Worst thing somebody has ever said to you.

[mad_mad_woman]

Hey guys,

I've had some pretty terrible things said to me. I've been sworn at, put down etc etc. But the worst would have to be was when someone told me
"You don't know how to communicate."

Oh boy that really hit me hard. I guess because it was directly related to my social phobia. Ive always told myself that I can communicate, but its the social phobia holding me back. But this statement just refuted what I had thought and it really just made me feel like giving up.

 

[Erythrocyte]

The worst I can think of right now?.....
When I was younger some girls in my class were talking about at what age they would get married and have children.
Girl 1 asked me: "How old do you think you will be when you have kids?"
I couldn't answer, because Girl 2 said: "Oh, No one is ever going to want to have kids with her, are you kidding?, no one is ever going to love her".
I am mostly mad at myself, because I believed her.... and kinda still do.. :?

It is also pretty bad when my mom tells me I look like an alien, because my eyebrows aren't dark enough for her liking... she tells me that on a regular basis.. :x

 

[Snowcrash]

It is also pretty bad when my mom tells me I look like an alien, because my eyebrows aren't dark enough for her liking... she tells me that on a regular basis.. :x

So many parents seem to be trying to mold their kids into some ideal that they have in their own head. Are we supposed to be making up for their own failures?

Well whatever, it just seems that so many parents end up basically running down their own kids instead of trying to build them up. At least that is what my parents were like. I have no idea what the worst thing ever said to me was, but I am sure it was from my parents. That is just so wrong.

 

[red_reagel]

The worst I can think of right now?.....
When I was younger some girls in my class were talking about at what age they would get married and have children.
Girl 1 asked me: "How old do you think you will be when you have kids?"
I couldn't answer, because Girl 2 said: "Oh, No one is ever going to want to have kids with her, are you kidding?, no one is ever going to love her".
I am mostly mad at myself, because I believed her.... and kinda still do.. :?

Ouch.., don't listen to that girl. She's probably the type who likes causing trouble for everyone, or the egotystical type :roll:. The worst thing ever said to me? well 2 years ago in 8th grade, our whole class had to sit down and watch a little skit in the choir room. Before I was going to sit down, one of the teachers asked me to move and sit by this boy. He was giving me a disgusted look, and moved away. But then I had to sit next to this other girl who looked like she didn't want to sit by me either. Then the boy said outloud infront of the class "she probably doesn't want to sit by her because she's too ugly."

That really hurt my feelings. I know I wasn't the "hottest" girl in the class, but he doesn't even know me!

That's not the only time either. A lot of people gave me hell about my looks in Jr. High.

"Ew! that girl smells like throw-up" (which was a lie)

"Is she retarded, she has no friends?"

"She's ugly!"

"That girl sounds like a boy!"

"Henrietta, why the heck does your voice sound like that?"



and all the time during assemblies, boys would always scoot away from me like I was diseased.

 

[Thelema]

Every day my mom tells me terrible things :roll: Today she told me my lips are too small :? She then told me my nose was too big :? When I was cutting a piece of wood and was trying to concentrate on cutting a straight line she walked up and thought it was funny that I was "getting in to it" :? This is just today. What will tomorrow bring?...

 

[Richey]

A Random List of Rants directed at me, mainly from family:

"you have no personality"

sister crying at the kitchen table: "what happened to you" ..."your the reason why mum and dad will one day split up"

sister: "your an ugly version of this really good looking guy i used to know at school"

"you are the last person i would ask to make a speach for my 21st"

"your not my son"

"i think you'll give me heart attack"

"why are you so shy? you used to talk all the time"

"so do you have a girlfriend yet? every one else your age in the family has a partner now"

"you better be socialising this weekend"

"if you dont pass university then ill never speak to you again"

"your not normal, all the other kids are out drinking, its what this generation does"

"you should be hunting for women because men hunt"

"people who dont involve themselves actively live a much shorter life span"

"your sister is a complete success why cant you be more like her"

i live with a family who after talking with them for ten minutes you want to stick your head in an oven, i seriously want to escape my current environment because being around people who preach this negativity never say anything positive to me, i need to leave for my own mental well being


(thats just a few of the many prejudice rants i get, i realise its people caring, but i find it funny how others think there is only one way of living to be excepted into society)

 

[cloaked]

in a high school class when i was put on the spot someone said aloud:
"that kid never talks."

some kid's dad who i had never met:
"jesus christ, you're one skinny motherfucker"

all i could do was fake laugh, but it hurt me so badly inside, i felt like crying.



my mom a couple years ago:
"come out of the house and act like normal kids your age."

grandmother who i've seen like 4 times my whole life:
"put your head up, stop looking at the ground. people will think 'now there's someone with a low self esteem.' "

someone who was supposed to be my friend:
"why do you walk so stiff?"



edit:
oh yes, i forgot, my little brother called me a "mouthbreather".

 

[Richey]

I wont go into what my dad used to say and not say to me but one of his lines was

Your just the lodger here...remember that...your just the lodger.

yeh they can say some outlandish filth sometimes 8O
by the way your new avarta is

 

[missquiet]

i dont think it's the worst someone's said to me but a while ago my little sister was like
"am i your best friend because you don't have any?" :|

 

[Nubly]

when i was a teen, my parents would often tell me how ugly i am

 

[Emma]

The worst thing that people have said to me are:

A teacher made fun of the way I talked in front of the whole class and pretended to mimick me

Another teacher said that I shouldn't be in her class because it was for normal people

A friend used to tell me I was ugly and fat and that I would never have a boyfriend because I was a psycho

I've been called a retard

But the absolute worst thing that has ever been said was by my ex-boyfriends parents, they said that I was obviously mental and that I should be locked up in a mental institution and that they key should be thrown away, and that I had obviously escaped from somewhere like that.
And the worst part is that they made that assumption based on one ten second meeting.

