Would any guy date an ugly unattractive girl??
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of_darkness
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thats impossible to say....cause a girl that thinks shes ugly really may not be....and fatness doesnt always mean ugly either....the rest of it is just meh...its so impossible to answer things like that tbh. but for most 'shallow' guys its clearly gonna be a no...lots of people will be like that
aguppylife
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Simple answer, yes. I look around and I see anyone get someone.
But should you be looking for someone if you problems you need to sort out?
Having a relationship isn't as easy as it appears. Look around. Divorce and breakups are the norm, not the exception. It takes alot of compromises and energy to be in the relationship world.
But I understand. Sometimes I want to be close to somebody. But in reality, I have some problems I have to work out before I involve others in my life. :?
But should you be looking for someone if you problems you need to sort out?
Having a relationship isn't as easy as it appears. Look around. Divorce and breakups are the norm, not the exception. It takes alot of compromises and energy to be in the relationship world.
But I understand. Sometimes I want to be close to somebody. But in reality, I have some problems I have to work out before I involve others in my life. :?
Clark_Kent
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Yes some would, most prob not sorry for the honesty. I think its an insult to an intelligent person to say otherwise.
There is good news though. The weight thing is fully within your control you know what you have to do. Get your self a fit and sexy body i dont know if your ugly outside of that two noses or the like? but i know a fit sexy body will compensate for this in most all cases, ive often went for the body over the face, the shyness in women is not allways a bad thing as men like to be in control anyways and are intimidated by foward women (its the truth) shy women come across as very feminine i also find it very attractive.
thats the truth though with most people you wont get the truth. youre in control do what you have to do.
There is good news though. The weight thing is fully within your control you know what you have to do. Get your self a fit and sexy body i dont know if your ugly outside of that two noses or the like? but i know a fit sexy body will compensate for this in most all cases, ive often went for the body over the face, the shyness in women is not allways a bad thing as men like to be in control anyways and are intimidated by foward women (its the truth) shy women come across as very feminine i also find it very attractive.
thats the truth though with most people you wont get the truth. youre in control do what you have to do.
corrinaelizabeth
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clark kent if thats what you go for in a women it shows you are a very shallow person,if thats all men wanted in a women was a 'fit and sexy body'i think there would be millions of single women in this world and all females who havent got a fit and sexy body would be alone which is complete and utter bullshit. its people like you that make women feel bad about themselves.
thats the truth though with most people you wont get the truth
thats the truth though with most people you wont get the truth
aguppylife
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I can see Clark_kent sees the world in fantasy. Corrina is right,
Open up your eyes clarkkent, then you shall see........ :roll:
Moonie
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Unfortunately, men (not all of course) have been warped by television, porno, magazines, advertisements., etc. They see fake body parts, women with eating disroders, women who have the money to get work done, have nothing else to do but work out all day, in the media. Real women do not look like that. I m not saying real women's bodies are not beautiful- the opposite. People have to realize that real women have it harder. They must work, go to school, and keep up with the way they look. I hope we all can appreciate how hard we have to balance these things. As long as one is happy, healthy, and confident then why do they need a sexy, hot bod? If I weren't in school or working, I'd be working out all day too. In fact, a few years ago I took off a semester from college (long story) and that is all I did. I had a lot of time for that and saw results. But now that I am in my last year of college, I find it hard to get in the time to workout. I sometimes dwell over what my body (seems to have) become). But I, too, have trouble accepting that I simply need to focus on school. Looks will go. and when they do, what will I have left?
The one thing that I really never understood is why people get so angry over someone who may be overweight and wear clothes that "they just shouldn't wear." If they have the confidence, why can't they just be? I think my body is pretty decent, but I have zero self-esteem. I think some people would be happy to be in my shoes, but I haven't learned to love myself like that. I wouldn't care what I looked like at all, if I honestly loved and respected myself. Society may still have a problem with me, but if I was happy, then good.
The one thing that I really never understood is why people get so angry over someone who may be overweight and wear clothes that "they just shouldn't wear." If they have the confidence, why can't they just be? I think my body is pretty decent, but I have zero self-esteem. I think some people would be happy to be in my shoes, but I haven't learned to love myself like that. I wouldn't care what I looked like at all, if I honestly loved and respected myself. Society may still have a problem with me, but if I was happy, then good.
What I would say is, try and build your self esteem, if you want to go to the gym and tone up a bit, then sure why not, if it'll help your self confidence then brilliant, but don't do it just cos someone says you should.
