolute non-sense. How something that is intangible supposedly affects us so greatly is simply beyond me. I think we only believe in it because we were taught the concept of "love" and we all have those stereotypical images of what it should be and that is the basis of "love". Think objectively of the whole phenomenon and you'll see that it simply covers up the biological need to reproduce. Which brings me to another point, the only reason anyone dates or is in a relationship is sex. This is a fact. If you deny this, you are simply lying to yourself. Sex is the only reason to be in a relationship, but of course everyone masks it up with love and companionship and all that other rhetorical garbage vomited up from some marketing/advertising firm.

I know what I'm talking about. I thought I was in "love" once, of course she left me for another guy. I then had to see her 5 days a week in class with a myriad of other guys, and still do forcibly have to see her, because she of course had to pick the same major as me, and every time I see her I become so incredibly angry, depressed, and reflective that it has driven me to my conclusions and pure hatred for this thing called "love".

I identify love itself as the caring for somethingThats just my general idea.What everyone percieves as love today is only a result of indrustrialisation.People think of each other are products.

I hope one day I can feel what this true love is.

Love is a pain to me. It douse not make me happy it makes me sad and hopeless that I am too shy and reclusive to show and receive love. I really don't know what real love is its only in my fantasies. I don't think that I am capable of showing real love to anyone even my parents. So when I am in love I feel sad and depressed.

thao87 said:

Ok just because not all relationships last doesn't mean love is crap altogether and we should all give up. I know many couples that are happily together.
True love is for the wise or the lucky. You either stumble upon someone that is just as faithful as you with little effort, or you need to put in some effort to weed out the unfaithful ones. You don't need to leave it to luck totally. Without wisdom you are gambling with love.

The only crap kind of love is one-sided love and if you get into that kind of relationship it is just as much your fault as the other person.
A quote I like to live by: 'to love someone is nothing, to be loved is something, but to be loved by the one u love is everything'

Most people get into a relationship before even really knowing the person and they might just be blinded with infatuation. If it ends bad then honestly you shouldn't be too surprised. Just wanting someone isn't enough to make a lasting relationship no matter how much you hope they want you too. Know when it's a lost cause and save yourself the heartache.

Give yourself a better chance at a lasting relationship and get to really know how the person is, analyze them, see if they have values/morals and how serious they are about being faithful. Don't believe in just plain words because you need to see through more then that.
There is always someone out there that is better then you in some way, but it takes a truly committed person to stay by you no matter what. Also, someone that knows what they want are more likely to not change their minds I reckon.

I'm pretty cautious when it comes to relationships and would rather be alone then be in one if I don't really believe it would last. If I was fooled I might blame myself for not being wiser, but no I wouldn't give up on love. Don't let a bad relationship turn you into bitter people, let it make you wiser.

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Then perhaps I should try to see how this will turn out. Hopefully, something different will happen. And if I get dumped(again lol) then I will just keep on trying besides letting it get to me and staying single for the rest of the school year(ouch).

Aru_Sarutobi said:

Then perhaps I should try to see how this will turn out. Hopefully, something different will happen. And if I get dumped(again lol) then I will just keep on trying besides letting it get to me and staying single for the rest of the school year(ouch).

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What year are you in? If this is high school I think you will be all right. Very small chance of a mature relationship in those years.

College, different story.

Nocer said:

I hope one day I can feel what this true love is.

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Hear hear (10 chars)

Love does not always end, i know a couple who got together when they were 16 and they are now both 85, they still hold hands and are each others best friend, every week he still gets flowers delivered to her which he has done since they were 16.

Love isn't always just about sex, i met my husband on a chatroom and we had feelings for each other before we even saw a photo, are feelings were based on having things in common, laughing together,feeling comfortable with each other and being friends.
If a relationship is purely based on sex it will never last.
You have to like each other, you have to know you would be friends if you were not in a relationship, care about each other, trust each other and be honest.
Sex in a loving relationship isn't about what you get from it its about feeling bonded to the other person and sharing something with them that you don't share with anyone else, a closeness only you two have and making the other person feel loved, needed and wanted, and they make you feel the same.
If its a one sided relationship were its all about what you get and not what you can give then it will never work.
We are all bought up with the fairytale that you meet someone, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after, bull!
Relationships are hard work, there are ups and downs, and as no one is perfect everyone makes mistakes but you have to work through them, learn by them and move on, what don't kill you makes you stronger.
Why so many young people want to hurry and meet THE ONE they will stay with forever i don't know, have fun, live your life and if that special person comes along well good but if they don't and you get burnt a few times just dust your self off and move on as they were not meant for you anyway.