Why does no one want me?

[Hero]

I'm so depressed right now I want to scream but I can't.

I'm friendly, fun, I try to see the best in people, I wear deodorant, I want to make people happy, I'm not that bad looking, I smile, I crack a few jokes. No one says I'm negative.
But why does no-one want to be my friend? Some of the evilest people in the universe had buddies to think of dastardly schemes with. Yet I'm very good natured yet no-one wants me in their life? I don't understand!

I get so jealous seeing friends having fun with each other, or seeing families smile and go out together. Why can't I have that? What is wrong with me? I'm human I just want to be loved and not alone all the time. I meet people all the time, but they never interested in spending time with me.

 

[Hero]

Thanks for replying I think I get attached to easily as I have no-one in my life. I guess no one wants a guy with a big heart.

 

[drganon]

You certainly seem like a nicer person than I am. I'm unfriendly, always tend to see the worse in people, and generally only care about myself.

 

[Hero]

I am a nice person, just like everyone else here. I'm sure you're lovely really drganon. Have you ever acted differently?

I just can't connect at all with anyone, they never seem to relate to my way of thinking. I try to make conversation with everyone I meet, but they are never interested in what I have to say as compared to the enthusiasm they give to others

 

[ScaredToBreathe]

im sure plently of people with social anxiety can relate to u! its tough to put up with, but u have to stay strong and try to think optimistically.
lots of people would probly love to be friends with you, but maybe they just dont know you so well. i would be your friend! ::

 

[IGotSeoul]

It helps to separate what is in your mind and what is externally presented.

You seem like a really good guy to me.

 

[Hero]

It helps to separate what is in your mind and what is externally presented.

I wish there was a way of separating the two. In my mind is a lot of confusion, self-doubt, inferiority. What I try to project is confidence, friendliness and awesomeness. I do imagine myself as cool and charasmatic, but I think my fear is so part of me that it's hard to break free. Their is too much of a conflict going on in my head

I know that feeling!

But I guess the key is to try and engage them in your interests by being enthusiastic about them yourself, are you trying that? From what you've written, it sounds to me as though maybe you hold back a bit -

I try to be enthusiastic, but I feel like people stare at me weirdly as if I'm mad if I act passionate about something. This makes me feel really self conscious and too try-hard. I shall keep trying though

 

[Hero]

Thanks Twiggle. You don't live in Hampshire do you? The beaches are nice, and the waves are so relaxing to watch

I will take your advice and give this natural enthusiasm thing a try. All these messages have renewed my hope