Confidence in yourself is far more attractive than big boobs and a small bum! Well, maybe not to a player, but to people looking for a relationship. Some girls can be slim, really pretty, everything the media tells us to be, but if she doesn't have confidence she will not be as appealing to a guy as a more curvier woman who is confident in herself.
It is not just the slim girls who get good boyfriends and it's not only curvy girls who have guy problems. Learn to accept and love yourself before trying to get someone else to.
Naomi x
Confidence in yourself is far more attractive than big boobs and a small bum! Well, maybe not to a player, but to people looking for a relationship. Some girls can be slim, really pretty, everything the media tells us to be, but if she doesn't have confidence she will not be as appealing to a guy as a more curvier woman who is confident in herself.
It is not just the slim girls who get good boyfriends and it's not only curvy girls who have guy problems. Learn to accept and love yourself before trying to get someone else to.
Naomi x
Clark_Kent
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Me shallow! actually no I think sometimes honest opinions are what people need to hear in order to get them to help themselves. You do not know me well enough to make such an assumption. im not angry or anything but to say men are only into fit sexy women is also untrue i agree, if some of such women are ignorent then i dont find them attractive they are a dime a dozen, its a combination of both personality and looks. To say that all people are not into looks at all though is to be dishonest.
I dont deliberatly choose who i find sexually attractive i wish i could, its simply part of our nature. Would i dump a girlfriend if she got fat, no i wouldnt but i may find that her overweight would make her less sexually attratcive to me and i would help her to lose the weight. Is sex a big deal for me? no its not but it may be a big deal for her. If a woman was 30 stone I would probably not be able to have sex with her even if i wanted, does this make me a bad person? would it be it my fault? certainly i would be friends with anybody but sexual relationships is what im guessing the author is reffering to and im trying to point out the honest facts and show the good news that things are within her control. I go to the gym im encouraging her to do so.
Relationships of a sexual nature require that you are to some degree sexually attractive to the opposite member its not fair i know but im not going to stick my head in the sand i go to the gym. Lets hear from the author do you believe that looks in this world are completely unimportant to almost all people on it???
I dont deliberatly choose who i find sexually attractive i wish i could, its simply part of our nature. Would i dump a girlfriend if she got fat, no i wouldnt but i may find that her overweight would make her less sexually attratcive to me and i would help her to lose the weight. Is sex a big deal for me? no its not but it may be a big deal for her. If a woman was 30 stone I would probably not be able to have sex with her even if i wanted, does this make me a bad person? would it be it my fault? certainly i would be friends with anybody but sexual relationships is what im guessing the author is reffering to and im trying to point out the honest facts and show the good news that things are within her control. I go to the gym im encouraging her to do so.
Relationships of a sexual nature require that you are to some degree sexually attractive to the opposite member its not fair i know but im not going to stick my head in the sand i go to the gym. Lets hear from the author do you believe that looks in this world are completely unimportant to almost all people on it???
renegade
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yay said:
If you were talking about yourself, then I am asking you: Would you date an ugly unattractive boy?? Who's fat and has no friends, inconfident, crybaby, and paranoid?
I guess not and you know why ? because you are being very subjective. others see you difrentlly.
The ugly part is so relative that for others it may be perceived as beautifull. How about Barbara Streisand ? The media put a label on her as the uglyest women, but what about the guys who dated her ? I don't think they did that just to be seen with her or for her vocal qualities, well, not all of them to be honest, let's not forget the jerks.
Unattractive is also a very relative term. I for instance had a crush on a girl who was seen by others as unattractive. 8O
Now let's work on the fat part. This girl I had a crush on was fat and was on a diet and was permanently complaining, she was actually on a very severe diet. And generally, just look around you and you will see girls that are fat and have BF. And the beauty within isn't always just an excuse for fat ladies. It's a reality in some cases too, most of the cases.
Boys do go for looks, but this is only at a first glance. And as they get to know the person, looks won't matter that much. And come to think of it, you could improve easily if you eat healthy and do like minimum 30 minutes of sport every day. It's only a matter of months. And it's not how much you eat, it's what you eat and when. Remember, the few ponds are not part of the SA :wink: So I guess this is the most solvable part of the problem.
The no friends part is not mainly a part of problem, cause the boy won't date your friends, it will date you. So you are important for him, not others.
Unconfident ? Well you can cover that up by lying. I mean here acting as you were in total control. Your only barrier is anxiety (yes, i know, it's a hell of a barrier :roll: ). Many girls are unconfident about certain aspects of theirs, but they do a pretty good job to hide it by distorting the reality.
