you hate people?ok let's go to a party

[Agent_Violet]

I guess it's healthy to push an introverted person to be outside of their comfort zone...but honestly, the cost of the stress is causes seems too high a price to pay.

My husband and i have been together for 6 years. He used to appear as an introvert like me. He was very serious. Apparently, he was simply depressed and that's not really who he was. While I'm very happy he isn't depressed anymore I'm totally fed up with how obnoxiously intertwined he is with being the cool guy that everyone loves.

If he could keep his little fantasy world of optimism and his circle of fake friends/associates away from me I'd be happy.

But no. He has to drag his socially awkward, anxiety laden wife everywhere he goes. I have be a chameleon...smile pretty.look perfect.act happy and natural.

Why don't the happy people lovers ever understand those of us who just want to be left alone?? I understand others needs to be surrounded by their fan club at all times so why is it so tough for them to understand when I can't handle another second of being talky,laughy,and smiley?

 

[Agent_Violet]

not rude at all. i appreciate honesty.

well, he has a huge ocd issue so i get back at him by brushing my teeth in his sink and leaving a glob of toothpaste in it for him to find. ...drives him crazy and makes me smile on the inside.

 

[Agent_Violet]

one small tool in my cruel and vindictive arsenal.

another favorite is letting the dog drink her water from the toilet so she can drool with it all over the bathroom floor. I just sit back and watch his eye twitch over it.

 

[coyote]

my ex-wife was concerned about my lack of friends/social life

so she made numerous attempts to find other men for me to spend quality time with

maybe it was because she felt guilty

because she was doing the same thing for herself

 

[Agent_Violet]

my ex-wife was concerned about my lack of friends/social life

so she made numerous attempts to find other men for me to spend quality time with

maybe it was because she felt guilty

because she was doing the same thing for herself

oh wow! ouch! truly, that sucks.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

6 years together. How recently did he move into social butterfly mode? I don't think I could handle that sort of relationship for long.

 

[Agent_Violet]

i can't pin point exactly when it happened bc it was a gradual shift. i'd say he has been escalating to full on jerseyshore'eque social butterfly status for about 4 years.

 

[Vampayah88]

I seem to attract people that, while we have things in common, at the same time are my opposite. My best friend for example is an extrovert, very outgoing and can make friends easily. I dont know why I seem to gravitate towards these people and why i find myself getting along with them, not for long tho in some cases. I really wish id find someone like me, more introverted and with whom while i take a walk, wont stop every 10 freakin minutes to greet someone they know. ugh.

 

[Agent_Violet]

lol oh gawd i dread going for walks around our neighborhood with H. i don't even know our neighbors names (we've lived in our house for 4 years) but they know all about us and H knows all about them. ugh. I pretend i'm not looking just so i don't have to wave at them when i drive by...they all think i'm some heinous b*tch but at least that keeps them out of my face

 

[Vampayah88]

What i hate the most is when while we are out taking a walk, they meet and start talking and i just stand there getting bored, smiling (so i wont look like a bitch) and saying nothing.

 

[Agent_Violet]

What i hate the most is when while we are out taking a walk, they meet and start talking and i just stand there getting bored, smiling (so i wont look like a bitch) and saying nothing.

BAHAHAHAHAHA oh wow that sounds exactly like me! )

oh i love knowing i'm not the only one

 

[Section_31]

I feel for your violet, only in my case, both my wife and me are hugely anti-social, together. Apparently were perfect for eachother because we both want to be left alone, LOL.

 

[Agent_Violet]

^^ oh you lucky thing! lol it must be pure heaven to have found someone so similar to you

 

[Vampayah88]

I feel for your violet, only in my case, both my wife and me are hugely anti-social, together. Apparently were perfect for eachother because we both want to be left alone, LOL.

Can i say i just love reading about you and your wife?you really do seem perfect for eachother. Were you the one who fainted after proposing to ur wife? LMAO so funny!

 

[Section_31]

LOL, yea, that was me.

I knew on some level she would say yes, but good god ive never been so nervous in my life, i lost 10 pounds in a week being too nervous to eat untill she got back, and being paranoid id lose the ring, doing it in a public place, ect ect ect.

We both agree were never getting married again!! the ceremony itself was an anxiety wildfire for both of us, LOL.

 

[Section_31]

Also, is it bad that we had a second wedding in world of warcraft?, and that our entire guild attended??

yea...wow....were not nerds, not at all!

 

[Vampayah88]

Awwww thats the cutest and nerdiest thing ever!!