Your Social Life. How great is it?

[Argamemnon]

Last week a [normally-online] friend came over for the first offline socializing I've done in about a year (being self-employed and living alone, I never have to talk to anyone). That experience reminded me how awkward and pointless it is, and how much easier it is to communicate with a keyboard.

I totally understand. We have visitors today. They are actually still here, but I've gone upstairs after 30 minutes. They are "socializing" with my parents now. I sometimes feel so overwhelmed when interacting with people, I know there is something seriously wrong with me..

Seriously, how can we fear people so much - is it because we rarely socialize with people, which makes it a lot harder? Or are we the way we are and nothing could ever change this, and we should simply resign ourselves to our fate? I don't want to fear people anymore, but I'm simply unable to overcome this terrible "illness"; my attempts are in vain..

 

[ah_bon]

I don't have an online or offline social life... Pretty sad, I know.

 

[JonnyD]

What is it? does it hurt?

i never got one, the most social thing i've done in my whole freaking life wass playingfootbal (the english one) wkith my firends on the 6-7 grade.

i always stayed away from people my whole life - how would i know of it? i was just a kid - and i don't know if i willalways know how to build a social life.
i don't know what to do =(

 

[billy]

does world of warcraft count'?

 

[Ashiene]

what is a social life?

maybe its when i talk to myself all the time? :lol:

 

[weak]

I have 2 friends that I've known my whole life. Ever since we all turned 21 they've both turned their interests to clubbing and meeting girls, stuff that requires the social skills that I seriously lack. So in the past 3 years I've grown really distant to the only friends I've ever had in my life, which sucks immensely.

But in retrospect, it's worth mentioning that in these past 3 years of completely lacking a social life, I've used all my free time to do something productive. Almost exactly 3 years ago, while going through a really hard break up that nearly left me evicted, I launched an online business for viral marketing, which became incredibly successful over the following year. By the time I was 21, I had made enough buy myself a house and a new car.

So I know that it seems like there's no upside to lacking a social life, but honestly if it wasn't for that and SA, I wouldn't be where I am today. I have an online friend who also has SA and works in the same field as myself, his outcome is the exact same for the exact same reasons. He had a ridiculous amount of free time on his hands and he just spent years channeling into doing something productive.

 

[chosen_one]

I have a couple of close friends (that I made from High-school), but I'm gradually losing contact with them because they have moved on their own paths. One of them has turned into a jerk, all he does is gloat and judge people. I have made aquaitances at university, but I wouldn't consider them my friends because they too many friends of their own that they hang out with. Making friends let alone aquitances is extremely difficult for me due to my disorder.

I'm sick of being lonely. Especially on Friday and Saturday nights, I hate the fact that everyone else is having a great time clubbing, partying etc, because everytime I go on MSN on Friday and Satuday nights, there is no online.

 

[IceLad]

Another one here that doesn't have one, and hasn't had one for quite a few years now. :roll:

I guess the more time has passed, the more used to doing things on my own I've become.

Thank goodness for the internet!

 

[misterF]

I'm still close with a lot of my classmates from high school and have 2 friends that are like brothers to me but I live far away from them now and am incapable of making new friends so right now, no social life offline.

 

[bricethomas]

What's a social life? Does this exist?

 

[proudmummy]

I don't have much of a social life compared to "normal" people but I see different people everyday, but have the odd occasion where I only see my son and partner. I do push myself quite alot to try and get over my problems but it makes me feel worse about myself most of the time when I'm sat with people unable to properly conversate because of my stupid stupid SA. I feel depressed everyday though and cry almost everday, I usually make excuses to leave places where it involves me conversating or doing social things and as soon as I get home I cry and grovel in my problems which results in me staying in for the rest of the day.

Its just so awkward with everyone.

 

[dax79]

I've got a couple friends, but we don't hang out much. My social life is pretty minimal.

 

[colourscolours]

i got one best friend who is living overseas.rarely chat but nice relationship a bit too formal even though she knows me and my problem.lmaybe it is because she migrated.ooking forward to when she comes back in a few months for real,we'll see how it goes then.one since high school.but she is studying in another state.meet up for breakfast wheneva she is in town but then again nothing casual exactly.another one is the most tt i have contacted.but tend to feel used at times.go out more than those two.roughly once a month or so since she is also studyin in another state but nearby.this relationship is very casual although i find her really annoying at times.other than tt nothing.family is the only option for having another life than being at home all the time while cycling in evenings.

 

[GKJB]

I basically lost the many friends I had when I moved towns just before my final year of school. I made a few friends at my new school but it took me a few years to feel comfortable around them. My social life from then up until now had basically been:-

Mate comes round and we have a drink each Thursday night
Either go round mate's and have a drink on the Friday night, or, my mum takes me to stay at my sister's for the weekend every 2 weeks

I became used to this and actually quite liked it as my social life, with the occasional trip elsewhere with my friend/family. I want something more now though, and I've just lost my only friend, I need a way of finding someone with the same interests as me and somehow becoming friends with them, else I'm gonna be stuck in my flat more often than I already am.

Does anyone else get that feeling of wanting to get away from everyone who might know you and your flaws, and know about the times you've embarassed yourself or said stupid things, moving to another Town far away and starting from scratch?

 

[drd77]

I have one best friend. The rest are just aqaintences that I say "high" to at school but never hang out with. I really wish I had a girlfriend though.