A crybaby is often seen in girls, but most guys like to hold the power, to be protective and shit like that. So this is a good thing as long as it's not too much, as it can become annoying.
I can't say much about the paranoid thing cause I don't know what you're paranoid about. I'll let you handle that.
To sum it all up, the chances exist. Of course they are smaller, to be realistic, but it's all relative. You can work on these aspects to improve them, u know. I'm not saying all this to cheer you up, it's what I think.
And for those who will contradict me, this is my point of view. Reality seen through my eyes. Cause I've seen people comming here as guests attacking others like they know the truth, but they don't know shit about how is SP like. (sorry, personal problem :lol: )
Clark_Kent
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Renegade is right things are within your control and a better life only one decision away 
Jack-B
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Yay,
Simple put:
What appears to the minds of people are different.
So, you may appear to your self as fat. You may appear to some guys as beutiful.
You may appear to your self as unattractive. You may appear to some guys as a hottie!
You may appear to have no friends, when secretly everyone likes you.
You may appear to your self as unconfident. You appear to others as the strong silent type or mysterious and alluring, sultry and seductive.
You appear paranoid because you believe the mind of anxiety every time it arises in your mind. It says "people think your fat, ugly, noone likes you" - dont believe your mind when anxious because it creates an unrealistic view of your self and others. Its completley mistaken and makes you frightened of the world weaving an elaborate fantasy in which you are the only one taking part.
What people see is different. No one sees you the way you do. You probably wouldnt date your self, loads of guys probably would. The top models have remarked their own anxieties about how they look thinking, "no-one would date me".
Jack
Simple put:
What appears to the minds of people are different.
So, you may appear to your self as fat. You may appear to some guys as beutiful.
You may appear to your self as unattractive. You may appear to some guys as a hottie!
You may appear to have no friends, when secretly everyone likes you.
You may appear to your self as unconfident. You appear to others as the strong silent type or mysterious and alluring, sultry and seductive.
You appear paranoid because you believe the mind of anxiety every time it arises in your mind. It says "people think your fat, ugly, noone likes you" - dont believe your mind when anxious because it creates an unrealistic view of your self and others. Its completley mistaken and makes you frightened of the world weaving an elaborate fantasy in which you are the only one taking part.
What people see is different. No one sees you the way you do. You probably wouldnt date your self, loads of guys probably would. The top models have remarked their own anxieties about how they look thinking, "no-one would date me".
Jack
iamantisocial
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of course.
Guys are the more sexually active gender and also the more "desperate" gender. A good majority of them will do anything for sex. (sad to say)
So yes. Guys will date the ugliest, least attractive women...
I've seen the most arrogant, ugly, annoying girls (with ZERO redeeming qualities whatsoever) get dates with fairly decent-looking guys...
Guys are the more sexually active gender and also the more "desperate" gender. A good majority of them will do anything for sex. (sad to say)
So yes. Guys will date the ugliest, least attractive women...
I've seen the most arrogant, ugly, annoying girls (with ZERO redeeming qualities whatsoever) get dates with fairly decent-looking guys...
alot of men like big girls, I know about 50% of the guys I've known at one time or other have had atleast one or two larger GFs and liked it that way, I've been out with more big girls than thin girls, so I could say I prefer it myself but to be honest, it who they are that wins it for me, I usually go for humour ,intelligence and creativity as attractive assets rather than physical looks.
corrinaelizabeth
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FOR GODS SAKE ITS NOT ABOUT LOOKS,DECENT BLOKES WILL GO FOR SOMETHING DEEPER THAN JUST LOOKS AND IM GETTING SICK OF THE INSENSITIVE COMMENTS!!!!
Richey
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Clark_Kent said:
men like to be in control....well in a sense your right...this is the conditioning of the male species, i despise this conditioning and attitude and there is no way i would do that ...my dad has this attitude but its just wrong....a relationship should be based on mutual control in respect to you as an individual, no control but mutual understanding and open discussion...and im not intimidated by girls who are in control of themselves, so not all lads share your sentiments clark.
your kidding right?...this mindset is all wrong, and fairly insulting, your dealt the cards your given, being attracted to whats upstairs is what makes a relationship or friendship..blah blah... im not getting into this, knowing the persons mind is more important then thinking about looks, the sooner people realise this the better, sure you can be attracted to someone in the physical sense...but normally thats a small percentage of appealing qualities