My ex-boyfriend told me I was weird and so unattractive that no-one could ever love me, and that I am never to contact him again and if I do he will be pressing charges, because it would be harrassment and he won't tolerate it......this was from a person who once claimed to love me and would do anything for me

Why is it that people will ridicule us for something they know nothing about, what if it were in reverse, would they expect us to be understanding towards them?

 

[red_reagel]

Dont you guys ever say in your mind, "don't they know that whenever they treat us like that or say mean things, that's why we're like this in the first place?"

 

[Tala]

Mine are, when i was in primary school i had a bad lisp, my speech therapist told my parents in front of me that when i was in high school no boys would like me because of it . Plus a hell of a lot of teasing due to my lisp, but i wont go there.

Mum has said she wishes i was more like my sister.

A work mate recently asked if i was a lesbian because i havent had a boyfriend for the whole time i have worked there. That one made me cry for days.

 

[Niles]

It is an unfortunate thing red_reagel but if they had the ability to say that to themselves they wouldn't be saying those nasty hurtful things in the first place. Stupid little people that is all they are, nothing more and they know it which is why they have to push others down below them - so they get to feel 'big'.
Anyway back on topic - my brother told me not once but twice that i was a waste of my dad's cum. Charming! I haven't spoken to him since and i imagine i wont ever again for the rest of my life - i'm done with people like that, finished!

 

[ozkr]

Wow... some of the things you people mention sound so familiar . It's depressing when you think aobut how insensitive some people can be when they're mad and is even worse when they think they're helping . In my family, if I don't appreciate their shitty advices (which are just horrible criticisms in disguise) I end up looking like the bad guy.

Here are some highlights from my brother:


-"I know that what you said made sense in your head at that moment,but it was just completely stupid"
He said that when apologizing to me for overreacting to my complaints regarding me washing dishes... during a visit to his house... after not seeing him in two years.

-"What makes you think mom or dad need to keep you around? You're not good for anything"
It came out of nowhere during a seemingly cool conversation,and I stopped talking to him after that, which just pissed him off.

-"No matter what you do, you'll never be as good as me"

-(while showing me a photo) "See this girl , she's 14 and she's lived like a thousand times more than you"
Sounds even worse when put in context,but that would be too much... I was 14 then,btw. Also,I'm a male ,so I don't know why he said that.

-"You're voice is so annoying. There is just something in it I can't stand"

 

[jayo]

Hi

A common thread running through all of this is how much we value - overvalue! - the opinions of others.

If you think of all these people who have said these things to us think of how much we have said to them which has has the same effect.

Very little I imagine....

Perhaps we should set our own goals and points of progression and work towards those measuring ourselves as we go.

I've accepted SA as a cancer which has affected me from 16 to 34.

Difficulty making friends and meeting partners has been the reality.

But I'm still focused on carving out a contented life in my own time and own way.

Jayo

 

[cloudy]

wow, you guys have had to put up with some really aweful stuff. I guess since my mum didn't know about sp until this year, she has always thought that I was being rude or lazy when I didn't participate in conversation or socialise. She has said things like "you will end up lonely" - though this is mainly because of her misunderstanding. Since we found out about the disorder, she has been very supportive and helpful. I don't think those comments would have helped though. Also, I was bullied throughout high school. But I feel really bad for the earlier posters and the comments you have had to endure...all I can say is that you are NOT ugly or smelly or too skinny or whatever...you were perfectly created the way God wanted you.

 

[Shonen_Yo]

I don't know, I've had a lot of comments. The ones that I remember are:

- "I don't like you!" (from a girl I liked)

- "Look at how that fag/retard walks/talks!"

- "You use to be so cute, what happened to you?"

- "That guy is so fucked up!"

These are just reaction to my general unbearable nervousness. Which is ironic considering that it's reached this point because of it.

 

[Brad38]

Wow this really hit home.
I was 17 and very insecure and then my dad pops back into my life after 15 years, but he couldnt figure out why I was shy. He thought I was a retard and even said to my face once " I didnt say you were handicapped, I just said you look like you are handicapped". I said, "I am a university student. I have friends. No one thinks I`m handicapped". He said "They wont tell you that, but I will because I am your father".Our relationship was never the same and hardly spoke to him again. He rarely answered my phone calls. I finally wrote him off completely. I did manage to fly up to his funeral in 99 simply to close the book on that awful chapter. I think in many ways the day he died was the moment I was reborn. What he said was all untrue. He was a 6th grade dropout and a player with women. He had a narrow view of the world and people in general. But being that insecure 17 yr old looking for that missing significant other, I allowed my emotions to get the best of me. I couldnt see the reality. Being rejected by a parent, especially one that yoou don`t know is the worst possible experience for a kid.
Yes that occasion did have a huge impact in the worsening of my SA.
I now make a good living and I am a college graduate, but it took me years to recover.
Well beyond what my father said, I have to mention what this @sshole colleague has said to me. "women don`t like short guys like you, they like big guys like me" "you can get a woman also, but she will have blemishes, but beautiful women love me". "Women don`t like smart guys like you. they like big guys like me". I finally did something that I had never done before. I came back at him and toold him to "f#ck off".He backed down real quick.
Luckily with my colleague I had some self esteem. When I was 17, I didn`t.

 

[Horatio]

my youth leader at church told me I was an embarrassment and should end my life